laRubiaBonita Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 i just got a compliment on some perfume, Happy, that i have not worn in months, maybe even years! the reason i did not wear Happy and Sunflowers was because an ex asked me not to because, he told me, it reminded him of his exgf.... so i stopped wearing it very much. The compliment i got just kinda spurred this feeling of liberation that i had felt this morning when i "rediscover" the scents i love so much! it is soo nice Not to be told what to wear, who i can and cannot talk with or hang out with, what i should or shouldn't eat and drink..... i miss it like i miss liver.
kitten chick Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 I think that's the best part of a breakup, going back to doing the things that you like but couldn't do with your ex
KittenMoon Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 ? I never understood this. The only thing I can recall not being able to do when I was with my ex was date other guys.
Author laRubiaBonita Posted February 12, 2007 Author Posted February 12, 2007 ? I never understood this. The only thing I can recall not being able to do when I was with my ex was date other guys. then that is good! it is trivial things, but big enough to irk the hell outta you.... like: the ex was totally anti- high fructose corn syrup and would make the biggest deal outta of it being used by anyone, especially me
Pyro Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 This is quite embarassing, but I had an ex who was so insecure that I could never hang out with my friends without her and I could never wear a nice shirt or look nice when I was away from her. Yes, I was young, inexperienced and stupid back then.
luvtoto Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 This is quite embarassing, but I had an ex who was so insecure that I could never hang out with my friends without her and I could never wear a nice shirt or look nice when I was away from her. Yes, I was young, inexperienced and stupid back then. I can relate to that last statement, Riddler. When I was in a relationship, he wanted me to 'grow my hair long'. After I got dumped...the first thing I did was chop it off!! Now, it's long again...but cause I want it long.
RecordProducer Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 it is soo nice Not to be told what to wear, who i can and cannot talk with or hang out with, what i should or shouldn't eat and drink..... i miss it like i miss liver. Just being curious, did you go along with his demands or did you oppose to him? Cuz I have a afeeling that even the strongest female personalities tend to bend too much...
Author laRubiaBonita Posted February 12, 2007 Author Posted February 12, 2007 Just being curious, did you go along with his demands or did you oppose to him? Cuz I have a afeeling that even the strongest female personalities tend to bend too much... i really only paid lip service to his demands, especially when he would not do some of the same things for me. Major double standards. But, RP, i am generally the type that if you tell not to do something i probably will do it, maybe not right then... but at some point to be spiteful. it is one thing for an SO to choose to want to give up something or change for their partner.... but not to be forced and coerced into it.
Pyro Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 I can relate to that last statement, Riddler. When I was in a relationship, he wanted me to 'grow my hair long'. After I got dumped...the first thing I did was chop it off!! Now, it's long again...but cause I want it long. Was it just a wish of his, or did he tell you that you have to grow it long? With the ex that I am referring to, nothing was negotiated. It was her way or no way. it is one thing for an SO to choose to want to give up something or change for their partner.... but not to be forced and coerced into it. Exactly. The person tends to resent the other if they feel or have been forced into doing something. I mean knowone likes to be told what to do.
RecordProducer Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 i really only paid lip service to his demands, especially when he would not do some of the same things for me. Major double standards. But, RP, i am generally the type that if you tell not to do something i probably will do it, maybe not right then... but at some point to be spiteful. it is one thing for an SO to choose to want to give up something or change for their partner.... but not to be forced and coerced into it.I see. Thanks.
luvtoto Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Was it just a wish of his, or did he tell you that you have to grow it long? With the ex that I am referring to, nothing was negotiated. It was her way or no way. Exactly. The person tends to resent the other if they feel or have been forced into doing something. I mean knowone likes to be told what to do. It was his way or the highway. That's why I cut it after we broke up. As kind of a F-U statement! Made me feel liberated. He was controlling in other ways. It was funny, because his new gf had short hair when he met her. A year into the relationship...her hair was grown out, too!
magichands Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Damn. I thought this thread was going to be about anal sex. How disappointing.
Pyro Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 It was his way or the highway. That's why I cut it after we broke up. As kind of a F-U statement! Made me feel liberated. He was controlling in other ways. It was funny, because his new gf had short hair when he met her. A year into the relationship...her hair was grown out, too! Geez, what a loser. I know this guy who dated this girl. She was sweet as can be, but he was a control freak. She had to stop wearing make-up and could only wear baggier clothes. Talk about insecurities at their worst.
AriaIncognito Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 I think some of us succomb to their wishes just to please them, not to "obey" them so to speak. I've grown my hair longer for men in the past, but not because they demanded it, or even asked flat out for it. If they mention they like it long, and I dont mind it long, then I'll do it. However, I wont go against something I dont like, for the sake of keeping a man. That's just not worth it I started to grow my hair longer for my recent ex. I had it cut off the next day too hehe
magichands Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 If they mention they like it long, and I dont mind it long, then I'll do it. So... you do it depending on length. I think I get it. Do you tell them that you like it long, too?
AriaIncognito Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 One track mind, magichands. Leading straight to your right hand ;-)
Teacher's Pet Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 One track mind, magichands. Leading straight to your right hand ;-) LOL...... :) Jenn, you cut your hair? I love you with the longer hair. It's so you.... *growl* -tp more to pull on
AriaIncognito Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Well, if i didn't keep growing it for him then why would i grow it for you :-P And no, I didn't cut it recently, this was October break up, not January LOL hard to keep up, i know
magichands Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 hard to keep up, i know I know that feeling.
Teacher's Pet Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Well, if i didn't keep growing it for him then why would i grow it for you :-P Because I'm Jew 2!!! :) And yeah, it's hard to keep up. I'm barely keeping up with our show! LOL -tp save the.... carpenter?
RecordProducer Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Because I'm Jew 2!!! :) They say there are around 6 million Jews in the United States, but at least one out of 5 people I meet are Jewish. It means there are 60 million Jews in the US.
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