forbidden fruit Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Okay so here is how it went I have been Nc for exactly a week and I had altercation with mm's wife and of course he is hiding . I couldn't take it anymore I called him and said what a shi***storm you have caused by not opening your mouth and taking a stand either way. So we talked for two hours and I unleashed every last bit of what I wanted to say for an entire year. He was at irst shocked, but then was so relieved I was being so honest. He said you are the only one who will tell me like it is. He then went on to say we cannot sleep together not because he does not want to, but because the effect it is having on the kids.He talked alot about guilt. He wants to be my friend and hang out. I went on to say I can't be friends with you because you don't know how to be friend. He said we will probably be together when we are older and he needs time to figure things out. I simply said I am not interested and you will never deserve me. I said i hope you work it out with your W because i am working on my marriage. There was alot more said by me so he knows i know all his games and might be able to fool W but not me. So is that worth it to break Nc to get the last word- I don't know?
bonehead Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 In the long run no it wont be worth it. You have fed the addiction just a little. You know have two choices. You can feed the addiction just enough to keep it from becoming an issue, which most addicts will tell you will require more and more feeding until you are right back to the same level, or you can go through all that withdraw all over again. You need to make a choice and make it NOW. You stick to NC or you play this game for a long time.
Author forbidden fruit Posted February 16, 2007 Author Posted February 16, 2007 Look at me I am losing it because of my NC with him it is so hard to be NC with his kids and wife. They think I am nuts because they have done nothing to me and all of sudden i am not speaking to them. He knows if i let them in he is as good as in. What am I doing?
bonehead Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Look at me I am losing it because of my NC with him it is so hard to be NC with his kids and wife. They think I am nuts because they have done nothing to me and all of sudden i am not speaking to them. He knows if i let them in he is as good as in. What am I doing? Then tell them why. Pure and simple. You have nothing to lose by telling them. Tell them as much as you told your husband.
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