Guest Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 Hi, A man in a professional position helped me for a while, when we got to know each other a bit more we had good chats and laughs. I decided I didn't need his help anymore, upon leaving he gave me a hug (A lengthy clingy hug) I realized at this point that he felt more emotionally. Sure enough he gave me more help and another hug after signing him off when he wasn't suppose to. I contacted him one day and complete the opposite, he was cold - talked down to me - Then he refused to help me. He has told his boss I misconstrue what he does and says and he doesn't want to be near me again. I've been told to cease contacting him. He has turned quite horrid. I'm like wtf? This man was a kind man...Nothing happened to make him be this way. I feel I lost a friend and struggling to understand. Any suggestions as to what it might be?
JackJack Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Hi, A man in a professional position helped me for a while, when we got to know each other a bit more we had good chats and laughs. I decided I didn't need his help anymore, upon leaving he gave me a hug (A lengthy clingy hug) I realized at this point that he felt more emotionally. Sure enough he gave me more help and another hug after signing him off when he wasn't suppose to. I contacted him one day and complete the opposite, he was cold - talked down to me - Then he refused to help me. He has told his boss I misconstrue what he does and says and he doesn't want to be near me again. I've been told to cease contacting him. He has turned quite horrid. I'm like wtf? This man was a kind man...Nothing happened to make him be this way. I feel I lost a friend and struggling to understand. Any suggestions as to what it might be? Is he married or in a relationship? Maybe he realized he might of had some feelings for you that went a little deeper than he thought and, took a step back to keep things more on a professional level?
Guest Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Is he married or in a relationship? Maybe he realized he might of had some feelings for you that went a little deeper than he thought and, took a step back to keep things more on a professional level? He never mentioned his personal life to other women degree, although I do know now he's married. He was very eye contact, liked to meet up with me, pleased to hear from me and contacted me...I was content just to keep it as it is though, I didn't want or show anything to make him hostile. The first hug I wasn't keen on, but the second I did give back..having said that, he still met up a few times after and was fine, so it couldn't be I scared him off with showing a hug back. It wasn't an every week meeting, it was now and again, it was friendly. I know now he's married so I can't go there but I just feel confused as to what went wrong with him. He his extremely hostile and won't even look at me, I'm lost with this one.
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