boobooboots Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Question for guys (but interested in the female perspective too )... What do you think of girls that give BJs and SWALLOW on a first nite? Would you have less respect for them if you knew this? Do you think they are just liberated or just cheap? Would it be the kind of girl you would just use for sex or the kind of girl you would want as a mother of your children?
mental_traveller Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 "What do you think of girls that give BJs and SWALLOW on a first nite?" I think it's great and should be encouraged. "Would you have less respect for them if you knew this?" No, I'd have more. It would be refreshing to know a woman doesn't have loads of stupid medieval hangups about sex. "Do you think they are just liberated or just cheap?" That would depend on their other actions outside the bedroom, not in it. The bedroom is where you should be naughty, it has nothing to do with what kind of person you are outside it. As for the last question - I don't want kids, but if I did, then I'd want to the woman involved to be uninhibited and naughty in bed, not uptight and reserved. I agree with the whole lady in the street, freak in the bed thing.
Blue Phoenix Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 --"Do you think they are just liberated or just cheap"-- I think alot of girls that would give oral or any serious sex act on a first date would most likely be suffering from low self esteem..Just my opinion.. How could it be seen as liberated to perform sex acts on some guy you prob know for a few hours?? Wouldent it do just the oppsite insted of makeing the girl feel good in knowing that some one wanted to spend time with her insted of just useing her for a bj?
Ripples Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 To the OP; how would you feel about a guy who gives oral on a first date? Personally, I'm in full agreement with mental_traveller. And yes, I have given a bj on the first date. Fortunately, the man I gave it to didn't have your hang ups and we're happily together 4.5 years later.
Author boobooboots Posted February 14, 2007 Author Posted February 14, 2007 how about if you found out your girlfriend had had a series of one nite stands in her past, giving oral to guys and swallowing? And gave you graphic detail (not requested or wanted). Would that change how you regarded this issue?
Blue Phoenix Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 --"To the OP; how would you feel about a guy who gives oral on a first date? Personally, I'm in full agreement with mental_traveller. And yes, I have given a bj on the first date. Fortunately, the man I gave it to didn't have your hang ups and we're happily together 4.5 years later"-- It wouldent matter if it was a guy or girl realy would it? Granted that yea it can happen on a one off time or something and be just that 2 people haveing a bit of fun. But it can also be a situation were the women/guy who ever the case may be is looking for exceptance any way they can get it IE sex means love mentaility and that often if is a sighn of low self esteem. I dunno about hang ups or not thats just my opinion Im not putting people down who decide to do such things its there call if it ends up in a great relashionship then good for them. Sounds like the guy who started this thread tho def dose put people down for it tho if you look at his other thread also..
Ripples Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 What bearing could any past actions have on have on my relationship with her? So long as she was ok with it and wasn't scarred by it, it's totally irrelevant. On the other hand, if I was the girlfriend, I would extremely concerned if my current partner was hung up about my past.
riobikini Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 re: boobooboots: " Question for guys (but interested in the female perspective too )... What do you think of girls that give BJs and SWALLOW on a first nite? Would you have less respect for them if you knew this? Do you think they are just liberated or just cheap? Would it be the kind of girl you would just use for sex or the kind of girl you would want as a mother of your children?" Even the flavor/brand of gum you choose on impulse at the checkout depends on the tastes of the person who's buying it. But even an *impulse* buy is based on a few already-formed standards you may not be acutely aware that you're using in making the decision. I could answer these questions in generality but with "generalities", negative stereotypes often enter into the picture. Answering a little more indepth, here's what I think: #1- A girl who gives BJ's and swallows on the first date, may be the *fantasy* female of a lot of men's dreams, but unless you're only sticking with the fantasy and leaving out the more defining stuff that makes up an individual, she, probably, won't get an introduction to mom and the family -or even be thought of as anything more than a trinket acquaintance, and whose appeal will wane, in time. #2- Will you have respect for her? Depends on whether or not you continue to see her and allow respect to develop- that is, if you see a glimmer of something there worth respecting. And even *that* is dependent on the influence of *your own* standards and expectations and whether they are shallow, immature, inexperienced, and undeveloped -or more mature and substantial, and solidly-formed. #3- You might *entertain* the cool thought that she was a "liberated", or "sophisticated" gal -but also, depending on the statement just previous- you could wind up thinking she's just cheap and far too "available" and accommodating. I think that, sometimes, in order to get to "take a walk on the wild side" of their fantasies, people perpetuate many stereotypes without being conciously aware. In the heat of the moment, where some not-so-good decisions are made, we often have a lot to think about, afterwards. It's when we weigh those decisions, compare them with the things that make us each very unique individuals, that we might feel ashamed, reconcile the action, and withdraw from further involvement. It might be a little exciting to entertain a fantasy once in a while -but doing it with a guy or girl you *truly love* is probably, the best (and safest) way to get that kind of "high". -Rio
mental_traveller Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 how about if you found out your girlfriend had had a series of one nite stands in her past, giving oral to guys and swallowing? And gave you graphic detail (not requested or wanted). Would that change how you regarded this issue? Depends how many, how long ago etc. If she's doing it a lot and recently then that would suggest to me she's more interested in sleeping around and having fun than having something more serious, but it depends on how she acts, talks etc. If it's in the past then no, wouldn't generally be an issue. I mean I'm not exactly a choir boy so it would be hypocritical to make a big deal out of that. Why shouldn't someone have fun if they are single? IMO someone's past is their past as long as they haven't hurt anybody, committed serious crimes etc. The main issue for me would be sexual health, but that's what condoms & healtth checkups are for.
