Jinxx Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Just curious. I have been mistaken many times in the past for MM's wife. We look very similar. I've always wondered if this was the attraction on his part. I have always thought it was because our personalities were so similar, that our hobbies were identical and we just seemed to know what the other was thinking. We just clicked and have so much in common and a bonus on both our parts is that we could say exactly what we want in any manner without offending the other, something he cannot do with his wife. So those of you who know what the BS looks like, are they in anyway like you or the complete opposite? Side note -- even my daughter thought it was me who said hello to her when in fact it was MM's wife. Very odd but but the fact is we do look alot alike and my daughter and other people have said so. We could be sisters. Is that not just weird or what?!
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Whoa that is weird...suppose if you're out with him no-one thinks it's too suspicious since you look so alike Appearance wise, we're opposites W is very polished whereas I'm more girl next door. Similar physiques though both petite and slender. I think I would feel a bit freaked if I looked like her to be honest, but maybe your MM just has a "type" he goes for?
bellababygirl Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 My MM BW and I look very similar...both tall, fair, blonde, blue-eyed, athletic...even our facial features are similar...we both look I guess Nordic (swedish look)... So, other than I am close to 30 years her junior she is still a very pretty woman. But, I met my MM on a singles web-site and his description of what he was looking for was the traits his BW and I have...so I would hae to say he is attracted to specific woman type... Also, I have never met my MM BW, I have only seen photos of her on the internet...so...just in case someone is wanting to ask...
Author Jinxx Posted February 11, 2007 Author Posted February 11, 2007 Whoa that is weird...suppose if you're out with him no-one thinks it's too suspicious since you look so alike An odd twist to this -- although we would meet at restaurants several miles from where we lived, he always displayed affection towards me. So on one hand, he never seemed too bothered that someone would see us. Other ways, we were very discreet. Now that we work together (different days), he even had the friggin nerve to invite me over to his home because his wife would think nothing of it since we are now co-workers. I found this odd and insulting. I told him I have no intention of ever coming over to his home. I have a general idea of where he lives but there is no way, no how I would ever enter his home. I only hope to God his wife never invites me. I am trying so very hard to keep my distance from this whole scene. Sad thing is I think we -- meaning his wife, him and I could of had a wonderful friendship with hanging out and doing things until MM and I crossed that line. Oh the regrets I now have over that. How very sad.
Author Jinxx Posted February 11, 2007 Author Posted February 11, 2007 My MM BW and I look very similar...both tall, fair, blonde, blue-eyed, athletic...even our facial features are similar...we both look I guess Nordic (swedish look)... So, other than I am close to 30 years her junior she is still a very pretty woman. So it appears he is reincarnating his wife 30 years younger for you, maybe reliving his youth. Interesting. I am also Swedish. Swedes age well - I am 47 and look quite a bit younger. I am guess he looks quite a bit younger then he is. I myself cannot even imagine being with someone thirty years older than me. But then again.... consider my age. LOL.
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Now that we work together (different days), he even had the friggin nerve to invite me over to his home because his wife would think nothing of it since we are now co-workers. I found this odd and insulting. I told him I have no intention of ever coming over to his home. I have a general idea of where he lives but there is no way, no how I would ever enter his home. I only hope to God his wife never invites me. I am trying so very hard to keep my distance from this whole scene.. That is SO out of order. How disrespectful to both his W and to you! I think all OW think about what MM's home is like, just curiosity, but in reality, entering into his marital home, seeing their pictures, the home they have built together - and his unsuspecting W's face? I wouldn't be able to sleep at night, and I would be really disturbed that MM thought it was ok...
bellababygirl Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 So it appears he is reincarnating his wife 30 years younger for you, maybe reliving his youth. Interesting. I am also Swedish. Swedes age well - I am 47 and look quite a bit younger. I am guess he looks quite a bit younger then he is. I myself cannot even imagine being with someone thirty years older than me. But then again.... consider my age. LOL. I am 32 he is 61 (turning 62 soon)...I didnt know until recently his true age...he had told me on his website profile he was 41 years old. He looks great, great body, face, everything...so, I never thought he wasnt 41. When I found out he was 61 I was hurt and furious that he lied but not that he was 61. Age never really has mattered to me much. We have a great deal in common and physically we dont slow each other down in the least...so I dont care how old he is. His BW, in my opinion, is a very pretty woman...especially for her age. I dont know much about her, by choice, but it seems from the photos I have seen of her she takes good care of herself. But, there are a great deal of similarities in our look...
