RichC Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 I am a mixed man - light skin (I tan and have to use sun screen), brown hair, hazel eyes and some African- American features. Some women have a big problem with this. I know there is a strong tendency no matter what your race to "be with your own kind", but, am I making too much of this?
polywog Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 YES! Your coloring sounds gorgeous to me, and if some woman doesn't like your mixed-race self, that's her loss. I am female, by the way.
polywog Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Darling, I had a thought after posting. I see you are from Indianna... what about your ancestors, do you identify yourself as a Melungeon? If you don't know this term, then you aren't, and I'll explain what this is... an fascinating mixed race ethnic group with a mysterious and old history of Af-Am, caucasian, and Native American. Came up from Appalachia, mostly and Indianna would be a likely place to have settled.
che_jesse Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Our view on what exactly? Why would you want to be with a racist jerk anyway? Just dont date women that have an issue with it.
Island Girl Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 If they have a problem with it it is the woman's problem - not yours and who needs them?!! There are plenty of other women out there who are looking for a meaningful relationship and do not see race as a reason to exclude someone as a possibility. I myself have dated most of the rainbow. Including the love of my life, my husband, who is Pacific Islander (he has the same skin tone as The Rock - in fact most people have to double take thinking it is the real thing). On the west coast it seems to have more acceptance as far as what I hear from other people. I have never had a problem with any kind of racism from the communities where I have lived and dated other races but those are all western and southwestern states. I'm not sure what you have run into to give you pause but I'd ask out whoever you feel you have - or could have - that certain chemistry with. If the woman says "no" it is her loss.
Author RichC Posted February 11, 2007 Author Posted February 11, 2007 I'm from Jersey. A little backound - on my mothers side European and Sioux - on my father's English, Jamaican and I understand there is a Spanish Jew in there somewhere. Jesse - easier said than done. You would be really suprised how many women both black and white have a hesitancy about this. I don't know if its racism or lack of confidence. It's their loss agreed but it takes effort and time to weed these people out.
paris38 Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 It's sad that women would rule you out as a dating prospect because of this.
Star Gazer Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 You say you have some black features - are these women indicating that they are not attracted to those features (everyone has their own preferences for what they do, and do not, find attractive), or are they not interested because of your mixed race?
Guest Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 I am a mixed man - light skin (I tan and have to use sun screen), brown hair, hazel eyes and some African- American features. Some women have a big problem with this. I know there is a strong tendency no matter what your race to "be with your own kind", but, am I making too much of this? as far as "being with your own kind" goes... my kind is someone who IS kind... race, color, ethnicity doesn't matter... there are always people out there that will judge others...as long as you're comfortable with who you are women will be attracted to you... and those "some women"...? leave em for those "some men" i say.. my husband is mexican/irish - i'm german/english... so what? we love each other and that's all that matters... if i cared what other people thought about MY LIFE... i'd be living it for them and not myself... keep your chin up, you'll find her... probably when you're not looking mar
Author RichC Posted February 11, 2007 Author Posted February 11, 2007 I have been told multiple times that its because I can't be "classified" into a category. It has not happened many times, just enough to stick in my head. Thanks for the response and also to the guest. Its not a big thing women that have a problem with it will loose out.
Star Gazer Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 I have been told multiple times that its because I can't be "classified" into a category. It has not happened many times, just enough to stick in my head. Thanks for the response and also to the guest. Its not a big thing women that have a problem with it will loose out. Well then, to use a technical term, those women are LAME.
bluetuesday Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 i have always thought mixed race people are beautiful - whatever the mix. they look exotic and wonderful to me. guest has it covered. i am white as the white cliffs of dover and my own 'kind' is someone who is smart and funny and generous.
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