dahling Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 Absolutely the worst valentines day ever. This is the same guy i wrote about way back then when I first started loveshack. Its long... i guess i'll just start at the beginning. So this whole thing's like my fault. I f-ed up. I cheated on him. I asked for a break. We've been dating for 8 months when I decided to take a break. During that, I told him that i cheated on him... for the third time. I was completely incoherent when i did it and barely even remember that night. But the point is, I did it. He got mad, but a little over a week ago I went over to his place trying to fix things between us. We slept together and after that he said he had a question for me. He asked why we just did that. I had no clue and kept asking what he meant by that. He said that I would find out about a week from now. Anyway, he told me that he still loved me, but he's not sure what he's going to do and that he would call. So for the past week up until now I've been waiting for him to call, to take me back. Well I find out today from a reliable friend that he purposely led me on to thinking we were fine so he could sleep with me for the last time before he kicked my ass to the curb. He was telling everyone that "I f-cked her once. I f-cked her twice. I f-cked her three times. And then I made her walk home." (it was only twice and I got a ride from a friend) yeah... so that's why he asked me that question. Anyway, I was just... crushed. Felt like a damn idiot for falling for that. I even still had hope after he didnt call for over a week. Had no idea at all he was going to pull this on me. I cried when i found out. Cried in class. Cried when I got home. Cried until I finally fell asleep. It was just so manipulative and evil of him...and part of me is slightly impressed. I deserved it though, no matter what my friends say, I did this to myself. I really wish I could just let him know that I didn't mean to hurt him and that I didnt mean to screw him over like everyone else in his life. Im sorry. This was my first love, and my first serious heartbreak. And omg it hurts so badd. Especially because it was my fault and I found out on the worst possible day of the year. I still love him I just dont know what to do anymore
shockandawed Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 Hey Dahling, Sorry to hear you are hurting. It's good that you realize you screwed up. It is apparent that he is hurt greatly by this and is somewhat bitter. Can't say I blame him, been in his shoes before. Truthfully, once trust is broken, you can never really repair it most of the time. His love has turned to anger and resentment of you. Sorry, but it has. It sounds like you have learned greatly from this. Try to move on, and look at this as a learning experience. I bet if you do, you will eventually find someone and know how to make a relationship work. You have learned that every action has a reaction or consequence. Always remember that. Best of luck to you.
Guest Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 There is something that most men have in common and that is pride. You cheated on him and had the guts to throw it at his face. Doesn't matter if you were sober drunk whatever, you did it. Then you went to sleep with HIM again... I m speechless. I'm sorry for being harsh with you but if your bf and I think the same way, I can tell you that I don't want you around me no matter how much you love me. I did the exact same thing your bf did to you. My ex cried me rivers to just forget about everything and start all over. Na'aaaa, not with me sweet heart you can walk with your tail between your legs. 5 months later she got the point and stopped contacting me. Men have sex as a weakness but I can tell you that ego and pride rise above all... at least for most macho men.
McFadden Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 It sounds like his ego was damaged by the fact that he was cheated on/taken a break from, so he wanted to get the last word so to speak. And that he probably did this to brag and make himself look in control. It was mean but you obviously really hurt him, I'de say the two of you are even.
loveratud Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 It sounds like his ego was damaged by the fact that he was cheated on/taken a break from, so he wanted to get the last word so to speak. And that he probably did this to brag and make himself look in control. It was mean but you obviously really hurt him, I'de say the two of you are even. I'd agree. I don't know that being even will ever allow things to be right though. What a messed up situation you created.
Author dahling Posted February 16, 2007 Author Posted February 16, 2007 Quote: Originally Posted by McFadden It sounds like his ego was damaged by the fact that he was cheated on/taken a break from, so he wanted to get the last word so to speak. And that he probably did this to brag and make himself look in control. It was mean but you obviously really hurt him, I'de say the two of you are even. I'd agree. I don't know that being even will ever allow things to be right though. What a messed up situation you created. I agree too. It is pretty messed up and it just keeps getting worse. He called that night too, and I dont even know whats going on anymore. Im just exhausted, emotionally. But thanks. This place always helps me look at things from a different view point, and sort my thoughts out which helps, a lot
McFadden Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Now that he's declared war I think the only thing to do is find a larger and more damaging prank to play on him.
Author dahling Posted February 16, 2007 Author Posted February 16, 2007 Now that he's declared war I think the only thing to do is find a larger and more damaging prank to play on him. lol oh yeah? like what
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