Author Jinxx Posted February 11, 2007 Author Posted February 11, 2007 That is SO out of order. How disrespectful to both his W and to you! I think all OW think about what MM's home is like, just curiosity, but in reality, entering into his marital home, seeing their pictures, the home they have built together - and his unsuspecting W's face? I wouldn't be able to sleep at night, and I would be really disturbed that MM thought it was ok... I know, it is, isn't it?! It made me realize how arrogant and selfish MM really is. My heart sank. It still doesn't make it any easier for me. Feelings do not just disappear, KWIM? How nice for him to have OW and BS in their family home -- oh how studly he must feel by throwing that in my face. It hurts, it really does. And he just doesn't get it.
pricillia Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Wow, I have no idea what she looks like at all, but I am guessing that we both look different... considering we are different skin colors... maybe same body type but look different, I don't know... I would hope that I do not resemble her, I like being my own person
Can'tGiveUp Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 We are totally different. Different skin and hair colors, I am taller and a little slimmer. She is a very attractive woman. I am more educated with a career. She has bounced between part time retail jobs and home party sales. And I am about 5 years older than her.
Curmudgeon Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 )...I didnt know until recently his true age...he had told me on his website profile he was 41 years old. So he lied about his age by 20 years. Lied about being married. You find that you're simply a younger version of his wife, at least in looks. Do you not see problems here, both his and yours?
Guest Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 I'm 30. She's 43 (he's 41). I'm a different ethnicity than she is. I am more career oriented and educated...I met him at work and honestly think that is the only way he and I would have ever interacted. Body wise, I think she's average whereas I am very curvy and feminine.
Curmudgeon Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 And he just doesn't get it. But do you finally get it?
spinningwheels Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 His wife and I are complete opposites. I am tall, she is short. I have brown hair, she is blond. I am average or athletic in my size. She is morbidly obese--not being mean, she really is around 300 lbs. or more--at only about 5'4. She is not college educated. I am. She works in a store, I am in a more professional field. She is quiet, I am out-going. He could not have picked a person more different!
stillhere Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 My MM's W and I look nothing alike. I'm about 5" taller than her (about 1" taller than him as well. Much taller with heels on!) I'm slightly skinnier than her, but not by much. She has blonde hair (he's only dated blondes until me) and i have jet black hair. Our personalities are completely the opposite. I'm much more bubbly, flirty, outgoing, etc. She's more reserved and old fashioned. I dress like a preppy teenager, she dresses like her mom. She's only 7 years older than me. Although we are opposites, i can defenitely see why he fell in love with her. She's an amazing woman. Caring and sweet. Pretty in her own way. She has some wonderful qualities that i envy. I too could have been "friends" with her. She's not the type of person i would hang out with on a regular basis. Our personalities are too different, but she is the type of person i could hang out with on occasion. I refuse to allow her to "befriend" me because of the circumstances. My MM never talks bad about her to me. She obviously comes up in our conversations, but he does not put her down. I do not either. She is not an evil villain, and i would not respect him if he talked about her as if she was one.
mopar crazy Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 BW hat on.... WH's xOW was taller than me, about 5'9, while I'm 5'5. At one point we weighed the same but she looks thinner b/c of her height. She lost some weight b4 their A but I hadn't so she was thinner than myself. She had reddish brown hair while I have blonde. However a year after their A ended we seen her at the same bar we were at and she had colored it blonde. I can't remember what color her eyes are exactly but I think they were green and mine are blue. I would say I'm more attractive than she is and even ppl who knew that WH was having A w/ her kept asking me how he could cheat on someone as pretty as me w/ her. I knew he like her for her outgoing personality and then did have more in common sports wise between them. She is very outgoing, while I'm more shy around ppl I don't know well. She has no college education, I do. She didn't even graduate HS. OW hat on....I wasn't an OW to a MM but one in a commited R where he did M her after it ended between us. I didn't know he had a SGF until after I had fallen in love w/ him and just couldn't let the R end. I was young and selfish. Anyhow, I met her once when she moved to town to move in w/ him. She worked at my favorite clothing store. She was a couple inches shorter than myself, had dark hair, and brown eyes, and very pretty. She seemed very shy or it could be that she knew who I was and just stood back and observed me, I don't know.
