stanchain Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Ok, I was at work the other day and the most incredible woman walked in. I helped her and then we sat and talked fof rlike 3 hours at my job. I was completely and utterly mesmirized. When it was all said and done we joked about going out for drinks... and then next thing you know we were out having drinks. There was a couple things I said that were just plain out dumb... but for the most part everything went well. the whole time we were in each others eyes... and all was well. Then when it was time to go I walked her to her car... I went for a handshake and she went for a hug. So I though all was well... so I called her the next day and left her a message, telling her that I had a good time and look at her schedule so we could do it again. Well of course she hasnt called me back, so now I am stuck. Cause I mean I have been doing a lot of dating lately but this one... I am just still in awe. I cant get her out of my head. I mean I just got of something serious 4 months ago or so So i was not trying to find anybody... well special... just wanted to have fun. But this woman was incredible... what should I do? thought about sending her flowers tomorrow but dont want to come off stalkerish... any advice?
polywog Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 I don't think you messed up at all. Just wait for her to call, but don't send flowers or anything like that. If she doesn't return your call, then I'd write her off. She knows where to find you, and sounds like she expressed at least as much interest in you as you did in her, so if she doesn't contact you then she's not very nice and doesn't deserve you.
Topper Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 people do get busy. Just give her another call. if you do talk to her keep it light. If she turns you down on another date without any indication she would like to make plans at another time then chalk it up as you had a pleasant evening and move on. But let her know you did enjoy her company. If she is playing some little hard to get game making you chase her, then you have to ask do you want to play or not?
hindsfeet Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 i dont think you can go wrong by being straight up. if you like her. let her know. life is too short for shoulda coulda woulda's. and also valentine's day is perfect timing. definitely not stalkerish. she's probably appreciate it. she may be busy, or she may be trying to keep distance to see if you pursue her. don't think negatively. if you got a bad vibe while the date was going on, then youd have known. send her flowers and take a step. you dont wanna wonder what couldve been. at least this way, you wont be kicking yourself for not trying.
blind_otter Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 I don't think you messed up at all. Just wait for her to call, but don't send flowers or anything like that. If she doesn't return your call, then I'd write her off. She knows where to find you, and sounds like she expressed at least as much interest in you as you did in her, so if she doesn't contact you then she's not very nice and doesn't deserve you. Good advice. I agree.
Krytellan Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 I don't think you messed up at all. Just wait for her to call, but don't send flowers or anything like that. If she doesn't return your call, then I'd write her off. She knows where to find you, and sounds like she expressed at least as much interest in you as you did in her, so if she doesn't contact you then she's not very nice and doesn't deserve you. BAM... just like a pro.
Trialbyfire Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 I don't think you messed up at all. Just wait for her to call, but don't send flowers or anything like that. If she doesn't return your call, then I'd write her off. She knows where to find you, and sounds like she expressed at least as much interest in you as you did in her, so if she doesn't contact you then she's not very nice and doesn't deserve you. +++1 for polywog. Exactly.
Sand&Water Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 RE: Be patient, Stanchain. You have done great so far. Wait for her to call back. Have some faith! Slow and steady wins the race. Sand&Water
Grrlish Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 RE: Be patient, Stanchain. You have done great so far. Wait for her to call back. Have some faith! Slow and steady wins the race. Sand&Water I agree. Stanchain, if you haven't called again yet, give her another call - it's been a few days. If she doesn't call after that, move along. Edit: I don't think you messed up at all. Sounds like a good first step. Not all first steps lead to a second one. And it's not unusual for us to walk away from a first date/encounter thinking: "God, why did I say that?"
alextop30 Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 that is great advice - I actually believe that she is going to call you - life is a full time job and sometimes I dont get to check messeges from 3 days ago. If it is really the way you say it - I believe that she is definatelly interested but you have to give it a chanse and wait and I know that waiting is tough when you met someone that sweeps you off your feet without saying a word, I have had that experiance I couldent hold it though but that is beside the point everything is gonna fit on its place you just have to wait for it. _____________________________________________ Women "Cant live without them"
Violet_Sky Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 I never call a guy back (this is when he gets my voicemail because I usually do answer the phone when I am able to, I am honest in that regard) until he has tried three times. I hate to say this, she might be following The Rules, and Rules women, this is one of the Rules, only call them back for every three attempts he tries you. So my advice is to call her because if you don't, she probably won't follow back because Rules girls want men who follow through and MEAN it and aren't wimps. (Sorry if I'm ticking some people off.) Actually...YES, SEND THE FLOWERS. You are looking for a call back, she would pretty much have to call to at least say 'thank you' for the flowers, or she would, even in my book, be kind of rude. so then you get your 'thank you' call, you go from there.
Krytellan Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 I never call a guy back (this is when he gets my voicemail because I usually do answer the phone when I am able to, I am honest in that regard) until he has tried three times. I hate to say this, she might be following The Rules, and Rules women, this is one of the Rules, only call them back for every three attempts he tries you. So my advice is to call her because if you don't, she probably won't follow back because Rules girls want men who follow through and MEAN it and aren't wimps. (Sorry if I'm ticking some people off.) Actually...YES, SEND THE FLOWERS. You are looking for a call back, she would pretty much have to call to at least say 'thank you' for the flowers, or she would, even in my book, be kind of rude. so then you get your 'thank you' call, you go from there. *facepalms* I wish you were as bored of your advice as everyone else is.
Violet_Sky Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 you don't have to read it if you don't agree. I don't get why a guy wouldn't call again a day or two later and think one time of her not calling back would mean she's not interested.
Krytellan Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 you don't have to read it if you don't agree. I don't get why a guy wouldn't call again a day or two later and think one time of her not calling back would mean she's not interested. Because if we want something, we make time for it. ANYONE who wants to date someone would call back after one call, unless they're playing games. In which case... see ya. Save the games for the frat boys.
JCD Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Exactly right. Games are for children. He called her, now it's her turn to call him back. If she doesn't call and she expects to play games then she's not worth it. He should not send flowers and instead, he should get to know her more before falling for her. A whole bunch of stuff will be revealed about her the more time he spends with her and she might not seem so awesome then. Take your time and wait for her to call you back. She knows where to find you if she wants something with you.
Star Gazer Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 I never call a guy back (this is when he gets my voicemail because I usually do answer the phone when I am able to, I am honest in that regard) until he has tried three times. I hate to say this, she might be following The Rules, and Rules women, this is one of the Rules, only call them back for every three attempts he tries you. So my advice is to call her because if you don't, she probably won't follow back because Rules girls want men who follow through and MEAN it and aren't wimps. (Sorry if I'm ticking some people off.) Actually...YES, SEND THE FLOWERS. You are looking for a call back, she would pretty much have to call to at least say 'thank you' for the flowers, or she would, even in my book, be kind of rude. so then you get your 'thank you' call, you go from there. This is the lamest advice I've read on LS in a lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnng time.
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