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conehead992

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conehead992

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Okay. There's this guy that I still love.. He was my first boyfriend and we were going out for two years.. Today would have been our 2 year anniversary if we hadn't broken up yesterday....He said he thought it would be in our best interest and I think it was too. ..But I do still love him and he says he still loves me. ...We just dont fit together like most would consider normal...We have lots of little fights...But thats not what this question is about.......My main problem is that we still love each other...

 

Ive never had to deal with a breakup....We decided to remain friends, but its going to be hard to talk to him...Ive been crying since 2:30 yesterday afternoon...and its now 6:45 today...so over a day...and I still haven't stopped.....I need to know how to get over him while still remaining his friends...I feel like I'm going to die and like I've lost the only thing in the world that meant anything to me..Please help me through this

by the way i am a 17 year old female

stillafool Established Member

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Sorry for your pain sweetie. The break up of your "first love" is the hardest. You've never felt that type of love for another person before and it's hard to get over. Most people don't go on to marry their first loves but you never forget them. What you are going through is a part of growing up and a very painful part. I remember when I broke up with my first love I lost 10 pounds.

 

Time will help you move on from him as will opening yourself up to new guys to date. In the meantime try to keep your mind on school and get a hobby or an extracurricular activity. If you are going to be attending college you will find you have a whole new life ahead of you which will help immediately. Keep your mind focused on that.

ratingsguy Established Member

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I'm really sorry to hear about the pain you're going through. We've all been there and know what it feels like. Things will get better for you over time, I promise.

 

One thing I wish I had known when I was younger is that when someone you love breaks up with you, it is not possible to be friends... now. My suggestion is to tell your ex that you need at least a few months of no contact (NC). That basically means that you have no communication whatsoever with him. It doesn't mean that you hate him or never want to talk with him again. It's a tool most people use to get over someone. It's very difficult to do, but most who have been through it will agree that it works. It will take less time to get over him and when your feelings are gone. Then and only then will it be possible to be friends with your ex.

 

Read a lot of the NC posts on this website to learn more about what it's all about and what people's experiences are. And if you have any more questions or need more support that's what this community is here for.

 

Good luck to you! :)

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