Davis Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Valentine's Day is two days away. Last week I was ok, and this afternoon I just started thinking about my ex and VD. I have no one in my life and she has her new man to spend VD with. I bet they're so in love and happy. Barf. I really hope they're happy and they have a great day. Right. Holidays suck when you're alone, don't they? I was doing better at the end of last week and now after thinking about VD this afternoon, I've gone back to "I hate that fckn *#*%$*" ten or twenty times a day. I guess I should be celebrating that I'm not with that cheating, lying, no-good, drinking ho. Any suggestions? How do you guys get over the anger and past VD?
McFadden Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 ^ ditto. I plan on coming straight home from school that day and getting in bed and asleep at 3 pm, where I will remain until the cursed day is over. no tv, no computer, no wishing my friends a good day, no reminders of other's hapiness.
guin_girl Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 well I will avoid cyber stalking Probably work on my group project for class. although I will probably end up watching Friday Night Lights, American Idol, commiserating on here and chatting with other online buddies. In other words, treat it like any other day...
Cossette4 Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Same here. I WILL NOT be signing online to read everyone's joyfilled away messages of "Out with my sweetie on Valentine's Day:love: !" I'm just going to lounge around and rent some non-love related movies or maybe read a non-love related book. Davis, I know we do the same thing (thinking the ex is sooooo happy with the new person). And we always have to tell each other, "You don't know that for sure so don't assume it's perfect." So, it looks like it's my turn to tell you---don't assume their day will be perfect. Or more importantly, don't assume their lives are going to be perfect and you will never have another drop of happiness. There's a good chance next Valentine's Day could be amazing for you and horrible for her. But by then, you probably won't even care what her day is like. This is only ONE DAY....instead of absolutely dreading it, let's look forward to February 15th! Won't that be an awesome day? Those ridiculous jewelry commercials will stop, no one will be walking around so obsessively love struck, and it will be the FURTHEST day from Valentine's Day 2008. Yay.
Cossette4 Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Um whoa. I'm an Established Member? What does that even mean and how exactly did that happen?
McFadden Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 How could he dump me in february? i hate him! i hate him! (had to get that off my chest)
Author Davis Posted February 13, 2007 Author Posted February 13, 2007 Or more importantly, don't assume their lives are going to be perfect and you will never have another drop of happiness. There's a good chance next Valentine's Day could be amazing for you and horrible for her. But by then, you probably won't even care what her day is like. This is only ONE DAY....instead of absolutely dreading it, let's look forward to February 15th! Won't that be an awesome day? Those ridiculous jewelry commercials will stop, no one will be walking around so obsessively love struck, and it will be the FURTHEST day from Valentine's Day 2008. Yay. I hope their lives aren't perfect!! Knowing her she won't be able to handle that day, will get drunk and they'll have a blow out. Then he'll see the real her if he hasn't already. I don't think that I'll never have another drop of happiness, I know I will. I'm just impatient!! Oh for sure next year I won't care what her day is like! Haha! That second part is funny! February 15th all the bs WILL be gone and it's not for another 364 days! Maybe our luck will change by then. Thanks you ESTABLISHED MEMBER!!
Author Davis Posted February 13, 2007 Author Posted February 13, 2007 How could he dump me in february? i hate him! i hate him! (had to get that off my chest) McFadden! How could he dump you in Feb? Because he's a loser and a fckn a*$*(@?? "i hate him! i hate him!? You can do much better than that!! Try "I hate that fckn &%&)#" !! I know people here will tell me my anger is counter productive, but I've found it better than missing her and pining away! Plus I've cycled through all the stages of grief and I think going through the anger stage again is putting me close to the end of all of this BS.
ratingsguy Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Well, try and think about the money you'll save not having to go out and buy a Valentine's Day gift. Or better yet, take that same money and buy yourself something really cool. I'm also looking forward to February 15th!
guin_girl Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 I'm also looking forward to February 15th! Chocolate 50% off!! Works for me...
Heartache11 Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Yup, being dumped a week before Valentine's Day after a 2 & 1/2 year relationship is awful! It's my cousin's birthday though. I think I'll just think about that or try to at least!
AriaIncognito Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Same here. This is only ONE DAY....instead of absolutely dreading it, let's look forward to February 15th! Won't that be an awesome day? Those ridiculous jewelry commercials will stop, no one will be walking around so obsessively love struck, and it will be the FURTHEST day from Valentine's Day 2008. Yay. It would be an awesome day, except for the fact that it would have been our 1 year anniversary Damned february. I can't wait for this week to be over! I hate valentines day and our anniversary!!!!! He wont even give it a second thought.
jusified Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 HAHAHA, Poor broken hearts. Why even care guys?? The right one will come soon enough and then everyday will be wonderful. Alot better then some stupid commercialised day made up for retailers. Don't feel sad, be happy there are other ppl who are happy and know you will be there one day in the near future ... smile and be positive, these are the only things that will get you there faster.
resi71 Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 my girl break up with me before x-mas(did not say reason)then i had little surgery,new year,my b-day ,now valetines day.it makes me sometimes so mad that i wish she gets everything duble back from her new BF( ia msure she have)well i just try not to think about VD and get some drinks
LakesideDream Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Well this is a touchy one. My .50 cents. I really enjoy holidays, including the "made up" Valentines holiday. It gives me the oppertunity to send a few nice gifts, and a beautiful flower arraingment to my sweetheart. Understand LS'ers my sweetie isn't "mine", and hasn't been for six long years, (after a 34 year "break") she's also 600 odd miles distant. We are friends, in contact sparingly, and have very deep feelings for each other... being together just isn't possible, and may never be. She has been the love of my life for 40 years this month. Valentines, like Christmas and her Birthday give me the chance to be extravagent, and to brighten her life. I look forward to it, and wouldn't miss it for the world. Oh.. and making her happy, brings me joy... however fleeting. Sometimes being in love can be difficult and even hurtful, just not on Valentines. My advice, don't waste your Youth. If you can spread happiness however ephemeral, Carpe Diem.
