magichands Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 I don't want your DNA messing up my stuff... Don't remind me. That sort of talk can really kill the mood.
brokenhart2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Just wanna chime in. I'm on the "same boat" too. In my early 30's TOO! Hummmmm, all of us who relate have hit 30???? I find THAT interesting. I have a question. Do you ladies tend to be attracted mostly to men within your age group? Because I'm starting to notice something that I may get "slammed" for saying, BUT many of my 30-something male friends are mostly looking at and chasing 20-something "girls". Now, I am open to try dating 40-something men, but I am WAY more attracted to guys in MY OWN DECADE. Just something I've noticed. Absolutley. I love men in their 30's! But they love girls in their 20's...a girl who is 30 and never married, they think, there must be something wrong with her. But if I said I am divorced, they would think, well her ex must have been an idiot. Maybe I should start saying I'm divorced.
StayClose Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Noos, Would you be brave enough to put up a picture of yourself in your profile? You say you're attractive and physically fit, but if men are still not interested, there may be something about your appearance that makes you look unapproachable, grouchy, or not fun to be with. Maybe a new hairstyle or wardrobe will help. It may not hurt to get some honest feedback from men and women on this forum.
IWalkAlone Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Why do all these attractive, fit single men and women in their late 20s/early 30s have so much trouble finding each other?
Author Noos Posted February 17, 2007 Author Posted February 17, 2007 Cite your sources, or retract such a disposable statement. Even if you include the over 80s, you'll never make 5:1. My source is Bernard Salt - demographer and KPMG partner in Sydney. Stay Close - I'll think about doing the photo thing. I don't have any recent photos at present but I have got a big party coming up in less than a month so I'll try to get a photo from there or a photo from a recent night out.
kitten chick Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 I've been in your shoes, actually I'm still in your shoes. I've only recently come back to LS after about a year's hiatus. I spent more time paying attention to what goes on in my circle of friends, a very diverse group of women (and a few men), rather than taking my advice from here. I've noticed that the successful, independent women are the ones who are less likely to conform and settle and the, let's just say, "less successful" women who "need" more conform to the men that they are dating. They give up their identity. I don't know, I think I'd rather be single than give up who I am to deal with some guy's crap. I guess that's a decision you have to make. I think at one point I would have said that I would conform just to have a boyfriend that won't leave me but now, no way. I'm awesome, I'm not going to change that for anyone!
Author Noos Posted February 19, 2007 Author Posted February 19, 2007 That's exactly it, KC. If we were guys and exhibited the same traits/strengths, we'd be insanely popular.
Mister Foreskin Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 I don't know what you're talking about, I like girls who are funny and confident. It's just when they show it before the guy does it's a turnoff, like when they start trying to build rapport by creating jokes. Just the way we were brought up I guess.
Pretty Fly Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 I agree with this... I don't know what you're talking about, I like girls who are funny and confident. I don't agree with this... It's just when they show it before the guy does it's a turnoff, like when they start trying to build rapport by creating jokes. Just the way we were brought up I guess. I love it when a girl is funny and feisty and confident. Though it has to come across as back and forth banter and not arrogant confidence. I don't agree with that second bit. If a girl came up to me and said something a bit cocky and funny to me, I'd respond with something along the same lines and we'd get a bit of funny banter going.
Author Noos Posted February 20, 2007 Author Posted February 20, 2007 See, I was a bit taken aback by the comment about not wanting girls to build rapport with jokes. Why not? I'm with you prettyfly - must be a Brit/Aussie culture thing.
LosingIt Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 I had this problem. I'm different than most people. You sound smart, capable, independant...that's not the norm. Statistically this means less of the population will understand you. The solution: Speed date every guy you can with your goal being 100. Look at each bad date as one step closer to finding the person you want. I dated 40 something girls across 3 years. Then I found the one. Never bend who you are.
Author Noos Posted February 20, 2007 Author Posted February 20, 2007 I think you might be right Losing It. And might I say, it looks like you and your girl both did very well. Congrats!
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