Guest Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 New to this thread but need some advice. Background: First serious boyfriend from when I was 15. We were off and on for a few years and while we were off he ended up moving away but not before he told me that he loved me and made many mistakes. I gave the "too little too late speech" although had longed to hear that for so long. A year or so later or NC I found a great guy and began a serious relationship with him. The ex then contacted me via email and messenger and we became friends...gave advice to each other on new relationships etc. My boyfriend and I ended up going on a break a few years back and my ex and I got to talking about "us" and I flew out to visit him. We discussed getting back to together and the weekend was wonderful. Upon coming home he ended up going through some career issues which he had a hard time dealing with. I then heard through mutual friends that he had gotten his ex pregnant during this time. I obviously cut all contact with him although never received an explanation. I ended getting back to together with my boyfriend and we are now happily married. My ex is also married and they now have a baby together. That was two years ago and out of the blue he emailed me...it was just a forward...but we got joking a little back and forth and he apologized for what happened and that it was a dark period for him and I made a comment about being "friends". He wrote back that he would love to be friends with me but it would be too difficult. I want to write him an email asking why we couldn't be friends. We are both married...me happily...and I just want to keep in enough contact to know that he is still alive. I still care about him. I just need an explanation in order to continue my life and be comfortable with what happened to us. I just want that door to close for the both of us. Am I asking too much?
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