In Liquid Wonder Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 Hey Everyone, So, my ex recently started dating a girl who looks and acts similar to me (perhaps all new girlfriends of exes seem this way?). I'm disheartened - the reason we broke up was because of major personal issues on his end that we discussed and agreed would take a long time to weed out. He was talking about not having any relationships for a long time to work them out... Anyway, the new relationship makes me wonder how valid all of that was. Yeah, it's been 4 months, but I don't believe he's made any real changes in that brief amount of time - not on the scale of what we discussed. (The topics: huge time management issues and expression issues: consistently spent time with me when he didn't want to and never said anything. It was such crap - so much time that could've been spent with friends or on work! Gah!) BTW, he lives three feet away, across the hall. Luckily, I haven't seen much of him this semester. I graduate in May - less than three months now! I don't have the money to move out, and my other friends here are some of my favorite people in the world. I often wake up thinking about him and that anger, but I try to remember that there's nothing worthwhile or important about his life now. It is of no coincidence to me. There isn't even a friendship. (One of the stingers that really pissed me off.) So, why bother? Rationally, I don't know. I have work to do. I know I can't jump into another relationship because I have grad school coming and don't know where that will be. He's younger and of a different major, so he has more time to dick around (pardon the pun) than I ever had. I'm tired of having to fight off my own thoughts. Sure, after I wake up for a bit I can finally get busy with my day, but I wish every morning didn't start with a battle of rationalizing that which I'll never really know. Any advice? I'd appreciate it.
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