Ex Girlfriend

[BklynGuy]

Dated ex for 4 1/2 years. We broke up on bad terms. I moved on and began dating other people. She came back a while later and wanted to be friends with benefits. We did the whole benefits thing for a while. Problem is I am not attracted to her like I once was.

 

She was trying to help me out in many areas of my life. Help me with my problems and getting into a higher paying job. It was as if she was trying to be there for me like we were still together but we were not. This is a time in my life when I really needed her. She began to suspect I was not really attracted to her. I tried to avoid this topic for as long as I could. It finally all came out and now she is gone again. She says she can't be around me knowing how I feel and how I look at her. I feel terrible because I know I hurt her. There's really no fix for this situation. Funny thing is she was never really my type physically. We got together when I was young and I believe part of it was my own insecurtiy. I felt like there would be less threats as she was overweight. I just don't feel attracted to that anymore. What can I do?

[Guest]

The best thing you can do for both of you is be completely honest with her. You don't have to be cruel obviously but you can let her know you don't see a future.

[Am4Real]

I just don't feel attracted to that anymore. What can I do?

 

 

In my opinion I would have you "do the right thing", be straight with her about your present feeling regarding the situation leaving out the unattractive part or anything derogatory as well as interpretive. Be consistent in your presentation of your feelings and repetitive in the conversation if the need be. Then let her go so she can move on.