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... and lives in the other side of the world.

 

It´s funny. Half a year ago, I was posting about a 23 years gap, and freaking out about it. In the end, what was making me uneasy was the guy himself, not the age gap, and I was never infatuated. That´s not the point of this thread though...

 

:rolleyes: The point is that I am infatuated now. The gap is bigger and I couldn´t care less. Gosh this dude is hot as heck, judging by his looks he must have the women waiting in line, so I´m actually surprised that I have his attention :bunny: Never had the attention of someone I was very attracted to, it feels good...:love:

 

But at the same time, I feel like I´m too old for this crap... Getting all warm and fuzzy about some good looking guy was OK at 15, but not at 23 :cool: I should now better or something....

 

And I have a question for guys over... 40 years. What can you possibly see on a girl that could be your daughter? The booty? Trophee booty? Be honest... wouldn´t a woman around your own age be much more compatible or something?

 

I do wonder.

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Gosh that´s it?

 

I said 23 for crying out loud...

 

Read well!!! :eek:

 

Any advice?

magichands Established Member

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The gap is bigger and I couldn´t care less.

Great! I hope you're very happy together.

But at the same time, I feel like I´m too old for this crap...

Yeah, dump him.

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Great! I hope you're very happy together.

 

Yeah, dump him.

 

U freaking kidding me?

 

That´s the advice?

 

Silly jokes?

magichands Established Member

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I said 23 for crying out loud...

I hear you! Some people on here don't read, and some people on here don't use paragraphs. It's infuriating.

Star Gazer Established Member

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Gosh that´s it?

 

I said 23 for crying out loud...

 

Read well!!! :eek:

 

Any advice?

 

Well, being rude isn't going to get you any help. :p You said you once posted about a 23 year gap, and I got confused when you said 23 again...

 

Anyway - so he's 50. Hmph.

 

Well, I don't see anything wrong with it. However, when I was 26 I dated someone who was 40. He was very handsome and charming, and I believe I felt the same way about him that you do. But over time, our differences became more and more apparent, and the interest waned. I have a feeling you'll get tired of him after a while...

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Are you going to move, or will he? Secondly, do you live in the moment, or obsess over the future? There is something to be said for growing old together. It's not really fair when one of you gets there first.

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Never had the attention of someone I was very attracted to, it feels good...:love:

 

I guess that explains why you are into a guy that much older who lives half a world away. Is it that hard to fall for someone you can actually be with in a real relationship in your own city? Are you looking for a father figure? Why not fall for guys your age, or somewhere in the same decade?

 

And I have a question for guys over... 40 years. What can you possibly see on a girl that could be your daughter? The booty? Trophee booty? Be honest... wouldn´t a woman around your own age be much more compatible or something?

 

I do wonder.

 

I'm not a guy, but older men like much younger women for the hot, young booty, yes, and for the ego boost of having a young girl into them - it "proves" they still got it, even though they are older. They are flattered by the attention, and by the thought they can score with someone that much younger.

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guess that explains why you are into a guy that much older who lives half a world away. Is it that hard to fall for someone you can actually be with in a real relationship in your own city? Are you looking for a father figure? Why not fall for guys your age, or somewhere in the same decade?

Yeah it is, I couldn´t care less about guys around here. Not atracted, not interested, nothing in common.

 

Father figure? I don´t think so. I don´t think that´s something I can establish in 5 minutes, and I really can´t afford months of therapy to find if feeling attracted for a guy that is way older than me means I need a daddy...

 

I´m not exactly looking for a relationship. I want to get to know this guy and spend time with him but Im not looking for a boyfriend or hubby. Guys my age around here act like teenagers.

 

I'm not a guy, but older men like much younger women for the hot, young booty, yes, and for the ego boost of having a young girl into them - it "proves" they still got it, even though they are older. They are flattered by the attention, and by the thought they can score with someone that much younger.

So all of them are that shallow? Like, by default?

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Are you going to move, or will he? Secondly, do you live in the moment, or obsess over the future? There is something to be said for growing old together. It's not really fair when one of you gets there first.

I just said I was infatuated and we are getting to know each other. I never mentioned anything about moving. We are not engaged, we exchange emails, that´s all.

 

Growing old? Again, I´m only getting to know him. I´m not marrying him.

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You don't seem to have much to lose, except missing out on the chance of a real relationship with someone (whilst you're playing with your hunk).

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So all of them are that shallow? Like, by default?

 

It's not about being shallow. I'd think that when you're an older guy and you see hottie Abercrombie and Fitch-type guys dating young, hot, nubile 23-year old girls, to have one of those 23-year olds put their nose up to the A&F guy and want to be with you instead has GOT to be a huge ego boost.

 

I'm only 28 and sometimes look at the 23 year old guys and wish I was young again... I think many older men think the same way!

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You don't seem to have much to lose, except missing out on the chance of a real relationship with someone (whilst you're playing with your hunk).

 

Very good point.

 

This is the point to be made when we're dating/chasing after ANYONE who really isn't good long term potential.