MotherGooze Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 well, I have a boyfriend but I still hate Valentines day. I love my BF everyday and care for him everyday, it doesn't matter for me. So you guys, if you find your special person don't make valentines day too special...make evryday special!
alasia Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 I've always been single on Valentines Day... *shrugs* My ex is working all day on Wednesday...hahahaha...
taylor Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Davis - "Knowing her, she won't be able to handle the day, will get drunk, and they'll have a blowout" - Aren't you HAPPY it WON"T be with YOU!!! Quin - Ditto on the chocolate!! See the chocolate, smell the chocolate, eat the chocolate - then hit the gym!!! Not trying to sound too altruistic here, but I plan on making some Valentine heart sugar cookies and taking them to my maternal grandmother and my paternal grandfather who reside in a nearby nursing home. One is in a wheelchair (can't walk) and the other has moderate Alzheimer's. When I think about their losses, mine look miniscule. I say spread the love on Valentine's Day to those who really need it and will appreciate it!
HGP Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 I've always been single on Valentines Day... *shrugs* Same here. This year it sucks though because I'm in love with someone... and she's with someone else.
confucious Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Valentine's Day is two days away. Last week I was ok, and this afternoon I just started thinking about my ex and VD. I have no one in my life and she has her new man to spend VD with. I bet they're so in love and happy. Barf. I really hope they're happy and they have a great day. Right. Holidays suck when you're alone, don't they? I was doing better at the end of last week and now after thinking about VD this afternoon, I've gone back to "I hate that fckn *#*%$*" ten or twenty times a day. I guess I should be celebrating that I'm not with that cheating, lying, no-good, drinking ho. Any suggestions? How do you guys get over the anger and past VD? HAHAHAHAAH - is it just me who reads VD as Venereal Diseases?? The first time I read this post I roared with laughter. Just thought you all might appreciate a lighter interpretation of this post. As for me - I am going to thoroughly enjoy myself, be it out with friends having drinks, watching a movie at home, or perhaps (I am entertaining the thought) out on a date with an extremely cute woman I met on the weekend. Viva mon vie!!! (can you tell French is not my language?? heheheheh)
RocketMan2 Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Valentine's Day is two days away. Last week I was ok, and this afternoon I just started thinking about my ex and VD. I have no one in my life and she has her new man to spend VD with. I bet they're so in love and happy. Barf. I really hope they're happy and they have a great day. Right. Holidays suck when you're alone, don't they? I was doing better at the end of last week and now after thinking about VD this afternoon, I've gone back to "I hate that fckn *#*%$*" ten or twenty times a day. I guess I should be celebrating that I'm not with that cheating, lying, no-good, drinking ho. Any suggestions? How do you guys get over the anger and past VD? ohhhhhhhhhh "VD" means valentines day, not.....nevermind lol Makes sense now! Edit: Ha!, just seen your post confucious! Rocket
HennyPenny Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Valentine's Day sucks as a single woman, but it sucked as a married woman too. Valentine's Day is for those lucky people in healthy relationships who are able to anticipate one another's wants and needs and are capable of having a fun, romantic day. Otherwise it's just heartbreak and disappointment when you realize what a jackass you're married to. Valentine's Day is a ripoff retail holiday that should be abolished.
sunangel Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 If it wasn't Valentine's Day tommorow i don't think you would be stressing this situation so much! Honestly... wouldn't you rather be alone on Valentine's instead of just having some one there who's not worth a penny? I have a Valentine's for the first time in a long time this year. But if he wasn't any good i promise you i would rather be alone than live a lie for the sake of just saying i have a Valentine.... Celebrate your strength as a person tommorow. Next year could be much different.
guin_girl Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Valentine.... Celebrate your strength as a person tomorrow. Next year could be much different. Sadly I have been saying that for too many years now...
alasia Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 You know what? I read HennyPenny's post and it got me thinking; even if I was still with my ex, he wouldn't have done anything for Valentines Day, he just doesn't think that way (ooh...I'm a poet! ) For Christmas I got a card that he only bought last-minute because I'd bought him one and a cute teddy - good, you might think; at least he got a present - but no, his sister in law gave it to him to give to me (and he told me about it when she gave it to him!). I'd bought him a couple of presents which I spent ages choosing. Don't get me wrong, I'm not just into grand gestures and recieving expensive gifts; spending Christmas with him was lovely (despite the fact he barely spoke to me, and we did exactly the same as usual - visit his mum, go to see my family for 30 minutes then watch tv all night) but a bit of thought would have been nice. In a weird way I'm glad I'll be single tomorrow; I can pamper myself and not sit waiting for some sort of romantic gesture or to spend time with him, then be bitterly disappointed when it doesn't happen.
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