TheRock Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 My GF and I've been dating for 6 months. Everything was great until New Years. I have a problem...I can only ejaculate when I'm behind her. When she rides me, there isn't enough friction to make me cum and she's afraid she's not pleasing me and feels she's the problem. She thinks maybe I'm not attracted enough to her, but I am. Actually I've never been this hot for any one. Anyone else ever have a problem like this? Any suggestions? PS- Already went to a Urologist and MD and I'm in great health...
paris38 Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 not very tight, and looser 'there' than you're used to. Has she given birth ever? That might be the problem....or maybe she's just...looser down there. I'm sorry but that's the only thing it can be, her 'thing' is not gripping you hard enough because she's too....loose. This is every woman's nightmare, I feel sorry for her, but you seem like a great supportive boyfriend. You might want to ask her to try keigl exercises and learn to grip 'you' as you're going in to make more friction for you...otherwise you can always start out in other positions, knowing the only way for you to 'end the job' is by doing doggie at the end. I'm sorry, it's not you....it's her. So...when she talked to you about this, she really was right...the problem is her (but it's not her fault and who knows, maybe there's a medical procedure to make her tighter, I don't know.)
Star Gazer Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 You only mentioned ONE position where you can't come. What about all of the other positions that exist out there? Does she know how to contract her Kegel muscles while she's on top?
Krytellan Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 I'm thinking that the two of you could use this to your advantage. Why does it have to be about not pleasing you? I mean to be able to have sex for as long as you wanted knowing you weren't going to cum... damn, guys would kill for that ability. Why this is even a bad thing I'm not quite getting. She should be enjoying your endurance not condemning herself as not good enough. She can get it as long as she wants. How many women here wish they could say the same? Enjoy the fun. And pick up a Kama Sutra and explore other positions that might help out. Her on her back with her legs together and perpindicular to the bed with you upright provides a good grab. Try that one?
paris38 Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 I like the feeling of the man coming inside me, it's really an intimate moment that we enjoy together. Plus if he kept going and going w/o the climax, the woman could get pretty sore hoping it will happen soon. This is definitely her issue with being too loose and I hope this guy can be nice in explaining to her about doing her kegels. If that won't work, they'll have to resort to doggie to finish the deed.
alphamale Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 can you nut when you're inside her maouth?
whichwayisup Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 maouth WTF is a maouth? Oooohhh, you mean MOUTH... I'm with cute guy Krytellan on this one. Your girlfriend is lucky that you can NOT cum fast - Atleast you can get alot of pleasure out of banging her, pleasing her and staying hard. What you could try is, doggie until you're close, then try another position to see if you can cum. (PS Krytellan, I liked your old avatar better!)
paris38 Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 SHE needs to work on her loose you know what issue. I feel bad for her, like I said, every woman's nightmare. Don't let her put the issue back on you and make you feel badly or guilty about this! You might want to subtly say "I'm sorry but you're too loose. I don't feel the friction, to be honest." she deserves to know.
Storyrider Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 SHE needs to work on her loose you know what issue. I feel bad for her, like I said, every woman's nightmare. Don't let her put the issue back on you and make you feel badly or guilty about this! You might want to subtly say "I'm sorry but you're too loose. I don't feel the friction, to be honest." she deserves to know. And what "nice way" is there to say that?
norajane Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 SHE needs to work on her loose you know what issue. I feel bad for her, like I said, every woman's nightmare. Don't let her put the issue back on you and make you feel badly or guilty about this! You might want to subtly say "I'm sorry but you're too loose. I don't feel the friction, to be honest." she deserves to know. You are so insistent that the problem is her "loose" vagina. Why? If he can come in other positions with her and this is the only one in which he can't, why would her vagina be the problem? I don't think either of them have a problem. There are lots of men who can't come with a woman on top. The rhythm and pressure and angle is different. She doesn't have as much leverage and can't thrust as hard and fast when she's on top as he can when he is thrusting from behind or whatever. Just like some men can't come from oral, some men can't come from cowgirl.
