WaterPolo Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Recently, I've been interested in having a more long-term relationship with a girl. I find however that I'm turned off immediately by a lot of the girls that physically, I'd love to date, because in the past many of them have turned out to be shallow or bitchy. Because of this, sometimes when I first meet a pretty girl I think I can come across as being uninterested, aloof or maybe even snobby. I give off the impression that "I don't need to try and impress them." It's really just a protective measure I take to save face, but I think it's impairing my ability to meet nice girls, and potentially date them. Does anyone have any advice?
Lauriebell82 Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 well all i can say is that of course not all pretty girls are shallow and bitchy. having said that, i think when u see a girl u are attracted to dont focus so much on "wow is she a bitchy, shallow one?" focus more on who they are, not all girls act like that so maybe give them the benefit of the doubt. dating is hard, no doubt, or none of us would be on loveshack! i think u need to relax and try just talking to the girl, maybe even getting her phone number and taking her out even. this will tell u whether or not she is someone u'd be interested in getting to know and/or having a relationship with. unfortunately,u have to date a whole lot of wrong ones, to find the right one. my advice is to just relax, and give the girl who u are interested in the benefit of the doubt..after all she might surprise u!
Author WaterPolo Posted February 17, 2007 Author Posted February 17, 2007 Thanks Lauribell. I like your advice... Let's see what happens.
funkify Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Ahh Waterpolo, where are the guys like you? I'd really like to know...cos I never meet them
Mister Foreskin Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 First of all, you need to get yourself out of your loser train of thought. "There's not a girl who's right for me, there's many girls who are right for me." That just about sums it all up. Think like this and you'll be cool.
che_jesse Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 This is not really dating related but its people related, it might help you I don't know: A really good friend of mine is really into the out doors, hes also in all my classes because we are in the same place in our programs, as a result we would spend a whole lot of time together either studying, working on projects, or doing couples stuff with my guy and whatever girl my friend is with at the time. We chill at his house 90% of the time, just because mine is crowded and his is more friendly to having lots of people over. The problem came with his other friends, they are all ALL dirty, smell, hippies. I hated being around them, they smell bad, they are all majoring in journalism so that they can pursue a carrier in "activism" or "changing the world", they all feel the need to tell me I'm evil for owning a Tundra, militant pro-abortion, anti-meat, anti-government jackasses. Arguing with those types of people is only fun for an hour, after that it gets old and boring. They come around a LOT. So, I was faced with a dilemma, the way I saw it had several options: 1) Shank the lot of them and bury the bodies in the fire pit they dug in the back yard 2) Keep going the way we were going with screaming arguments bordering on violence 3) Find some way to get along with these people 4) Never speak to my friend again, that would get them out of my life Well I'm not really the shankin' type and I just hated both the thought of giving up my friend and the thought of keeping things as they are so I set about finding a way to get along with them. Talking did not work , we would just scream and yell. I decided to get to know their "kind" of people without actually dealing with these *******s, and to do it in a setting where I have more to do then argue with them. I'm not the type to go to a PETA rally so I joined the backpacking club on campus, it was full of them. It was slow going but 3 months of spending lots and lots of time with them doing something we both like got me over instantly seeing red whenever I'm around them, eventually I became friends with a couple of dirty-hippy type people from the club. I think more then anything being immersed in their (I don't know what word to use here, its not "culture" or "society") sort of dulled how much they affect me. With time I managed to be able to sort of get along with the people that the problem was first with. Eventually when I calmed down they calmed down and we have sort a built a truce. So I guess my advice to you is this: surround yourself with whom you view as shallow and bitchy or think would be shallow and bitchy. It will help you get whatever you think when you think about them out of your system. And don't just do it drunk at parties, join a club or something that they congregate to.
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