LaughMachine Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Valentine's Day is two days away. Last week I was ok, and this afternoon I just started thinking about my ex and VD. I have no one in my life and she has her new man to spend VD with. I bet they're so in love and happy. Barf. I really hope they're happy and they have a great day. Right. Holidays suck when you're alone, don't they? I was doing better at the end of last week and now after thinking about VD this afternoon, I've gone back to "I hate that fckn *#*%$*" ten or twenty times a day. I guess I should be celebrating that I'm not with that cheating, lying, no-good, drinking ho. Any suggestions? How do you guys get over the anger and past VD? Holdiays will suck when someone has left you for another. Not trying to shove that in your face but I know how you feel...Don't put them on a pedistool just because your hurt, they will have their own set of problems! The only way you get over the anger is by accepting the anger and moving forward with it. I don't want to scare you but after a year and 5 months I'm still feeling angry( but thankfully, in a different way) As time goes on, you will learn to get used to these feelings and cope better. Try to think of positive things and what it will feel like to truly be over this girl! Psh shes bringing her deranged problems to someone else, and he has to deal with them NOT you. Your hurt man and many here can sympathsize with you deeply.
McFadden Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 well I sure did something bad today, in a panic I got back with this random ex (who I had an extremely crappy relationship with and no longer have any emotional attatchment to) just because I was afraid of being alone on the cursed holiday. I asked out of nowhere, and I was so surprised when he said "yeah why not." He later admitted is in it for the same reason, VD blues and embarrassed about being single. We are not even going to do anything romantic, we are going to get a pizza or something and it is understood we will probably break up the day after VD. I thought about it and I don't give a sh*t if I'm single next week, half of the reason I have been so miserable about my breakup is because of the pressure of VD. Nonetheless, I somehow feel good now because I know my ex is single and I'm not (although I'm not going to mention it to him unless he asks, I'm keeping low contact.) I feel like having another relationship puts distance between me and him, and I'm not so dependent on him. So as sucky as this is, whatever makes me feel better and gets me through this cursed day I have been dreading for weeks. Anyway with much regret I'm going to have to ditch the single on VD club!
Author Davis Posted February 13, 2007 Author Posted February 13, 2007 HAHAHAHAAH - is it just me who reads VD as Venereal Diseases?? The first time I read this post I roared with laughter. Just thought you all might appreciate a lighter interpretation of this post. Hey Confucious, when I first wrote that post and put VD I realized it looked like Veneral Disease and I had to laugh myself. I didn't want to get off my topic going there, but since you mention it, I hope that drinking, cheating, slutty ex of mine did not give me VD! Seriously! She was fixed and we never used condoms. Scarey! Maybe her new "man" is going to give her VD for VD!
Author Davis Posted February 13, 2007 Author Posted February 13, 2007 If it wasn't Valentine's Day tommorow i don't think you would be stressing this situation so much! Honestly... wouldn't you rather be alone on Valentine's instead of just having some one there who's not worth a penny? Celebrate your strength as a person tommorow. Next year could be much different. You're right. It's just that tomorrow is VD and that made me start thinking the other day that I have no one special right now and she does. That made me start thinking about her and that I hate what she did to me. That's all. No, I would not want to be with someone that's not worth a penny. Next year will be different! I will have the perfect woman in my life!
Author Davis Posted February 13, 2007 Author Posted February 13, 2007 Davis - "Knowing her, she won't be able to handle the day, will get drunk, and they'll have a blowout" - Aren't you HAPPY it WON"T be with YOU!!! Haha! That's a very good point and reminder! Yes! I am happy it won't be with me!! That reminds me that I was tired of the times she would binge drink and I would wonder what kind of a blowout we would have or what would happen. I don't miss that! Hope HE enjoys it with her!
Author Davis Posted February 13, 2007 Author Posted February 13, 2007 LOL... what the ..... "Fixed"?? She had her tubes tied years ago. It was great not having to use condoms, but now knowing the other guys she has had sex with without protection before me and when she cheated on me is not only gross but really scarey. Now I have to tested for HIV in 6 months. Nice.
guin_girl Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 "Fixed"?? She had her tubes tied years ago. It was great not having to use condoms, but now knowing the other guys she has had sex with without protection before me and when she cheated on me is not only gross but really scarey. Now I have to tested for HIV in 6 months. Nice. Sorry... just thought it was amusing that you used the term "fixed" like a dog... didn't mean to upset ya
Author Davis Posted February 13, 2007 Author Posted February 13, 2007 No worries. She's kinda like a dog; humping whatever she can find. Actually she's a ho. They fix hoes because they do not want them reproducing and having little ho-lettes!
SHMILY Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Well, thank school for keeing me busy on VD! I have two midterms and a 3-hour night class on that day. So the workload leaves me no time to feel down. cheer up, singles!!!
Guest Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Hey. Im really heartbroken at the time as well, and what has honestly been making me feel better, cliched as it is, is just doing nice things for myself. Even if it's just me, I still cook a great dinner. I take a little while every day to just appreciate all of the things that Ive been blessed with and all that I have to offer and to make sure that Ive forgiven myself for any mistakes that Ive made. It's not a really big help- because at least every hour or so Im still trying to figure out if I will still get my ex back. But every time I take time to do something good for myself, it gets me a little bit closer to realizing that whether I get them back or not, there are still tons of options out there for me and one day I'll be ready for all of them.
mental_traveller Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Any suggestions? How do you guys get over the anger and past VD? If I'm single, I find that drink, more drink, and (hopefully) some sex or at least a bit of groping seems to make things better
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