Guest Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 She broke up with me after 3 years because she says that we are young and need to be alone party alone blah blah before we can find out if we are right for each other. i go no contact for 2 weeks, she calls saying we need to talk and that she misses me and wants to hang out, i question here about the things she said about dating other people and that she was kinda interested in someone and she says that she doesnt remember saying that like she didnt even mean it.... it sounds like she wants to get back together,.... now two weeks later after talkin almost every day when i question her about what we are she says that i thought we were being friends and thats it......did she lead me on just so she still use me as a friend... she clearly said that she wants to slowly try things again and now two weeks later she again says she never meant that. idont know what to do...
alasia Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 Did she actually say she wanted to get back together? Because from what you've written it doesn't sound like that's what she meant. I cant really help you...all I know is my ex split up with me 6 weeks ago, went through phases of saying he still had feelings and then the next week saying he didn't, and then about 2 weeks ago he texted me and said "I do want to get back together eventually". A few days later he said I took what he'd said the wrong way and that wasn't how he meant it, now after 10 days of barely speaking and him saying he hates me, never wants to see me agian etc., today he told me he does have "a few" feelings for me (a few feelings aren't enough, IMO). Basically sometimes people say things they don't mean to avoid hurting the other person or just for the hell of it. Maybe she's stringing you along, maybe she just genuinely wants to stay friends. Without more information it's hard to tell.
Krytellan Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 did she lead me on just so she still use me as a friend... Yep. No question. She wants something else but feels too alone when she's seeking it. She will play you as much as you let her. This sounds like bad news for you if you can't back off from it. Try to stay away if you can.
LakesideDream Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 Simple sport. She's looking to upgrade in the boyfriend department, but wants to keep you as a "back up guy" for insurance. Unless you want to face this situation throughout your relationship cut her loose. Constantly looking over your shoulder to see who's chasing you is no fun.
Davis Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 Simple sport. She's looking to upgrade in the boyfriend department, but wants to keep you as a "back up guy" for insurance. Unless you want to face this situation throughout your relationship cut her loose. I'd agree with Lakeside. My advice: bail out permanently. She just going to keep coming and going with you and that means you just keep getting hurt and let down. When it doesn't work out with a different guy, she falls back on you. Sorry bro, but it's clear she doesn't want to be your gf. As far as being friends, I think thats bulls**t. It's good for her, but it won't be for you. Enough already! Stop talking to her! Get off the ride now and move on!!
Salicious Crumb Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 She broke up with me after 3 years because she says that we are young and need to be alone party alone blah blah before we can find out if we are right for each other. i go no contact for 2 weeks, she calls saying we need to talk and that she misses me and wants to hang out, i question here about the things she said about dating other people and that she was kinda interested in someone and she says that she doesnt remember saying that like she didnt even mean it.... it sounds like she wants to get back together,.... now two weeks later after talkin almost every day when i question her about what we are she says that i thought we were being friends and thats it......did she lead me on just so she still use me as a friend... she clearly said that she wants to slowly try things again and now two weeks later she again says she never meant that. idont know what to do... You dump her...thats what you do. If she won't make up her mind...make it up for her. Move on and tell her its over. Tell her she can play with someone elses head.
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