Guest Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 My girlfriend and I have been friends for 4 years. She told me that she wanted more than friends about a month ago. We have been dating exclusively for the past 4 weeks. In that time she has ended things with me 5 times. She has trust issues from past relationships. She controls my life and manipulates me, but I dont want to lose her. I have been so stressed over the past 4 weeks and have no time for myself. Why do you suppose she wanted more now and not before? She never had interest until a month ago when she found out that I had been seeing a girl.
shockandawed Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 WOW, 5 times in the last month.......and the 1st month at that. I think you know the answer here. At that rate, you will have broken up 60 times in the first year. You like slamming your hand in the car door? Then stop doing it. The first month, you are supposed to be talking about how she is so cute and just gushing all over yourself. You said she manipulates you and controls your life, and you have been so stressed about everything in the last 4 weeks. She doesn't even sound like a good friend. She needs some serious help and you need to get far, far away from her. Now take your hand out of the car door and run.
alasia Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 She never had interest until a month ago when she found out that I had been seeing a girl. There's your answer, sorry.
ratingsguy Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 You like slamming your hand in the car door? Ha! That's a good one. Seriously, brother... 5 times in the first 4 weeks? This R is doomed... it's time to move on. If you want to salvage the friendship, try going NC for a few months and see what happens.
mental_traveller Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 My girlfriend and I have been friends for 4 years. She told me that she wanted more than friends about a month ago. We have been dating exclusively for the past 4 weeks. In that time she has ended things with me 5 times. She has trust issues from past relationships. She controls my life and manipulates me, but I dont want to lose her. I have been so stressed over the past 4 weeks and have no time for myself. Why do you suppose she wanted more now and not before? She never had interest until a month ago when she found out that I had been seeing a girl. 4 weeks and already she's dumped you 5 times? Grow a set and ditch the bitch. If you feel bad, have sex with her a few times first and get it out of your system. Trust me, the first breakup is the best and should be the last.
the_total_package Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 I actually sort of agree with the poster above, kind of mean with the sex thing, but she needs to learn a lesson you don't treat someone like that. But if she's really wanting you longterm she has not slept with you yet anyway. I also agree that her interest in you isn't romantically based, she saw you showing interest in another girl and her ego couldn't take it, and she saw that you weren't going to be available to hang out with her as much. Seriously, this happened to a bf of mine. He had a female friend he had hung out with for over a year before he met me, he had already expressed being more than friends, then she shot her down and they just continued the just friends thing. Well, he started seeing me romantically and she was PI**ed, it was all about HER and 'what about all the time we hang out together..' (Of course it didn't help her situation that I was a lot cuter than her and in much better shape, she was the same height but had a good 30 pounds on me, he he)that's gonna get to a chick.) She expected a 35 year old guy not to want to date because it would take time from hanging out with her? Give me a BREAK. Anyway, it so happened he was a LOT more attracted to me, and told her to take a hike. We were in a relationship a couple years, She called and called him to get together but he didn't want to disrespect what he had me and after he met me, he really had absolutely no desire to hang out with her anyway and she eventually faded out with contacting him...So...i have a feeling this is what was going on in her head when she started seeing that you actually had interest in other women.
lovekitten95 Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Each time she ends it with me, I dont call her back. She always calls me back a day or two later. She has never appologized to me yet for her actions. And each time she calls I want her even more. Is this a game she is playing by ending it with me, telling me its over, giving me the cold shoulder then calling me back days later? She said that she can never be friends with someone she has slept with in the past...so am I being used here?
insomnie Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Save your breath people. Check out the OP's (lovekitten95) other posts. She is actually a girl that is friends with this guy and she has started about 5 threads all over loveshack asking about "manipulative" women (her "friend's" gf, that is) and how long their relationship will last. You're the controlling, manipuatlive one here. I hope your bf breaks up with you...I feel really sorry for him AND his gf; they probably don't know how hard you are trying to break them up.
magichands Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 She said that she can never be friends with someone she has slept with in the past... That's true.
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