whatisthat Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 i have no clue what is going on here. I love this girl and i have been with her for almost a year. She is lovely , intelligent, independent , good carier and beautiful.. She is the best gf i ever had. what happened is i always travell for business meeting for very often and our communication level was pretty low lately. yet She never betrayed me and she always has 1001 things to do. She is very busy with her work ,very active, very carrier-oriented , sometimes workaholic and bunch of friends. But i dont have reason for breaking up because i love her even when she is difficult. We had an argument for several times but we always get back together . few days ago she said to me , that she would not sleep with me anymore . She believe that this is the right thing to do for her and she said she wants to be with someone who loves her sincerely ans she would not have sex with anyone anymore until she gets married. She said she felt guilty everytime she made love with me. She said she wants to be fair to me and ask me to think about it. If i dont agree , she suggested me to leave her n to be friends. I try to undersand her but it is too complicated for me .I love her a lot and she is so lovely. Today she said , she suggested us to be friends and she said that i am special for her but she thought that we believe in and want different things in life. She said that i like luxury and to be a socialite but she is not lookin for tat. She is well to do and come from well-off back ground but she likes to have a simple life.She said, she wants her life to have more impact to the people around her and she wants to be sweetly remembered by others, not only about money. She said what i want in life is too shallow and very material oriented. I understand and i appreciate that she has a desire to love people around her and she is quite understanding person , i should say. She always told me to be more patient to people . But i dont know what to say and if anyone of you can tell me what happened ? I know she doesnt have someone else, because she is not the type who is fooling around . She asked me to think about it. what does it mean ? i dont think i have done anything wrong ...
ratingsguy Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Well it definately looks like she's beginning to pull away. When the person you're with starts pointing out your differences, it's not a good sign. Luckily, she's putting the ball in your court. I'd sit down and talk with her, find out what she's feeling and tell her how you feel. If you can't come to a resolution, it might be time to end this R. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but good luck to you.
CaliGuy Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Is she religious at all? If so, then I would honor her request. To not do so would be to essentially say you are not respecting her. Believe it or not this has happened to me some time ago and I didn't listen. Bad things will happen when you become so self-centered. This is important to her, and if you wish to carry on the relationship with her, it should be important to you as well.
LakesideDream Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Sounds like she had a "Dr. Laura" moment. If she's the girl for you it looks like you need to start rehabbing your lifestyle and make an honest play for her. It appears that she wants family, and stability over money and bling. Hard to fault her for that. You have some bBig decisions coming up.
whatisthat Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Is she religious at all? If so, then I would honor her request. To not do so would be to essentially say you are not respecting her. Believe it or not this has happened to me some time ago and I didn't listen. Bad things will happen when you become so self-centered. This is important to her, and if you wish to carry on the relationship with her, it should be important to you as well. yes, she is a religious person. But it just recently she decided not to sleep with me anymore and she said it against what she believes. I respect that she believes in bibble and so do i but i dont understand why she cant sleep with my any longer. I am not using her for sex , i slept with her because i am really in love with her and i really have feeling for her. What is wrong with sleeping with the person you love ?
whatisthat Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Sounds like she had a "Dr. Laura" moment. If she's the girl for you it looks like you need to start rehabbing your lifestyle and make an honest play for her. It appears that she wants family, and stability over money and bling. Hard to fault her for that. You have some bBig decisions coming up. I am sorry i dont understand what is "Dr.Laura " moment ? I am not native from US . Would you explain me more on this ? Well, i dont really think family is my priority now , she is in the late 20's and i am early 30's - we just been together for a year and i think it is too soon to have a family now. I really like her and i really love her but it doesnt mean i have to marry her soon right ? She is indeed a wonderful person, kind hearted , very talented in her work , pretty and really intelligent.But , i am not ready for family now. I dont know if i will lose someone like her. It is really the end of the R ? why did she make things so difficult now ? i didnt do anything wrong to her
whatisthat Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 now i am feeling miserable. I even couldnt barely look at her when she walked away that night. I am not ready for a family or marriage and somehow i felt that i am not someone whom she is looking for. I felt sad when i thought that I would not see her again and I wont be in her future. I decided to break up and she was very calm and she gave me a kiss and hugged me . I couldnt believe my self that i cried. She just asked me to take care of my self and remind me not to take this and that as she concerns with my health and she said she appreciated whatever decision i made. I tried my best not to cry and i dont want to cry infront of a woman,but I couldnt do that with this chick. Especially when she hugged me and said that i wont have a girlfriend who always pinch my butt ( she likes to do so ), that moment i just broke down and terribly sad. I didnt know if it would be the best solution for my situation now. I miss her badly and i realize how much i love her. Is it really the end of my relationship ?
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