Quixotic Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 OK, I can't sleep because my ex just called me acting like an ********* & I'm pissed off now, especially since it's almost Valentine's Day and I'm alone. SO....How is everyone coping with Valentine's Day & what are you going to do to try to forget that you have no one special to share it with?
Guest Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 It sucks doesn't it! My bf and I just went on a break five days ago...pretty bad timing if you ask me...I am just going to go to work and hope my patients bring some cheeryness in my life! Then I am going to go to sleep . I can't wait for those stupid commercials to be over!!! Come to think of it, I don't believe I have ever had a good valentines day...it's overrated if you ask me.
jusified Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Im doing well on vday. I dont think too much about or of it. Just another day. Feel happy for the happy couples and feel sad fo ppl like myself who don't deserve whats happened and the lonliness now. But you know what, its a process, with out the bad you don;t appreciate the good, and the good is just around the corner. Keep been positive everyone.
RecordProducer Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 I am Jewish and moved to the United States a year ago so I don't get all the fuss around V-day. I am married, but we don't buy cards or anything for tomorrow. It's just another day for me. Actually I hate al holidays, because they impose some solemn ambiance and sometimes you're just not into it on that day. I hada terrible fight with hubby a day prior to his 50th b/day so I didn't give him anything, not even a card. My b/day is next month and I don't expect anything from him. Actually if he buys me something (just to show me that he is a better person, probably), I will feel even worse.
Wendyrite12 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Well I'm celebrating by seeing a really expensive therapist for an hour and a half haha!! I'm actually really looking forward to it. Like having a mentail massage! I get so torn with this no contact thing> I think I'll do it till he sends me a really nice inviting email and then I think I have to respond and then all my friends freak out on me for being weak. It's really fun. It would be cool to have some kindof of wealthy girlfriends and we could be like secret santa's and all send flowers to each other.
rab5 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 I was dumped about three months ago and to me getting through X-mas and New Years are by far worse than V-day. I remind myself that this day was created by a corporation for the sole purpose of revenue. Hallmark is craftiest company in the world, hats off to them, for designing this event for lack of better words. It's such a bunch of over hyped commercialism, crap, it pratically makes me sick. In addtion, the pressure it puts on us as as dating, married or single person do do something special is emmense. You shouldn't have to have a day like this but should live every day as if your special one is a valentine all the time. I know, easier said than done, but for me, this day will be much more appreciated after it's gone and passed. If your newly single and a bit bitter about it like me, look at the bright side; you're free this year from the pressure from this phony, deluted ritual. We have become so complacent as a society and are more concerned about the faces in the tabloids than the real issues that are energy could be focused on. Just thought I'd throw that it as well. Best of luck to all of us whom are struggling through a hard time..... Love will find you again so don't ever give up, keep looking forward not back...
hrtbroken99 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 like the previous poster, v-day is just another hallmark holiday..my bf also broke up with me almost 3 months ago and xmas and new years was hell to get through...I guess I am use to being along now on "holidays.." but yet, it still makes me sad...very very sad....v-day is my favorite holiday...so romantic,..I still remember last year creating a special package to give him....wishing him happy v-day...what the real annoying part is going to work on thursday and hearing others tell me what they did, what they got, how the spent it...just another reminder that I lost the person I loved....yesterday was my b-day and now v-day...no contact..no voice......Thank God there is no other main holiday coming up for a long time....this year it will just be another day for me....i'll try though...like others say,...stay positive...we are all in this together!
DyingHeart Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Well, it will be a little tough. I remember just last year on Vday, I went to his house while he was at work, and spread rose petals all over his bed along with little foam hearts and feathers. I also brought along a dozen red tulips, because he hates roses. I left a card on his pillow and came home. An hour later he was calling me up in tears, because no one has ever done that for him. Now... it's just another day for him, while I feel it was always something special we had. We never really gave each other gifts or anything, it was just the time we had together on that day, which made it so special to me. So, I guess it's just another lonely day for me. Just like the past 3 months. I mean, I could care less about it, it's just the memories that get to me.
alasia Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 I'm not too fussed, feel fine today. I think it's because last night I realised if I'd still been with my ex (we split up 6 weeks ago) he wouldn't have done anything, not even got a card. He's working 2pm-00.45 today, plus I didn't really get anything for Christmas, whereas I spent ages choosing his presents and card. I'd rather be single and get to spend time on myself all day than sit arouond hoping for some sort of romantic gesture or to spend time with him today, then be disappointed when it doesn't happen.
mental_traveller Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Luckily mine is passing pretty good thanks But I heard from one of my friends, his gf just dumped him today via email. That's pretty low I think, I mean there are 364 other days to choose and she has to end it on Valentine's day! Even if I really *hated* someone, I'd do it before or after, it's like dumping someone at Christmas or on their birthday, somethings you just don't do.
Rainer Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Ugh! It's a bit of a reminder...plus everyone @ work got flowers, felt like the single freak! One of the girls got proposed to and was showing off her ring, felt sick as mine now sits in its box in a drawer at home. Makes me sad that my ex onced felt that way about me, then changed his mind... Its hard to be happy for others when you are still healing from things...V day 2007 sucked!
jusified Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 cheer up guys, everyone suffers from break ups, heart aches and been single in their lives. The right person for you will come, be true to who you are and become a btter person. When that great person does show up you will have the rest of your lives together full of happiness and support, knwing that the two of you can get through any problem. Jus
RocketMan2 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Valentines day is a crock of s*#t. Ha! Exactly. Rocket
sb129 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 OK, I can't sleep because my ex just called me acting like an ********* & I'm pissed off now, especially since it's almost Valentine's Day and I'm alone. SO....How is everyone coping with Valentine's Day & what are you going to do to try to forget that you have no one special to share it with? I take it from your post you got rid of that loser Quixotic. Yee ha! I would be celebrating if I were you!!!!
Author Quixotic Posted February 14, 2007 Author Posted February 14, 2007 I take it from your post you got rid of that loser Quixotic. Yee ha! I would be celebrating if I were you!!!! Yeah, in a way I am happy to not have to go through all the fake, " I love you" bull**** with him. It seems like every holiday I am the one who always had to make him feel special. Plus, I never got anything from him on ANY holiday, so I'd rather be by myself, since I never disappoint myself, then be with him hoping he will finally get a clue, and do something nice for me, but end up disappointed when HE DOES ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!! But...it is Valentine's Day, and even though I do agree with the others in saying it's a commercialized crock of s***, everyone has to agree that it would make them happy if a significant other actually gave a s*** and did something nice for them. In the end, we all want to be loved, wanted, cherished, respected, and valued, right?
sb129 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Right. But you don't need a tacky card for that. You have shown enormous self respect by ditching that guy.. so congratulate yourself for that. I think thats something to be proud of and happy about.
Heartache11 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 I was doing okay, until I found out that he is not going to a game with his mother anymore, but he asked another girl. That is a stab to the heart especially since we broke up after 2 & 1/2 years less than a week ago. :-(
Cossette4 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 I'm sort of in a different boat. My ex used to go overboard for Valentine's Day and would do the rose petal, candle, ridiculously large teddy bear stuff....And actually 6 Valentine's Days ago I remember giving him a Valentine at his locker b/c I had a crush on him I don't really care that I won't be getting a mammouth bear this year, but it just makes me sick that he's probably going through that whole song and dance with the skank Grr...this is just another day...this is just another day....and it will be over in less than 12 hours....
Salicious Crumb Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 This year...its just another day to me...nothing special.
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