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I´m not exactly looking for a relationship. I want to get to know this guy and spend time with him but Im not looking for a boyfriend or hubby. Guys my age around here act like teenagers.

 

 

So all of them are that shallow? Like, by default?

 

*shrug*

 

I don't know - you used the word shallow, I didn't. Are they shallow for wanting to feel young and hunky, and like it that a hot young thing is interested? Are you shallow for being into a hunky guy that you are not interested in for a bf or marriage? What do you want your older hunky guy for? Same thing he wants you for?

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You don't seem to have much to lose, except missing out on the chance of a real relationship with someone (whilst you're playing with your hunk).

 

OK again... "real relationship with someone"... Sounds nice. Except that perhaps I´m not all that interested in pursuing that idea.

 

Last year I finished a 5 year long relationship with a guy "my age" that ended up MISERABLY.

 

According to all the social stigmas, it was supposed to be great, since we both were locals, both young, attending to the same college, lot´s of things in common, his family was very traditional and respectable, and all that junk. Did any of that prevent it to be a train wreck in the end? I really thought I was in a "real relationship" with potential, and that I was gonna spend the rest of my life with this dude. Look how well that turned out. :confused:

 

So yeah, at this poing I guess that all I wanna do is to "play". Enough drama already.

 

Why you guys keep talking like a "real relationship" is the Holy Grail or something?

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It's not about being shallow. I'd think that when you're an older guy and you see hottie Abercrombie and Fitch-type guys dating young, hot, nubile 23-year old girls, to have one of those 23-year olds put their nose up to the A&F guy and want to be with you instead has GOT to be a huge ego boost.

 

I'm only 28 and sometimes look at the 23 year old guys and wish I was young again... I think many older men think the same way!

 

One would think that at age 50 guys would know better... and would be over all that teenage attitude of craving for hot girls just for the ego boost. Are you saying that middle age guys in general are basically teenagers when it comes to young ladies and the whole attraction arena?

 

Besides, I´m no Abercrombie and Fitch type, at all. He has probably had like WAAAAYY better.

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Very good point.

 

This is the point to be made when we're dating/chasing after ANYONE who really isn't good long term potential.

 

One more time...

 

Who is looking for "good long term potential"?

 

I´m no wife/mommy material. Is not in my plans getting myself a hubby and promise him I´m gonna ge with him for the rest of my existence. Heck, I´m not eveng going to have any kids.

 

He might not be good long term potential (he doesn´t have kids, woo hoo) and I´m so OK with that.

 

Where you guys are getting from that I am/ should be putting all my efforts and time in looking for "good long term potential"? :confused:

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*shrug*

 

I don't know - you used the word shallow, I didn't. Are they shallow for wanting to feel young and hunky, and like it that a hot young thing is interested? Are you shallow for being into a hunky guy that you are not interested in for a bf or marriage? What do you want your older hunky guy for? Same thing he wants you for?

 

I may be young, but I´m not hot. Unless that also, by default, middle age guys think that young=hot, like some kind of Dracula "use my body to keep you alive" kind of complex... :rolleyes:

 

Is it such a low thing to be interested / attracted and wanting to get to know a hunky guy, just because I don´t believe in marriage?

 

Perhaps I should have used the word "horny" instead of shallow... :cool:

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I really have no clue whats going on with your situation specificaly. And I'm a 22 year old guy so I'm not sure what goes through middle aged men minds. What I can tell you is the my father was over 20 years older then my mother when they met they also lived in different countries but things worked out for them.

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What I can tell you is the my father was over 20 years older then my mother when they met they also lived in different countries but things worked out for them.

Really? Well, isn´t that nice. I´m not the marrying type, but I´d love to hear the whole story K!

 

Would ya mind sharing? :bunny:

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BabyCarrot

 

What I gather from your info you might as well go for a fling with this guy if he is not married. He could consider you a booty call or could be dreaming of a young wife. Obviously, we know nothing about this guy.

 

One thing that goes overlooked about most older men that applies to all men in general. They have lived their lives sexually frustrated and somewhere within the call of the wild lives on.

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I'm not going to go into to many details but my mother was a sophmore or something in college when she was on vacation in mexico or something and she met my father who was also on vacation. they kept in touch and next time she had a break from school he sent her some plane tickets to come visit him they hit off, she moved to his country after graduating college dated almost 10 years before getting maried.

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What would you both have in common? That's my question. I have been pushing it dating women much younger than me but in all cases they were extremely mature.

 

Reading your responses, no offense, you still have some maturing to do before you're ready to date someone much older than you.

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I'm not a guy, but older men like much younger women for the hot, young booty, yes, and for the ego boost of having a young girl into them - it "proves" they still got it, even though they are older. They are flattered by the attention, and by the thought they can score with someone that much younger.

 

 

 

I'm 40, my girlfriend is 25, she great! It has nothing to do with "hot young booty" nor an ego boost. I think we compliment each other very well. My last GF was 45 and was an immature, game-playing, narssicist with TONS of baggage! Everyone is different, and the connection between two people will always be unique, reguardless of age.

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