sb129 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 What bearing could any past actions have on have on my relationship with her? So long as she was ok with it and wasn't scarred by it, it's totally irrelevant. On the other hand, if I was the girlfriend, I would extremely concerned if my current partner was hung up about my past. Totally agree Ripples. Personally I wouldn't but thats only because I wouldn't want to pull out all my tricks too soon.....
polywog Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 I think they/you are reckless and don't practice safe sex!
sb129 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 I think they/you are reckless and don't practice safe sex! Au contraire! No glove, no love!
Kamille Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 What do you think of guys who let women give them blow jobs on the first date when deep down it means they will have less respect for her in the end? Shouldn't they just not let it get there? But... on the other hand, I agree with Ripples. More men should try to give head on the first date! That would be wonderful thank you (I'd probably say no, but it would definitely peak my interest).
Blue Phoenix Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 --"What do you think of guys who let women give them blow jobs on the first date when deep down it means they will have less respect for her in the end? Shouldn't they just not let it get there?"-- Good point why is it always the girl that is judged badly in this situation. Why is she a slut or whore while the guy dosent get any slack for it?? The girl is a whore the guy punches another hole on his card of conquests whats up with that??
magichands Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 And then they wonder why you don't want to kiss them goodnight.
glitzy55 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Like another poster stated..do guys go around giving girls head the first night, (the majority I know don't) are there gonne be guys known to "go to for quick head"...don't think so. All girls I've known who blow everything and everyone and rather quickly, including an ex friend of mine have told me straight out they do it bc they think a guy will like them better and pretty much have low self esteem. Now I can't speak for all women but for me..I would rather spend my time on a first date getting to know a guy rather then be a mouth who can suck his dick.
magichands Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 All girls I've known who blow everything and everyone and rather quickly, including an ex friend of mine have told me straight out they do it bc they think a guy will like them better and Well, it's a wonderful way to break the ice. The guy will probably like her better. And, depending on the technique, he may ask for another date.
Salicious Crumb Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Question for guys (but interested in the female perspective too )... What do you think of girls that give BJs and SWALLOW on a first nite? Would you have less respect for them if you knew this? Probably...I'd never try anything like that on a first date(being a man that means doing some diving or trying to get her clothes off)...hell..not even a 2nd or 3rd probably. Do you think they are just liberated or just cheap?I don't know about any of those two as much as I would say easy. Would it be the kind of girl you would just use for sex or the kind of girl you would want as a mother of your children?I don't use women for sex. Sex to me has to have an emotional tie. If all i want to do is get my rocks off...I can do that by myself. So lets just say that is not the kind of girl/woman I would want. If it were that easy for her to do that to me on a first date, it would be that easy for her to do to anyone, and probably more than likely be a cheater.
magichands Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 All girls I've known who blow everything and everyone and rather quickly, A hallmark of good technique.
glitzy55 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Well, it's a wonderful way to break the ice. The guy will probably like her better. And, depending on the technique, he may ask for another date. lol
Pyro Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 lol Why do you think MH/TG has so many friends?
magichands Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Why do you think MH/TG has so many friends? I know a good rimjob when I do one.
Pyro Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 I know a good rimjob when I do one. So I take it that Dick Cheney was satisfied? Did he pay you the 3 mil, or did you do it for free?
magichands Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 , or did you do it for free? Come on, Rid. I don't do anything for free. I am a capitalist, not a lover. Nobody gets f*cked without paying the price. Up-front.
bluetuesday Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 What do you think of girls that give BJs and SWALLOW on a first nite? i was just curious as to why you wrote SWALLOW in big letters, like the act of swallowing is somehow the clincher as to whether it's okay or not to do it. swallowing doesn't make it any better or worse you know. if you've had the sort of first night together where his glans is already familiar with your tonsils, whether you swallow or not is probably a moot point.
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