Guest Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 So...I did it, I weakened, and broke only 4 days of NC since we took a break five days ago. Well in a sense I had to because as we all know the now dreaded valentines day is upon us and two weeks ago prior to this 'break' I ordered flowers to be sent to his work. Well I tried cancelling and of course it turns out they can't because it is already in 'transit'. So much for that. So I text him that I wanted to give him a heads up, and that he will be receiving flowers tomorrow which I had ordered two weeks ago and that I was sorry about that. Mind you this is the first spark of conversation between us in four days whatsoever. I really didn't think twice as to his response, but it really caught me off guard. He text back right away saying to cancel the order! I replied that I couldn't, but that I had tried. He said well try again because he didn't want anything. Well jeeeeezzzz I could already tell he was upset and I didn't really do anything or so I thought. So I asked him why he was so upset and he just said he didn't want anything for valentines. Well since I had these lines of communication open, I asked how he was and he said he was tired and how was I. I said okay just going day by day. And then asked him if we were still going to talk to eachother during this break or not ( I asked because he had said we would but we never really finished that conversation the day we took our break so I was left unclear.). He replied I dont know. Why? Whats with all the questions? I just said I was just unclear since we never finished our talk. That was the end of that. So, Now I am confused! Why? cause I am a girl and like to over analyze things that's why I would love all your inputs to find a different perspective. So here's what I thought. But first let me remind you this break was all his idea even though he said he was very 50-50 about it. He is all stressed from work and school and in this transition part of his life where I beleive he is just very confused as to what exactly he wants, so I gave him this break as he requested to give him some time to sort out stuff we had already agreed to not see or talk to anyone else romantically that this time was just for him. Okay so like I was saying I think that he is just upset because I beleive that he has realized that this break was maybe not the best idea and now he is too stubborn to admit it so he is just taking it out on me. I know its hard to completely identify a tone in a text message, but really it sounded really mean. Either that or he's just upset. But when he's wrong and he knows it he gets in these moods where he is just snappy and mean. What do you guys think? For now I will just leave him alone, NC is back on. If he wants to talk to me he will especially now since I opened up these lines of communication. I just really hope that he's not distancing himself from me even more, that might be it too. I just figured he would have broken down already because I was such a big part of his life, only a couple weeks ago he was saying how I was the best think that has ever happened to him and how happy I made him ect ect. I don't know. PLEASE PLEASE give me some input I am driving myself crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for reading
stillafool Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 okay here's my input. Move on. He didn't want the flowers because he doesn't want the relationship anymore. Stop second guessing what his actions have already shown you. He broke up with you, doesn't want anything to do with you on Valentine's d, and doesn't even know if he wants to talk to you again and doesn't want you asking him questions. Don't drive your self crazy, he's not worth it. Just move on because if you keep contacting him after he's broke up he will lose respect for you and you open yourself up to more hurt from him.
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