PoshPrincess Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 I think that some people have a type (looks or personality) and it seems that some guys certainly have As or trade their Ws in for a much younger version! As for my exMMs W, we were very different all in all apart from being a similar age and height (she's about three years older and slightly taller than me). Lookswise , she has long blonde hair and brown eyes whereas I have short dark brown hair and blue eyes, as far as I know she weighs about half a stone more than me although, as I say, is slightly taller. I have never seen her close up but from what I have heard I think she is slightly bigger built than myself (larger boned and larger features) although it seems that I am more 'busty' (not something my exMM went for normally!) I know that she was a more conservative dresser than I am. As for our personalities, etc, we couldn't be more different. I am much more outgoing, have a lot of friends, socialise a lot whereas she sounds more of a homebody preferring to just mix with family. When I first started seeing MM she wasn't working (had been a hairdresser) although has since returned to work in a different capacity. I work in the City (nothing flashy) and am slightly better educated. I also appear (although I'm possibly not) more confident which is one of the things MM really liked about me apparently. I would get in the car on my own and drive wherever and however many miles I needed to to get somewhere (not something I would've thought to be unusual) but she never did anything like this. We were bound to be different in this way as she settled down with him at 19 and expecting a baby whereas I was single until I was in my late 20s and didn't have my son till I was in my early 30s so was generally more independent. I think it was the fact that we were so different that attracted MM to me in the first place. He always said I had 'an edge' to me. That's not to say that I was any better than her of course, especially not in the looks department. We were just totally opposite from each other so can't really be compared.
outofdarkness Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 That is SO out of order. How disrespectful to both his W and to you! I think all OW think about what MM's home is like, just curiosity, but in reality, entering into his marital home, seeing their pictures, the home they have built together - and his unsuspecting W's face? I wouldn't be able to sleep at night, and I would be really disturbed that MM thought it was ok... Sorry to chime in..Just had to comment on this one post. My H's OW of 10 years came twice to open houses when we had our homes for sale. She admitted this to me and said; "I saw all of your pictures, your bed, etc"...I was mortified. My H claims not to have known. It really was creepy thinking someone would do this...
YoMomma Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 Sorry to chime in..Just had to comment on this one post. My H's OW of 10 years came twice to open houses when we had our homes for sale. She admitted this to me and said; "I saw all of your pictures, your bed, etc"...I was mortified. My H claims not to have known. It really was creepy thinking someone would do this... OD - Ewwwwww, that is just sick! When I had my house for sale, it was my fear that BW was going to show up at my doorstep out of curiosity - thankfully she never did! I found out where exMM lived but had no desire to even see his street - never mind his house! Some people are truly nuts....... :sick:
pinkpippacat1 Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 We look a little alike in that we both have long blonde hair (or did have when we met - I have since had mine cut a bit); both wear glasses; neither wear make-up but that where similarity ends. I am 5' 7", figure of a boy pretty much and 110lbs; she is about 5' 3" and a lot heavier and curvier. Although we both wear quite casual clothes, I am a LOT more casual than she is and I always look a lot less "groomed". Not really sure what to make of that actually - never even thought about it before now!
Author Jinxx Posted February 12, 2007 Author Posted February 12, 2007 Sorry to chime in..Just had to comment on this one post. My H's OW of 10 years came twice to open houses when we had our homes for sale. She admitted this to me and said; "I saw all of your pictures, your bed, etc"...I was mortified. My H claims not to have known. It really was creepy thinking someone would do this... Yes, very creepy. And to add to my post, when I was a BS my ex-husbands's OW (wife) now used to hang out quite often in my home when I wasn't there -- shared my bed too. I admit, it is bad enough going down the OW path and every day it is a struggle but still, never in a million years would I want to be part of their home life. Just can't go there. Sad thing is that I really like his wife. We are so much alike in many ways that we probably could have become really good friends if I didn't involve myself with her husband.
outofdarkness Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 Yes, very creepy. And to add to my post, when I was a BS my ex-husbands's OW (wife) now used to hang out quite often in my home when I wasn't there -- shared my bed too. I admit, it is bad enough going down the OW path and every day it is a struggle but still, never in a million years would I want to be part of their home life. Just can't go there. Sad thing is that I really like his wife. We are so much alike in many ways that we probably could have become really good friends if I didn't involve myself with her husband. I would think that most OW's would feel the way you do, but I don't know...If it were me, I'd want to keep my life w/ my MM totally separate, but I can also imagine that after a number of years, as was the case with the main OW in my H's case, I'd be so curious about the life w/ the W..I might do something like that...I don't know...
BenThereDunThat Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 This is just getting creepy now. Before it was a little amusing. We've turned the corner and landed in delusionville.
herenow Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 I popped in here for a second to see if this sham was still going, at to my surprise it is. This bellababygirl is not for real. There is no way her story makes sense. Ripples and others have pointed out inconsistencies in her story. And, I think Ripples is a very smart lady. Always right on. If you like the soap opera, go for it, but if you really think this is true, please go back to the beginning of her story. If you have the time to go through the dribble, you will see that it's just a made up story. If you think you are spending your time actually helping someone, please try to help someone who is really in need of it. This is a waste of your precious time.
Blue Phoenix Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 --"This bellababygirl is not for real. There is no way her story makes sense"-- I myself are leaning towards agreeing with that!! even more so with what Ripples has just pointed out!!
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