Guest Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Dear All, I'm raw since this only happened two days ago and it's like time has stopped. 1. Get a call from unknown person this Sunday, saying something has been going on at my wife's workpalce between her and another man and "haven't you realised she has been late returning home?" and then puts phone down. 2.She often says when clocking off that she is talking with friends and catching up with others and coming home on average 45 minutes late from finishing , when the time it takes is 10 mins in travelling to home. 3. Anyway I follow her with my kid brother driving and she leaves work and is immediately recieving a call and gets in to her car and starts driving going round and round a roundabout (i'm thinking now she knows we are on her tail) and going past a bus stop and taking a sharp left into a closed sunday night (20:10) isolated from view supermarket car park with no other cars apart from truckers asleep and no view from the main road of fellow colleagues leaving work also. 4. She pulls up and turns of the lights ,and in a few minutes a 'guy' (skinny weasel) appears looking around possibly for a car and goes straight to her car and before entering looks left and right and they drive off. 5. Angry more than me (i'm shell -shocked), my brother revs up and intercepts the car. 6. My wife get's out obviously startled and so does the weasel, with my brother appearing threatening he understandably runs like lightning and I get into all mighty row with my wife with her claming there is nothing going on and attempts to call the weasel a half a dozen times to prove her point. 7. He eventually returns with a burly friend for backup, which fires me up and before the weasel I immediately confront the large chap, who realises my anger immediately shows signs and words of "coming in peace". 8. Weasel claims he lives in another suburb (when I found beforehand he lives nearby) and needed a lift, and claims he came to shop (everyone knows in the UK supermarkets close at 16:00 on a Sunday) . When the wife is confronted she states she gives a lift to nearby bus stop which is barely a 5 minute walk away and DOES NOT KNOW where he precisely lives. 9. I get hold of a another senior work colleague and their manager via the moible and ask if they have seen anything, pleading i'm her husband with a gorgeous 3 year child to look after. They both calmly state it is well known they get on, and the weasel is a known chancer, but both in sincere honest opinions believe it is nothing more than that ( however they stress they did not know about the lifts she gave and amount of phone call between them). 10. Weasel asks for me to got o their workplace physically and ask anyone else 11. Her last two months mobile phone bills has one consistent number, even above my mobile number and she claimed over a month ago it was a "fellow female worker" and when I ring it turns out it is the weasels. The wife claims she didn't tell me for I'll get angry (We both made a promise only a few months back , partly insitgated by her that we will knows the limts of meeting up with fellow workers of the opposite sex.) 12. Next day I speak to him again and he tells me he panicked and in fear for his life lied (so why did my wife back him up?) and he lives nearby and stresses he they are only "friends" and just talk and gives me details of his fiance , who also happens to work in the same place and knows about their plain friendship. 13. Spent the entire night and next day pushing the wife for how long the affair has been going on and she consistently denies it is nothing more than friendship but eventually admits,"The circumstances could lead an average Joe to think otherwise but never an affair or naything like it" 14. Another fellow worker is spoken to and she claims also "in my opinion nothing is going on" 15. I'm stressed and ask my wife to leave, and she replies she will do whatever I ask BUT not leave for " Only love you and no one else" and the weasel is someone she got on with and nothing more and willing to quit her work place to prove the point. 16. Despite the repeated bombardment of questions she still stresses nothing was going on, though they always had about a 25 minute window to do something? 17. Wife has agreed to any form testing of any sort to prove her point that it was nothing physical ever from a lie detector to hypnosis and remember she has agreed to find another workplace .... 18. May be we intercepted too early with hindsight and why did the mysterious call prove truish ? and also those pictures in my head are driving me crazy but did she or she didn't she in "my IMHO" please ?
seibert253 Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 I sorry to say your wife is pulling your chain. She's a liar. If her skinny chap was only a friend, why did he run for his life when the husband showed up on the scene. If he did nothing wrong, he had no reason to beat feet. My wife has several male friends, as I have several female friends, and we both know who these people are. Having a "friend" of the opposite sex, and not telling your mate about it is disrespectful if not deceitful. If this chap was only a friend, why was your wife hiding him? If she loves you, and values your marriage, then she should break all contact with this skinny fellow. Tell your wife she has two options 1. No contact with "Joe" and marriage counseling, or 2. She can move out, (help her pack). You'll be better off in the long run. Peace and God Bless.
michelangelo Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 And insist your wife take a polygraph test. Her willingness to take it or not will mean a lot. If she didn't do anything she'll jumpo at the chance to clear things up. On the other hand, if she gets all offended that you would doubt her, then you also have your answer. In either case, don't have sex with her until you are sure she has no communicable STDs.
whichwayisup Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Maybe she was banging this guy, maybe they just fooled around, but either way she was/is GETTING SOMETHING from him. Maybe emotionally too. Make sure she completely ENDS it with this guy and if that means her quitting her job, going to marriage counselling with you and being an open book to you about EVERYTHING (cell, email, passwords, all of it) then DO it. She deserves a chance to try to fix things with you. And, if she can't or won't end it with the OM, then atleast you know you've tried to save your marriage. I hope things get worked out, even more so for the sake of your child.
Sup Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 From the looks of it, YEAH, she's BANGING him. She even took HIS side? Get a good Lawyer, MAN.
LakesideDream Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Wow, you don't waste time. Anyhow, if this guy is really a skinny weasel you are in luck. In most jurisdictions, including all of the U.K. interspecies sex is illegal, and certainly qualifies as grounds for divorce. I'm not sure it's worth pressing the point though. Even if your wife is a Life Member of PETA, having a clandestine relationship with a small mammal like a weasel won't reflect very well on you. Maybe it would just be best to kick her to the curb. Think of the embarrassment you would suffer if she presented you with a litter of "weasel-oids".
BeenAround_N_Back Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Yup, she did. If you want her to stop, you have to let her know that you will not accept this crap. Separate for a while! Even if you have a 3 yr old kid. Let her know that things cannot continue the way it is going. She is being selfish right now, not thinking about you, not thinking about her kid.
directx Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 You are being played, and from the sounds of it your wife knows how to fool you. Dont be offended, she is just abusing your trust and its easy to do. You have two choices as I see it: 1) Drop her now 2) Lower your guard, let her get comfortable, and catch her undeniably cheating (if thats what she is doing. Could be doing drugs). Then drop her. She thinks she is smarter than you and let her believe that. I would invest in a private investagator. I would also start securing your funds as well.
Frances Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 I take it you are not a weasel so why would she bother with him. I think she is up to something else with him but I do not think its an affair. I would certainly want to know what is though.
LakesideDream Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 The drug dealer angle occurred to me as well. Maybe the weasel is getting into her pocketbook.... Either way, it's time to find out what's actually going on. Bug the car with a digital recorder, put a keylogger on your computer, and watch the cell phone call log like an eagle (mortal enemy of weasels). Remember to direct your anger toward your wayward wife. The weasel is just a varmit, his responsibility is minimal.
Gunny376 Posted April 12, 2007 Posted April 12, 2007 You going to believe me? Or your lying eyes? Somethings a'foot!
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