mehim Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 I don't know how to convince him otherwise. I know why he wants to do it, he thinks that it would improve his life. I don't belive that he really needs to do this to live better its just short term (living better that is). I'm getting really nervous about this, he is taking it seriously, and I don't want him to leave. Here is the big part of the whole story. He is Lebanese and I'm from Iraq. By him joining the army is big problem. He thinks that he could pick and choose where he can go and not go!! Does anyone know what I should try to do with him, to convince him not to do it??
che_jesse Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 If I understand you are against it because you dont want him to end up shooting at your former countrymen? I really have no advice to give you there other then vote for Hilary, shell get our troops out. But I'm sure your guy knows your country of origin and it has not swayed his decision. I know how you feel, I have an ex finance that went into the marines I really did not want him to go, we ended up breaking up because marines have groupies that follow them around and ****ed several of them. ... That story didn't help.... um. I think you need to accept that its his decision to make and your really not going to sway him away from it if its what he really wants but you could always try by showing him pictures every day of some wounded soldiers, maybe it will work after several months of it. Of course there is always the risk that he will come to resent you because you kept him from something he really wants.
wezol Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 I know what you are going through, but it would be best to support him in his decision. I enlisted in last March, and left for training in July. I was gone for 5 months and it was the hardest thing to be away from my fiancee, but there was no talking me out of it. The best thing to do is to give him your support and your love. He is not joining to shot up your fellow countrymen. He wants to make himself a better man and he cant be faulted for that. It really does mature you, and changes your views on life. You REALLY come back with a greater appreciation for the smaller things in life, and a greater appreciation for the ones you love back home. There is nothing worse than the ones you love not supporting you in something like this. Give him your love and support, don't fight him on this. It will all be worth it when he comes home. Best of luck.
Author mehim Posted February 16, 2007 Author Posted February 16, 2007 thank you for your support, I just hope that it wroks out good for him. I guess when he decides to go, I'm just going to have to accept it.
Topper Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 What are your biggest fears? Him being gone fora long time? That he won't be around you? Are your worried for him? Worried he will end up in a war zone? You have a right to be afraid. You care for this man and seeing anyone go of war isn't easy. it might be harder on those that stay at home. Let him know your fears But also tell him you do support him. if he speaks arabic who knows maybe he can defuse a situation that could lead to bloodshed. Often miscommunication is what leads to violence. I wish the both of you good luck. You will also have something to look forward to when he gets out of boot Camp and comes home on leave he will have a rock hard body. that will give you something nice to hold on to.
che_jesse Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Also, if he speaks arabic and has ok test scores he will most likely end up as either a translator or in intel, intel is the less bloody of the two, its where my ex went he had a great time, never fired a gun the whole time. Depends on what they need and on what his scores are though.
Author mehim Posted February 21, 2007 Author Posted February 21, 2007 we'll thats what he says he wants to do, transelate. I personally don't think he could do that yet, not enough english, which means he still has to finish some schooling. What I'm afraid of is about him, when he would come back from all of this he will be a different person in a way or another. I don't what him to change, I don't want him to get hurt. I do realize about the physical part when he would come back nice and buff, but still that to me is not that big of a deal, comparing to the other issues that would develop from him going.
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