ratingsguy Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Has anyone ever asked for NC (MM/MW or OW/OM) and subsequently never heard from the other party ever again?
Freedom Now Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Nope. And I'll bet you dollars to donuts that you will hear from your MW again. Human nature: you want what you can't have. At least that has been my experience with the MM. Peace.
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Has anyone ever asked for NC (MM/MW or OW/OM) and subsequently never heard from the other party ever again? In the history of mankind, this has probably happened once or twice RT... ...however, I don't think it will happen in your situation. As you've said, your MW has come out of a long M and is going through a life-changing time. Once things settle down - once her mind and her emotions settle - her thoughts will be back with you. I don't know what the outcome will be but I think you'll be hearing from her again.
Jinxx Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 Has anyone ever asked for NC (MM/MW or OW/OM) and subsequently never heard from the other party ever again? No -- we will see each other given we work part time in the evenings -- different shifts though. I will say this -- three weeks entering NC -- MM has not IM'd me, emailed me or phoned. So I guess he is taking this very seriously. And he has ample opportunity to do so. I might add I did not specifically ask for NC but rather told him we needed to "talk" - big mistake. He has bascially ignored me on this. I guess I scared him away. The "talk" was meant to ask him if our physical relationship was over, that was it. I needed closure to put our affair behind us, I was ready to jump off the emotional roller coaster and move forward. I guess he can't or is not ready to give that to me. He was the one calling the shots (how nice for him) and I got tired of waiting around. Boy it sucks, it really does but each day that does go by gets a little easier as it will with you. With that said, I do have an occasional melt down every now and then.
addicted2love Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 No -- we will see each other given we work part time in the evenings -- different shifts though. I will say this -- three weeks entering NC -- MM has not IM'd me, emailed me or phoned. So I guess he is taking this very seriously. And he has ample opportunity to do so. I might add I did not specifically ask for NC but rather told him we needed to "talk" - big mistake. He has bascially ignored me on this. I guess I scared him away. The "talk" was meant to ask him if our physical relationship was over, that was it. I needed closure to put our affair behind us, I was ready to jump off the emotional roller coaster and move forward. I guess he can't or is not ready to give that to me. He was the one calling the shots (how nice for him) and I got tired of waiting around. Boy it sucks, it really does but each day that does go by gets a little easier as it will with you. With that said, I do have an occasional melt down every now and then. I'm right there with you Jinxx...I need to have that "talk" I need that closure. My MM wouldn't give it to me 13 years ago either...then he comes back around with "you're the love of my life" bullsh*t and messes up my head all over again. NC sucks....not being given an opportunity to say your peace sucks...and feeling like you have zero control over the situation sucks even more. It just pisses me off day after day. The good news is I'm starting to hate him for being so damn selfish! It's getting to the point where the longer I go with out hearing from him...the more I hate him. So by the time he "grows a set" and calls me (i'm not holding my breath but I know it happen as soon as he figures out that I'm serious about the NC thing) I'll have the nerve built up or anger I should say to tell him to get bent!
cbl Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 Has anyone ever asked for NC (MM/MW or OW/OM) and subsequently never heard from the other party ever again? yes. with my MM of six years. but technically we did not talk about "NC" it was mutual understanding that we wouldn't be together in the future. he was 20 years older than me, and we both knew what was best for me - finding someone who has the same goals in life and who's in the same stage of life as i was. we parted when i was 30. i went back to b-school in the US. he wired me money to buy a beemer, as a gift for me going back to school. i never forget about him but we never get in contact with each other again... that was 4.5 years ago. i know you have doubts. there are so many questions remain unanswered.... but this is life. not every question has an answer nor does every problem have a solution to it. i used to ask... "why her?" "why not me?" "we were so much in love! he spent 3 weekday and every saturday with me; we had a house together. he picked all the lightings. he came to check up all the repair work for the balcony.... why?" but you know, if everything that happens has an explanation behind, wouldn't the life be much less exciting? maybe a few years down the road, you'll find the answers. right now it's a good time to learn to let go.... something that needs to be learned in later stage of the life.
Audero Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 Direct contact, no. Over a yr ago, I ended things with a MM, told him that I was done, and not to contact me unless he finally got divorced. I finally moved on with my life, met a wonderful man, and moved in with him. A few weeks back, the MM showed up at a website him & I used to hang out at. He wrote a long post, slamming me, telling lies, and trying to encourage my new SO to dump me. Other than that brief "war", nothing. Thankfully.
PoshPrincess Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 Nope. And I'll bet you dollars to donuts that you will hear from your MW again. Human nature: you want what you can't have. At least that has been my experience with the MM. I agree. My exMM couldn't leave me alone when I first went NC, then once he started ignoring ME I couldn't leave HIM alone! I suppose we both liked to be the one in control. We got there eventually though!
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