sb129 Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 Not really sure if this is the appropriate place to post but here goes. I found out about an hour ago that my ex is seeing someone else. We broke up last year, and I haven't looked back- he made my life absolutely miserable and when we split he behaved like an utter psycho, emailing my family and friends terrible things about me. To this day I have maintained NC. I met an amazing guy a few months after we split, and I am happier than I have ever been with him, he is just wonderful. So why do I feel a little wierd that ex has someone else? Is it disloyal to my new guy? I am not jealous at all, she can have him and good luck to her the poor woman. He wanted to marry me, and I walked away knowing that if I married him it would be the biggest mistake of my life. Maybe I just wanted him to suffer longer? Or is it just because I have only just found out, and am getting used to the idea?
Author sb129 Posted February 15, 2007 Author Posted February 15, 2007 Ok, I have thought about it. I think I was bothered more about the fact that his small son (who I got close to and leaving him was the worst part) will have another stepmom. But thats life I guess. I am glad ex has moved on and has someone else. He hasn't contacted me for ages, and that is good, because that is what I want. I think my ego was a little wounded that ex isn't obsessing over me anymore. But at the end of the day, I have a great new BF, and life goes on.
Star Gazer Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 I think my ego was a little wounded that ex isn't obsessing over me anymore. But at the end of the day, I have a great new BF, and life goes on. I think that's all it is - ego. IMO it's a perfectly natural reaction to learning an ex is dating again, regardless of the circumstances, and it isn't disloyal at all.
Author sb129 Posted February 15, 2007 Author Posted February 15, 2007 I think that's all it is - ego. IMO it's a perfectly natural reaction to learning an ex is dating again, regardless of the circumstances, and it's disloyal at all. You mean not disloyal right? Thanks SG.
Star Gazer Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 You mean not disloyal right? Thanks SG. Yeah, I caught my mistake and edited it before you posted. NOT disloyal.
ratingsguy Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 I think that's all it is - ego. IMO it's a perfectly natural reaction to learning an ex is dating again, regardless of the circumstances, and it isn't disloyal at all. I agree. It's something new for you, and even though you're obviously over him, it is difficult to picture an ex with someone else. It's nothing to worry about.
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