Star Gazer Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Once again, I completely disagree with Paris. I don't think this necessarily means she's "too loose." I've been with guys who have forewarned me before we do the deed that they can't come with a girl on top (because of claimed lack-of-friction), but as soon as I hop on top CAPOW! it doesn't seem to be a problem anymore. Nevertheless, I think it's unfair for Paris to simply assume that she's "too loose" and to even suggest you actually tell her she's "too loose." How f-ing cold hearted is that?!?!?!? I doubt (or, at least hope!) that she'd ever tell a guy he's too small!! No, instead you find other ways/positions/etc. to make it so that you're both pleased. "GEEEEEEEEEZ" With that said, I also disagree with cutie-Krytellan... a marathon-man is not always a good thing. Moreover, the moment a guy comes is very intimate. I enjoy it - I like to see his face, feel his body quiver, grab onto him harder, etc. You can't do that if the only way he comes is via doggie. I dated a guy once who somehow always ended up cuming that way, and it REALLY, REALLY bothered me (and contrary to Paris' opinion, I am NOT "too loose"). WWIU poses a very good suggestion.
magichands Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 My GF and I've been dating for 6 months. Everything was great until New Years. She must have made a New Year's resolution to expand her horizons. Tell her that you need "the old her" back.
Guest Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 WTF is a maouth? Oooohhh, you mean MOUTH... I'm with cute guy Krytellan on this one. Your girlfriend is lucky that you can NOT cum fast - Atleast you can get alot of pleasure out of banging her, pleasing her and staying hard. What you could try is, doggie until you're close, then try another position to see if you can cum. (PS Krytellan, I liked your old avatar better!) STOPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP - LOL ITS BEEEN WAY TO LONG I CAN READ THIS LOL
magichands Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 I doubt (or, at least hope!) that she'd ever tell a guy he's too small!! That's a possibility, too. Have you stopped taking something this year that could have made you shrink?
Guest Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Once again, I completely disagree with Paris. I don't think this necessarily means she's "too loose." I've been with guys who have forewarned me before we do the deed that they can't come with a girl on top (because of claimed lack-of-friction), but as soon as I hop on top CAPOW! it doesn't seem to be a problem anymore. Nevertheless, I think it's unfair for Paris to simply assume that she's "too loose" and to even suggest you actually tell her she's "too loose." How f-ing cold hearted is that?!?!?!? I doubt (or, at least hope!) that she'd ever tell a guy he's too small!! No, instead you find other ways/positions/etc. to make it so that you're both pleased. "GEEEEEEEEEZ" With that said, I also disagree with cutie-Krytellan... a marathon-man is not always a good thing. Moreover, the moment a guy comes is very intimate. I enjoy it - I like to see his face, feel his body quiver, grab onto him harder, etc. You can't do that if the only way he comes is via doggie. I dated a guy once who somehow always ended up cuming that way, and it REALLY, REALLY bothered me (and contrary to Paris' opinion, I am NOT "too loose"). WWIU poses a very good suggestion. WHY DID IT BOTHER U
Krytellan Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 With that said, I also disagree with cutie-Krytellan... a marathon-man is not always a good thing. Moreover, the moment a guy comes is very intimate. I enjoy it - I like to see his face, feel his body quiver, grab onto him harder, etc. You can't do that if the only way he comes is via doggie. I dated a guy once who somehow always ended up cuming that way, and it REALLY, REALLY bothered me (and contrary to Paris' opinion, I am NOT "too loose"). Drat!!! The power of the cuteness is fading... There is much validity to that. My gf actually very much prefers doggie because of the depth and grab. I actually had to tell her that I wasn't going to do it all of the time she wanted because I like to be able to look at her during the fireworks. Since, we have been able to maintain an equilibrium and all are happy. I just wanted to restate that there are several other positions that provide the same grip as doggie. If in trying some others you can't orgasm... at least then you know the difficulty is psychological and not physical. Sometimes ruling out what isn't the problem can be just as useful.
Krytellan Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 (PS Krytellan, I liked your old avatar better!) This aging divorcee is very flattered. But these are my Bubbies.... and they're waaaaaay cuter than I am
Star Gazer Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Drat!!! The power of the cuteness is fading... No it's not.....
Krytellan Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 No it's not..... By the way Star, in reference to other posts... I think your boobs are absolutely fantastic... OK everyone... back on topic!!! Enough of the silly banter.
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