brightsky000 Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 We first just started as friends who always hung out doing silly stuff like getting ice cream. And then we got to know each other better because we spent hours talking. About two months later we decided we had crushes on each other, but because we are both very shy, it took another month to actually kiss. It was so fantatastic when it finally happened. Since then things have been progressing, hang out more, snuggling, kissing, etc. But no sex. I've stayed over quite a few nights as has he. THis has been going on for about three months. We both have major problems communicating because we are shy. He doesn't like to make moves all the time and neither do I. So things build up until we FINALLY have to talk about it. But nothing ever gets solved. He says he's very affectionate. I'm not really affectionate because I've never been in a relationship before but I'm trying REALLY hard. He just doesn't understand how much of a milestone it was to admit that i like him! Let alone make physcial contact. (Its easier for me if I don't like the person.) So I don't know what is going on? He sends a lot of mixed signals. Says he wants to move in together, that I'm his best friend, that he can see us way down the road, he's attracted to me, etc. But he also has a best friend who is a girl that he spends lots of time with and KNOWS that she likes him. He also lets her sleep with him in his bed when she needs to crash at his place. I approached him about it and he said that she just does it and he doesn't have the heart to say "no, sleep on the couch." I half way believe this because he has a really hard time hurting peoples feelings. He has lots of friends that are girls and sometimes I get a little nervous that I'm getting played. Yes, I realize I am very slow to be affectionate. BUt its because of his mixed signals. And I don't know whats going on and that is holding me back because I have so much emotional investment in him and I don't want to get hurt really really bad. Please help. What do I do? What is going on?
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