blackenedESP Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 About a year or 2 ago, my girlfriend started getting these calls on her cell phone from a restricted number. It was someone disguising their voice saying all this dirty stuff to her. This went on for a good half year or so, every couple weeks she'd get one. It really freaked her out, she didn't know who it was, she would cry over it, etc.. So i started narrowing it down and we think we figured out who it was. This kid that used to like her when they worked together but she was with me at the time. I didn't hear his name since then until the phone calls starting coming. We assume it's him because he would give her dirty looks in school, he would bump into her as we walked past, just a real dick. So i told her to call the police, they said to change her number first and if they continue, then they will go from there. I went and told him to cut the **** out, that we got the police involved. She didn't immediately change her number but we didn't get a call after I told him about the police so whether it was him or not, it stopped. Today he randomly IM'd her being all nice, asking how she was. She told me about it and i got furious because, well he was harassing my girlfriend, of course i hate him. She said she's over it and she's not gonna hold it against him. I understand about forgiving people but i mean, what he did was completely uncalled for and obnoxious. The things he said to and about her, I would never be ok with him. I just don't understand how she can be. It pissed me off that she saw nothing wrong with it. Is it just me? Do i have a right to be pissed off about it? Right now i am, big time.
Island Girl Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 I don't know why she didn't change her number. That is just idiotic in my book. YES I'd be angry and I wouldn't be friendly with someone who had treated me so badly.
whichwayisup Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Was this guy an old friend of hers?? I guess I don't understand how she could not be pissed off at him for what he did...And, that he had the nerve to contact her. Yes, new phone number, new email addy, and new IM too.
Author blackenedESP Posted February 14, 2007 Author Posted February 14, 2007 well they became friends when they worked together about 4 years ago. after she left there, i never heard his name again really. then all of a sudden the calls started so i'm not sure why he chose to do it (assuming it was him), i don't know if something happened that she hasn't told me and it got him pissed at her, i don't know. but i know as the boyfriend, i will NEVER be ok with him and i don't see how she could be either. it's good to see u guys agree.
frannie Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 She should have changed her number, as the police advised. Why didn't she..? I'm in the UK, so I'm completely at a loss here, but don't you have the ability to screen calls or block numbers? So many problems involving phones over there! Take control of your own phone!
Author blackenedESP Posted February 14, 2007 Author Posted February 14, 2007 she did eventually change her phone number, but if i recall, it wasn't for a few weeks or a good month. out of laziness i guess. after i said something to him, the phone calls stopped. so i dunno if he stopped because i said something, or he just didn't try to call again until after her number was changed. i'm not sure about the number blocking, i'm pretty sure she would have asked, i forget. so we were pretty sure it was him and i dunno. for her to just be ok with talking to him like nothing happened really got me mad for a couple reasons. nice to see i wouldn't be the only one.
Ripples Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Just a bit of info for any UK people who don't know; most networks allow you to block numbers from calling you/texting you, yourself. However there are exceptions where you have to call the network and request them to do it for you, T-Mobile being one.
sb129 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 About a year or 2 ago, my girlfriend started getting these calls on her cell phone from a restricted number. It was someone disguising their voice saying all this dirty stuff to her. This went on for a good half year or so, every couple weeks she'd get one. It really freaked her out, she didn't know who it was, she would cry over it, etc.. So i started narrowing it down and we think we figured out who it was. This kid that used to like her when they worked together but she was with me at the time. I didn't hear his name since then until the phone calls starting coming. We assume it's him because he would give her dirty looks in school, he would bump into her as we walked past, just a real dick. So i told her to call the police, they said to change her number first and if they continue, then they will go from there. I went and told him to cut the **** out, that we got the police involved. She didn't immediately change her number but we didn't get a call after I told him about the police so whether it was him or not, it stopped. Today he randomly IM'd her being all nice, asking how she was. She told me about it and i got furious because, well he was harassing my girlfriend, of course i hate him. She said she's over it and she's not gonna hold it against him. I understand about forgiving people but i mean, what he did was completely uncalled for and obnoxious. The things he said to and about her, I would never be ok with him. I just don't understand how she can be. It pissed me off that she saw nothing wrong with it. Is it just me? Do i have a right to be pissed off about it? Right now i am, big time. Yeah I would be too. Was it definitely him? I was her, I would totally blank the guy forever. I know forgiveness is a good thing etc etc, but my BF would not be cool with it if I forgave and forgot that kind of behaviour. And I am going out with him, not the ex stalker turned "nice" guy.
sb129 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Just a bit of info for any UK people who don't know; most networks allow you to block numbers from calling you/texting you, yourself. However there are exceptions where you have to call the network and request them to do it for you, T-Mobile being one. And O2 if you have a nokia phone. O2 also charge you for number changes if you do it more than once a year unless you cry down the phone to them like I did when my ex was stalking me with all manner of threats and crazy stuff.
Author blackenedESP Posted February 14, 2007 Author Posted February 14, 2007 sb129: we're not 100% sure if it was him or not. if it was, he seemed to do it out of nowhere randomly or my girlfriend isn't telling me something (a possibility with her). i remember being close to 100% that it was him, i don't remember all the details. i know when this was going on, he would give her dirty looks and intentionally bump into her in the halls at college. him just happening to start doing that when all this calling stuff was going on is no coincidence to me. and after i talked to him about it, the calls stopped. again, i'm not sure if they stopped because i said something to him or he just didn't call again until my girlfriend had already changed her number. but i believe she didn't change it for a while and there was no problem, so if they did stop because i said something to him, obviously it was him. i'm thinking there was something else we kinda backed him into a corner and caught him in a lie about but i don't remember. regardless though, me AND HER were very sure it was him. so it's not like i thought it was and she didn't know and that's why she isn't holding it against him. and yeah, there is a time to forgive people but this is one of those things where there was absolutely no reason to do it whatsoever. it was ridiculous, obnoxious. i mean he was saying some real dirty stuff and i would think any boyfriend would wanna kill the guy at that point, as i did and still do if i see him. for me to be that mad about it, and then to see her basically send the message that it's ok if u said all those perverted things to me....that just pisses me off even more. because i love her, i don't wanna see anything happen to her. i don't want guys talking like that to her or about her. i'm pretty sure most guys would agree with me on that. to see a couple of u girls agreeing, makes me feel a little better about it though. so i know i have a reason to be upset from both sides. oh and one more thing. from the time she stopped working with him to the time when the calls started, it was at least 2 years or so. so i'm under the assumption nothing happened, they didn't even really talk at all. when we were trying to figure it out, her sister named him first. that caught my attention because why would she think it's a guy that my girlfriend hasn't been involved with or talking to much in like 2 years? that kinda hinted to me that maybe something did happen between them that my girlfriend isn't telling me about (but her sister knows about) and that's why her sister suspected him right off the bat.
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