BlueEyedSarah Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 I have been in no contact with this ex for at least 4 weeks becasue he dumped me, claiming to not be ready for a girl friend. 2 days ago he sent a whole bunch of nasty hateful emails to me because I mentioned in a blog that this guy friend of mine likes me and I like him too as he is a good friend and has helped me out a lot in the past. I didn't even know my ex was watching my blog page, but thats not the point. He sent me really nasty emails saying that I have hurt him, and yea whatever, go f**k your other guy...ect. He also put he wanted to try a friendship with me but no I was not up to trying a friendship with him which has hurt him and he said my loss. He also told me he blocked my email. I did not want to be friends with him because...well look at this situation. I KNEW it would happen when he finds out I like someone else. I am not hurt or angry at what he has done. I do think he is in the wrong for blowing up about liking another guy and moving on when he is the one who told me to move on. He told me to find a guy who makes me happy. If he didn't mean it then he should not have said it! Thats what gets me a little bit angry about it. Also what gets me a little bit angry is the fact that he is the one who dumped me, we had no contact since then and then he gets all jealous? Its not like I am cheating on him because WE ARE NOT TOGETHER. He also got he's cousin to send nasty notes to me though email too as she said stuff to try get me jealous. This other guy is someone who is intrested in having a relationship with me and I am intrested in having a relationship with him BUT I am not rushing into anything with this other guy because I do not want to use him as a re-bound guy. I am waiting for my heart to heal. So he is just a good friend right now and it will probably be like that for quite a long while until I heal. I don't understand why my ex did this. If he likes some other girl even from 4 weeks of no contact I would not go physco and immature. He is not my boy friend anymore so why should I get all freaked out and jealous? I would not expect him to wait around for me as I am not waiting around for him as getting back together with him may never happen. Infact I don't want him back any way if the offer came along because I am happy the way my life is going right now. I do not want to get back with some one who dumped me, especially the way he dumped me. And like he told me when he dumped me...we both have diffrent intrests, it wont work between the both of us as we are two diffrent people. We are not compatiable with one another. I just wanted to hear some views on why he got so angry like he did. I think it was the jealous emotion getting the best of him? Or Is he just playing mind games with me? I think he should have gave it a day to calm himself down before sending me an anger email. I am going to carry on with my life the way it is without my ex.
aaaaaiiiiieeeee Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Sounds like he's not mature enough to handle being replaced. He just might think he's been replaced, too, soon. You can only worry about yourself and don't put so much stock into what he says unless you feel you might be in some kind of danger. I was dumped/left by my wife for another guy, so what could I do except accept my share of the blame and tell her "I'm hurt by what you're doing, thanks for the good times, and have a nice life." You're doing your part so don't worry about him.
McFadden Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 I don't think you should reply at all, just block him/his cousin, what a jerk.
sb129 Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 My ex did the same thing to me when I met my new guy. He sent evil emails, he even emailed my MUM and told her how much of a terrible person I was. He kinda stalked me for a while. I just ignored him. (difficult I know) If you behave maturely it just makes your ex look like even more of an idiot for behaving so badly. Someone on LS said something about indifference being more effective than nastiness or something to that effect.
Final Destination Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 The answer is simple..because he no longer has control. Do NOT respond to the cousin. Do NOT respond to his childish behavior. Ignore it. Silence speaks louder than any words. FD
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