john-1968 Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 Hi guy´s, my name is John, and i am a victim of a walk away wife. Been split up now for almost six month´s,tried everyway to talk to her,even tried to get her to go to mariage counseling with me, yadda yadda, got those word´s that we all like to hear,"i love you,but i´m not in love with you." She wouldn´t go cause she knew what she was doing. OK. Been here on LS since august, lurking,learning and puting in to practice what i learned from you all. I know most of you all, but never posted cause i was too busy reading, and learning. I would like to thank you ALL for your wisdom, and insight that got me to the point of not caring about my ex. Screw her. Give me no respect, you aint getting any back. Gonna live a new life without you,i have my DIGNITY back,have fun in your new life,i´m gonna have fun too. I´m not mad at her anymore, just wish her all the best in her decision, and hope everything goés as she planned. So, to the fairtale, Got up this morning,was raining, couldn´t work.(I am a painter and decorator and this contract was outside.) So i thought, today is valentine´s day, what am i going to do?????? I went to the flower shop, bought 17 red rose´s, and drove all around the city visiting freind´s who listened to me crying, and alway´s had time for me through my break-up, and gave them a rose to say thank you that you where there for me, thank you for listening, thank you for your compassion. It made me feel good to do something for other´s for a change, and not just for myself, to see the look´s on their face´s was enough to make me happy for a life time. 2 of my friend´s wive´s said i didnt get anything from my hubby cause, "we dont need to support the flower shop´s." I dont care what it cost me, i made a lot of people´s day today, and that for me was priceless. Screw me, how are you all doing? that was my attitude today, and it made me feel so GOOD. This is something i never thought about doing before, but i´m glad i did. There´s more to life than love, there´s freindship. Nothing can be better than a good freind. Today, instead of the usuall 1 valentine, i had 17!!!! Today is a good day, tommorrow will be even better, i´m sure. Chin up people, life just get´s better even when we think it can´t. You have your self, believe in you, you are the best thing you ever met. YOU are unique, you are the best! Say that in the mirror every morning,won´t take long before you say "i already know that". Thank you all, i love you all and wish you all the best for the future. It´s not all dark,you WILL see the light. Dont hold ya breath, but maybe i´ll post again. 42 day´s nc and counting........... take care all..... have a great FUTURE............... JOHN
polywog Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 Wow, what a great post! Sounds like you're doing great, very inspiring!
Pink Amulet Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 That was a trully beautiful thing to read. Good luck to you John.
guin_girl Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 What a beautiful heartfelt gesture... kudos
Author john-1968 Posted February 15, 2007 Author Posted February 15, 2007 Just wanted to show you all that everyone has a heart, somtime´s you have to look deep in yourself. John
magichands Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 Screw me, how are you all doing? that was my attitude today, and it made me feel so GOOD. Wonderful job!! That's a great story. And to think that I thought you might have been the bleach boy!? I vote for this as Valentine of the year.
Author john-1968 Posted February 15, 2007 Author Posted February 15, 2007 Thank´s guy´s, i wasnt´looking for compliment´s,but i must admit that it sure feel´s good to make someone happy. magic: don´t know why, but i love your sarcastic coment´s you alway´s make me laugh, even when i´m down. thank´s. Sorry, don´t do bleach, i´m more of a vodka man. lol Pick yourself´s up people, cupid´s gone for another year,time to take care of yourself´s now. You can do it, i did, even when i thought life was just being a biach, it gets better with time. Was using nc as a mean´s to get her back,now i realise i have a better life without her. 43 day´s in and still going strong. Screw her, i´ve learned to fall in love again, with MYSELF!!! What a great feeling. Hope you all have a great day. all the best, John
lovelorcet Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 Was using nc as a mean´s to get her back,now i realise i have a better life without her. 43 day´s in and still going strong. Screw her, i´ve learned to fall in love again, with MYSELF!!! What a great feeling. Hope you all have a great day. all the best, John That is when you know NC is really starting to work. Maybe the weather will clear up soon and you can take a nice walk though the Wilhelma ;-)
Author john-1968 Posted February 15, 2007 Author Posted February 15, 2007 lovelorcet, Nc is a great thing, i only wish that other people on this site would implement it,cause it work´s wonder´s. "it´s broken because it´s broke", time to move on. Thank´s for the tip but zoo´s are not my thing. I belive animal´s should be in the wild where they belong,not in captivity,sort of like us here!!! Have a great day,(where are ya?) John
dropdeadlegs Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 Wow. I am so impressed. You took a day that so many have been dreading and turned it into something truly beautiful. I have a "valentine" that's all mine and I got my mushy and useful gifts today, but I think one red rose from a grateful and appreciative friend would have actually meant more to me than gifts from the man that I already know loves me deeply. It's the little surprising gestures that mean more in life than a gift on a nationally recognized gift giving day. I'm so glad you shared that with us. V Day doesn't have the importance to me that it does for some, but if I find myself without a SO on V Day in the future I will take a page from the book of john-1968 in the future. Maybe I will even do it when I DO have a SO.
