JDeezy Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 So there's a co-worker of mine that I've had feelings for for awhile now. About a month ago I grew a pair and asked her out on a date, and she replied "Maybe. I just got out of a long relationship and I'm not looking to date right now." I'm the kind of person that doesn't like putting himself in a vulnerable position, so at that point I looked for a quick end to the conversatin, so I said "I understand. Just let me know if you ever want to do something." We've hung out a few times outside of work, so we've got a friendship established. I've gotten some feelings and signals that she's got a thing for me too, but now I'm not certain. I've tried to suppress my feelings for her and ignore them, but working with her makes that impossible(the fact of seeing her all the time). She's really the kind of girl that hits every quality that I look for in a girl, and she's the kind of girl I would like to have a relationship with. At this stage in the game, is there anything I should/can do? The way I ended the conversation pretty much put the ball in her court, and with my distaste for exposing myself like I did emotionally, I'm very reluctant to bring up the topic again. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, I feel like Jim from the TV show The Office!
Lauriebell82 Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 she told u flat out she just got out of a relationship and isnt looking for anything right now, she might just be saying that to let u down easy, it might be the truth. (most likely the latter though). so respect her wishes. she obviously finds u an interesting person if she's hanging with u. all u can do is be freinds with her at this point. DO NOT push her into anything. dont ask her out again, tell her about ur feelings, ect. she'll pull away from u and probably never consider going out with u. my advice is keep talking to her and hanging out with her as friends. u did put the ball in her court, when she's ready she'll let u know. dont make it anything other than friendship or u will regret it and blow any chance of going out with her in the future. also, romance in the workplace is not always the best idea. if u guys did go out and it didnt work out, people gossip, it would be ackward to have to work with her and be nice when things ended, ect. speaking from experience, the situation can get very messy and uncomfortable. so maybe give her the time she needs, and def. keep ur options open in case the girl never comes around. dont set ur sights just on her, she told u she didnt want anything so waiting around for her to be ready will be hard if ur looking to date. hope i helped u!
brokenhart2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 You should just keep being her friend and co worker at this point. If you hang out socially outside of work, its ok to keep doing so as her friend; now that she knows you have interest towards her, she might start to see you that way also, or she might not. Good luck.
WaterPolo Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Don't completely give up on her... especially if she's really someone that you're interested in and meets your expectations. There's ways to let her know you still like her, without having to put yourself completely on the line. Joke with her, make her laugh. Don't feel the need to spill your guts to her. Have a good time. She might come around.
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