Guest Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 My husband and I have been married for 15 years. We have hit bumps in the road just as many couples have. I can also say he is a paranoid insecure person by nature it seems. I have always known him to be like this, and perhaps this is all that it is, but....... Yesterday, I noticed he was taking the trash out, to put in our big trash can outside, and when he came back in, I saw him slide something in his pocket. It was a piece of paper. I didn't ask anything baout it, and thought it was kind of odd. Later on I saw him go back outside to the trash can, lift the lid like he was putting something back in the trash can. He goes off to run errands and I'm thinking, ok whats the deal with that. So I go outsidfe lift the lid, and what had he done? He poked a hole in the trash bag, dug out the piece of paper I saw him slip in his pocker earlier, and it was my grocery list! He slid the paper back in the hole he made to pull it out. Here is the thing. About 4 years ago, this man did the same thing, when I stepped on the porch he was digging, actually digging in the trash can, There was pieces of paper, in his hand, and on the ground. When he turned around and saw me, he looked like a deer caught in headlights! I was calm and cool and about to laugh as well, and I asked what he was doing, He got really scared looking, and started shoving the paper back in the trash can and said, "nothing I;m not doing nothing." It never ceases to amaze me. I know some of you are thinking well maybe he feels he has reason to dig. Maybe he does feel that way, but guess what, he doesn't have reason. I have never given him a reason to think otherwise. I don't know if its just in his head, if that insecurity/paranoia kicks in sometimes or what. Makes me wonder how long he has been digging in the trash. It seems he keeps digging only to come up empty handed. I'm not sure exactly what it is he is hoping to find or not find. I asked him before why he digs in the trash and what it is he seems to be looking for. I get no answer. He just sits there like he has no clue. Why would he keep doing this? It almost like he is not satisfied until he finds what he is looking for.
JackJack Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 I think one of three things might be going on with him. In no partcular order, either he is; 1. Just plain insecure period, and needs some help for it. 2. He thinks you are up to something and is checking to see what. 3. He has done something, and his guilt makes him feel you may be doing the same thing, or that you are on to him. Maybe someone else will have a better answer.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 Put something really cool that will pique his curiosity on the shopping list, like "Wii for Bob" or whatever you hubby's name is.
JackJack Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Put something really cool that will pique his curiosity on the shopping list, like "Wii for Bob" or whatever you hubby's name is. Yeah..and when you don't follow through with getting what you put on your list, he will really become suspicious and think its for someone else.
polywog Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Why don't you keep writing "I love you *his name*" on slips of paper and sticking them in the trash so he finds that someday?
Guest Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Put something really cool that will pique his curiosity on the shopping list, like "Wii for Bob" or whatever you hubby's name is. Well we already have a Wii but thanks for the suggestion. Why don't you keep writing "I love you *his name*" on slips of paper and sticking them in the trash so he finds that someday? I thought of that, and I may try it. But you know, he is one of these people that I could tell, him show him, or write it down how I feel about him and he just doesn't truly believe it. So until he believes it, it proabably wouldn't matter, but I could give it a shot. Its sad when one thinks so little of themselves.
Krytellan Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Smack him on the nose with a rolled up newspaper and say, "BAD BOY... NO DIGGING" If that doesn't work, put a mouse trap in a paper bag and wait til he comes across that sucker... that'll fix him.
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