DrumMajor13 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 to look someone you know a WEE BIT from work up on, dare i say it... myspace, and message them... i've only talked to him like twice... minimal talking, just small talk really. But he's cute and from what i've seen really nice... i want to get to know him better, if not just to be friends... sooo, creepy? or... normal?
LN99 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Its only stalkerish if you start to harass him or message him several times a day. DON'T start confessing your feelings to him. That will be one sure way to send off stalkerish vibes. But, honestly, I say there is nothing wrong with sending him a message and being like "Hey, don't I work with you? How's it going? I like your page." Stuff like that. Keep it general and casual.
dropdeadlegs Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 I have a myspace page and I have only sent very close friends and family a friend request. I often get "add" requests from people that are just in my general area. I don't think it's stalker behavior to say hi to someone you know even just a wee bit. They have already put themselves out there and should expect that people might find them. They decide if making a comment, sending a message, or even being able to view their page requires "friend" approval through their settings. If you got in, I wouldn't worry.
IWalkAlone Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 What you want to do is probably not stalkerish, yet it is in the gray area. I'll explain: It is probably not stalkerish, because MySpace sites that are not restricted to Friends Only are posted where anyone in the world can see them (that's why it's called the world wide web). If you're configured to allow anyone to sent you a message, then anyone has the right to send a message. However, it is in the gray area simply because she might interpret a message form you as stalkerish. If she likes you, either romantically or even as a friend, she'll appreciate hearing from you. If she doesn't like you or if her personality is simply to have a stick up her butt, then it's stalkerish. Because gray area stalking and sexual harassment is defined not by what someone is doing, but by how the "victem" reacts to it. My advice is to send her a message. If she reacts negatively, then she's not anyone you had a chance with anyway.
Pink Amulet Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Why don't you just speak to him *shock horror* and ask him if he chats online and give him your email address... that way you will be able to gauge actual human emotion through his reaction.
Author DrumMajor13 Posted March 29, 2007 Author Posted March 29, 2007 Why don't you just speak to him *shock horror* and ask him if he chats online and give him your email address... that way you will be able to gauge actual human emotion through his reaction. haha... me? talk to someone? that would be the end of the world. *sarcasm* LOL. and to the person above youish... i'm a girl.
Author DrumMajor13 Posted March 29, 2007 Author Posted March 29, 2007 haha... also, the guy turned out to be gay and dating a guy. soooo... yeah.
IaminLove Posted March 29, 2007 Posted March 29, 2007 That is how I got together with my boyfriend... my sister met him because she became friends with his brother and she told me about him.. we had went to school together but didn't know each other then at all. So I sent him a message on myspace and we started talking and began to date =) so at this point its not stalkerish.. but some people can be like that.. by not leaving someone alone.. it doesn't sound like you are doing that at all.. so good luck
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