glitzy55 Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 So I spoke to this guy 2x on the phone off of an online dating site. He asked for my number rather quickly which I guess in a way is a lil better considering there are the guys who seem to want only an aol buddy and just chat online and not meet. So it took a while for him to get in touch with me. I noticed he would leave messeges and then when I would call him back he would never pick up. He calles on a sat at 11a.m. which I found odd he was calling so early considering we hadnt spoken before and he told me oh im on my lunch hr if u can give me a call back before 12..so I called but hrs later and again no pick up. So finally we spoke that night and he was in his car coming back from work. So then all this week he'll call and when I call back..now mind u it's 10 pm or so in the evening he won't pick up. Is he just not picking up bc I didnt pick up lol. So he texts me saying since we can never seem to get ahold of one another we should meet. But we spoke like what once. So i told him well when I return your calls u dont pick up. So he responds that is only bc hes at work and not to take it personal and he will call me tonite..he gave me a specific time. He's not a doctor he was defentually NOT working when I've returned his calls at night. If that was the case then why was he calling me from work in the first place. Is it possible hes married or has a gf that's why he doesnt pick up when I call him back.
Topper Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 You already Know it's possible. On the other hand people do lead busy lives these days.
Author glitzy55 Posted February 16, 2007 Author Posted February 16, 2007 You already Know it's possible. On the other hand people do lead busy lives these days. defenitally I know I do..but why lie and say all those times I called and u didnt answer was bc u were at work. If that is true then if u were able to call be from work then why wouldnt pick up the phone at work same thing
konfuzd Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Trust your gut. If you feel something is off, don't meet with him. Tell him you need more time, to protect your own safety. Anyone who is truly interested will respect your boundaries and not push you to do something you are uncomfortable with.
Topper Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Why all the intrigue? He may in fact be telling you part of a truth. i won't take personal calls at work most of the time I do monitor my calls. Sometimes it is because i am with a client and or in the middle of something. So he calls you back when he can. Everybody does that. He may also be involved and well hasa hard time getting to a place he can't get caught. What you need to do is tell him he is setting off some alarms with you. Listen to what he has to say. If his story sounds logical then he might be on the up and up.
norajane Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 What is his work? Some people do work evenings, you know.
Author glitzy55 Posted February 16, 2007 Author Posted February 16, 2007 What is his work? Some people do work evenings, you know. He's a teacher. We just spoke and I actually think it's legit what he told me..we'll see.
ImWithHim Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Well, here's my perspective on phones in general. I would be a little concerned (seeing as how you really don't know him), but not too concerned due to the reasons listed. If it had a wife, it's highly unlikely he'd give you his home number (what if she picked up?) I have an extremely busy schedule. The times I'm available, like now (midnight where I live), most people I know aren't available. They're sleeping. Or working in some cases (overnight shifts). If I call someone in a gap between day to day activities, I may not have long to talk and if it's not important, it's not a big deal if I don't get ahold of them. But if they try to call back a couple hours later and I'm working or otherwise busy, chances are good that I won't pick up the phone. Concerning the lunch break..... (11am on a Saturday is not "early" either by most of society's standards, so I doubt he was trying to be rude in calling "early")....it seems a little odd to me that he specifically told you he was on a lunch break at work and only had an hour to chat. If you called him back in time, great, if not you'll chat later. Then you admit you called back HOURS later when you knew he was working, and yet you're annoyed that he didn't pick up. He was *working.* He can't just answer the phone in the middle of class. Now - as far as answering the phone at home. I RARELY do this. People that I like to talk to have my cell phone and people that I don't like all that much...don't. I have caller ID on the cell, and if I can (and want) to talk, I will pick up. If the home phone rings, they can leave a message. Most people that know me know if they start talking, and I'm home, I will pick up. I heavily screen my calls. Maybe he does too.
unknown_soldier Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 hmm.. maybe the dude is just nervous?? People go through dry spells and are rusty with their converstation skills, I'm speaking for myself but sometimes I need to be in the right mood to talk, especially if it's been a while. Sometimes I'd not pick up and listen to the vmail. Or he's just shopping around and has other girls he's *working on* at the moment. Who knows.
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