lovelorcet Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 lovelorcet, Nc is a great thing, i only wish that other people on this site would implement it,cause it work´s wonder´s. "it´s broken because it´s broke", time to move on. Thank´s for the tip but zoo´s are not my thing. I belive animal´s should be in the wild where they belong,not in captivity,sort of like us here!!! Have a great day,(where are ya?) John Oh its not just a Zoo of course... I thought of all the flowers there in the spring after thinking of you running around with all those flowers. and as for where I am... Not that far away
Author john-1968 Posted February 15, 2007 Author Posted February 15, 2007 Thank´s DDL. I was just paying back the favor. I was a wreak when my wife left me, and these GREAT people were there for me day and night,they listened to me, and helped me in my darkest time of my entire life. Was time to show them how much i love them too. Valentine´s day was perfect. You should have seen the look on some of their face´s, something i will take to my grave with a smile. If those are your leg´s in your avatar, it´s no wonder your driving tp wild!!! Watch him, i think he´s "giggity" lol Have a great day. John
Author john-1968 Posted February 15, 2007 Author Posted February 15, 2007 lovelorcet: patch,robinson,kelly,panzer koncern? True there are the flower garden´s there, but i don´t think it would be any fun alone. Then again,it might be just what i need. take care, John
dropdeadlegs Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 If those are your leg´s in your avatar, it´s no wonder your driving tp wild!!! Watch him, i think he´s "giggity" lol Have a great day. John You HAVE been paying attention, haven't you? I have these little harmless "relationships" with some of my fellow LSers as a way to pass time while hopefully building their self esteem. So many of the men and women are just lovely people who are lonely, sad, and have been hurt so badly. I am fortunate to have placed my heart in very good hands right here at home in Louisiana, (where it is now nearly 5:30am and I am crazy to be awake) and I definitely know who I really belong to and belong with. We do get out of hand a bit, but it's all in fun and some lightheartedness is good for the soul when so many posts are full of unhappiness. So much cheating and infidelity, so much sadness and low self esteem. We need a break and some fun at times! Those are not my legs, but my legs aren't bad! Congratulations on the 43 days of NC. That isn't easy but it sure is healing!
Author john-1968 Posted February 15, 2007 Author Posted February 15, 2007 DDL: 5:30am!!!!???? are you mad!!??? lol I hear where your coming from, it´s all harmless fun,i know, and helping people feel better also help´s warm the soul. I also had a self esteem problem, but not any more, cause the wonderfull people here at LS made me realise that i am some one, someone with great quality´s,that another person can appreciate. Just need to find her.lol Think gunny said "what people abuse, can other people use." Or something like that. To be honest, i have better thing´s to do at 5:30 in the morning, dreaming of a bright future with a women who truly love´s and care´s for me. Maybe not tommorrow, or the next day, but some time soon. have a great morning, leg´s! John
dropdeadlegs Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 Once I cross the 3am threshold, I think it's easier to just stay up until it's time to get the kiddies off to school. By 7:45, they are all gone and I can sleep until 2:30, so I will be fine. I do this from time to time. V Day changed my routine, and I got caught up in my LS fun later than usual. Gunny is one of my favorite posters! When it comes to breakups, he and Ladyjane are better than professional counselors. I swear if I go through a breakup I will be sending each a private message before the first tear can fall! Those two will hold you up until you get your legs back underneath you! You are making awesome progress and I commend you in taking the advice and actually using it because it does work to get your head back when your heart is doing a whole lot of screaming. I'm glad you are comfortable enough to post, we can always use good, positive role models. I don't ask for advice much, but I read a lot of threads in the hopes of educating myself for future possibilities. You just never know, there are no guarantees in matters of love and life. You have yourself a lovely day, John!
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