BeenAround_N_Back Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 I have read many stories on here that the OW sometimes stalk the W after the A is over. In my case, the OW filed a false harrassment compliant against my H at work after she unsuccessfully tried to break up our M. And after that did not work to get rid of my H at work, she changed her tune and told my H that her H and me forced her to file the compliant while still coming onto him.... just wondering if there are other delusional people out there like this?? I would like to think that we are all logical in some way....??
PoshPrincess Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 I can't speak for others of course, but in my opinion I can't see why someone would bother seeking revenge, especially on the W, although I can see what drives them to WANT to do it. As for the MM, yeah, I guess the ones who have lied by pretending they weren't married deserve to be made to pay and I understand why the OW would want to do it but, what's the point? What would you achieve? I think in those sitchs you only really end up hurting and making a fool of yourself. Everyone's sitch is different but for me personally I didn't feel I had any reason to get revenge on ANYONE. I knew exMM was married when we got together so would totally have expected his W to come after me at some point (luckily for me she had more pride I suppose!). He didn't lie to me in that way and I am still sure that he believed it himself when he said he loved me and wanted to leave to be with me. At the end of the day, he couldn't do it, simple as. How can I want revenge on someone who chose to be with their kids rather than me? He was never mine to begin with and I knew the score from the start. At the end of the day, I got what I deserved!
frannie Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 PoshPrincess, that's more or less what I was going to say. Revenge..? On the wife..? For what exactly?
whichwayisup Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 Sometimes people do stupid things without thinking when pushed past their emotional limit. Just look at the news on TV, all the crazy stuff that happens. It's all driven by raw emotion.
Jinxx Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 Nothing. There is no reason why I would want to seek revenge on MM's wife.
forbidden fruit Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 I had the perfect opprotunity yesterday to seek revenge, but when I realized that i would be stooping to my mm level I did not take it. The W came up to me and said she is tired of all the fighting between mm and I . she does not know about affair nor does she know about all the lies he has told me. She said I am tired of all the drama and i felt like saying you have no idea drama. I could tell you stories upon stories of what your husband has said behind your back that would make your head spin and you definately would kick him to the curb. So I took the higher road and did not seek revenge. So bite your tongue.
whichwayisup Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 She isn't stupid FF. Eventually she is going to figure it out.....Put two and two together, like why are they fighting??????? Neighbours who are friends and have their kids play together aren't supposed to fight.........Just sayin that she could be putting two and two together....
Guest Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 There is a nickname for OW like that. "Bunny boilers" from the movie Fatal Attraction. All it usually ends up doing is bringing the H and W closer together because now they have a common enemy.
outofdarkness Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 I had the perfect opprotunity yesterday to seek revenge, but when I realized that i would be stooping to my mm level I did not take it. The W came up to me and said she is tired of all the fighting between mm and I . she does not know about affair nor does she know about all the lies he has told me. She said I am tired of all the drama and i felt like saying you have no idea drama. I could tell you stories upon stories of what your husband has said behind your back that would make your head spin and you definately would kick him to the curb. So I took the higher road and did not seek revenge. So bite your tongue. does that make u feel good to have information that would embarrass, humiliate and belittle her? I can't see why any person would want to do this to anther. I have said before that the second worst part of learning of my H's A's, was finding out how much personal infomation he had told the OW's...Not only about me but our kids, my Mother, etc...Do I blame him?, of course I do, and I blame the OW too, but I could have had a much easier time moving on if someone had not blabbed all of the details of our personal lives all over the place...It's horrible to even know someone else besides your family knows such personal things..
pricillia Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 PoshPrincess, that's more or less what I was going to say. Revenge..? On the wife..? For what exactly? yeah that makes no sense... unless the person in just taking it out on the wife because she is so pissed at MM... but still that makes no sense whatsoever because it is a waste of time and effort. Just let it go and move on
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