EnigmasMuse Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 How are you with critisim? Or, how about, how do you react when someone tells you something you didn't want to hear? Do you trully listen to a person? Really listen to what is being said, or do you just assume you know what they mean without finding out for sure if you are unsure? Do you get mad if they tell you something you didn't want to hear, especially if there is even the littlest grain of truth to it? If you later on found out you were wrong for getting mad, do you tell that person you are sorry? Do you let them know "hey I'm sorry I was wrong for getting mad?" Or do you just go about your business, and not ackowledge you were wrong?
luvtoto Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Ok...enough with all the questions. What's going on??
Author EnigmasMuse Posted February 13, 2007 Author Posted February 13, 2007 Ok...enough with all the questions. What's going on?? I was talking with a friend of mine about this, she brought it up actually and asked me how I would react to certain things. I told her, the truth is sometimes hard for people to swallow and do not want to hear certain things others have to say. That is probably human nature. I'm the type of person though, that even if there is something I may not want to hear, I do not usually get mad about it especially right off the bat, I usually try to see where the person is coming from first, before I jump to assumptions or get pissed off. So thats why it was asked. Just wanted others view on how they would react or handle things in their life/situation.
jl5099 Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Me personally, I react differently in any given situation. Did the comment come out of nowhere, was it warranted, who said it, etc. I can take criticism much better from my boss than from my husband. On the other hand I don't take compliments well from anyone. I feel weird recieving them and don't usually know how to react. Just me though.
JackJack Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 I think it depends on the situation and who it was that said it to me. I haved been guilty of getting mad after someone told me something I did not care to hear, esepcially if it was someone I really cared about, because what they think matters to me. However, even though there have been times I have done that, now, I try to take a step back and say wait a minute, maybe they didn mean what I thought they meant. I would also ask them to be sure if I wasn't feeling right about not knowing. I would hate to blow something out of proportion or make it a bigger deal than what needs to be if can be helped.
luvtoto Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 With myself, I try to be upfront and honest with people. However, I used to be a bit of a back-stabber. I hated that quality about myself. So, I changed it. Now, if I have a problem with someone, I will take it straight to the source and ask them "what the hell ya doin' ". So, in turn, if someone has a bone to pick with me, I have to listen to them. They appreciate my honesty, I appreciate theirs. I have seen people TOTALLY freak out, when someone tries to offer them constructive criticism. I just figure those people have control issues. They don't know how to let go.
JackJack Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 With myself, I try to be upfront and honest with people. However, I used to be a bit of a back-stabber. I hated that quality about myself. So, I changed it. Now, if I have a problem with someone, I will take it straight to the source and ask them "what the hell ya doin' ". So, in turn, if someone has a bone to pick with me, I have to listen to them. They appreciate my honesty, I appreciate theirs. I have seen people TOTALLY freak out, when someone tries to offer them constructive criticism. I just figure those people have control issues. They don't know how to let go. At least you realized how you were acting and changed it. Kind of like how I did too. I so agree with the last part, I have found that to be true.
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