tui1987 Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 For those of you who haven't read my story,here it is http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t111433/ So I started no contact on Monday...he texts me on Thursday. Saying sorry for not contacting me he's been signed off work by the doctor and to keep my chin up. I text him back saying i'm fine just on a trip to orlando (i'm a flight attendant) and i'm just by the pool...that was that. Now i can't get him out of my head! I'm finding it really hard not to break no contact cos i'm scared that he's just gonna get over me in no time and we'll not get the chance to make a go of things. I just want him back so much. Any suggestions to help me keep NC...cos i'm finding this so hard.
chrissymcal Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 didnt u already break it by responding to his messages?
Author tui1987 Posted February 10, 2007 Author Posted February 10, 2007 yeah i know i did and i'm scared i'm gonna do it again...this whole NC thing is so hard and it's even harder for me at the mo cos we're both going thru a really tough time...he's not at work and he's got a few home issues that I know he's not coping with. My cousin died last week and the only person i could think of to comfort me was him...i just want him back so bad
loveishell Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 he wants you back. don't read into it too much. be happy, but show him you arent needy. i KNOW how much you want him back, as I totally feel the same way. He is missing you, trust me I'm a guy... we wouldn't text if we werent. Now maybe you can offer some female insight into mysituation? we are supposed to go to a pj part together next weekend, she said she still wants to go but shes not spending the night because she wants to be with her family. today, she put a couple of pictures up on myspace. I bought her the digi cam for xmas. we took a couple pictures of the same pose to make fun of one of our friends, and she never put hers online. today is day 2 of nc, and it became her profile pic. mine was already my profile pic. she has yet to give me any of my stuff back.... and when i asked what she did with the promise ring i gave her she said "i put it in my jewelry box" and I said because you may wear it again someday? and she shrugged. what do you make of my situation?
Author tui1987 Posted February 10, 2007 Author Posted February 10, 2007 he wants you back. don't read into it too much. be happy, but show him you arent needy. i KNOW how much you want him back, as I totally feel the same way. He is missing you, trust me I'm a guy... we wouldn't text if we werent. I'm not too sure...when we broke up he said to me that he wants to be friends with me and that he will always love me. I wrote him a note the day I left his house and he said to me he will always keep that with him. But...I asked him if he's still in love with me. and he said to me that his feelings will never change, but he loves me as a friend and nothing more. Maybe i'm just fighting a lost cause here...i dunno wot to make of it...everyday something reminds me of him...i found a picture of me and him today and i just cried my eyes out...i miss him. Btw loveishell...I'm a guy HAHA:laugh:
sueidaho Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 there is no help you just have to keep your mind off of him. ive been broke up one month and started nc 8 days ago. i still cry every night. but i just try to keep busy and exercise with people and hand out with my family or friends.
Grrlish Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Tui: From what you wrote here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t111433/ he's said that he's not sure, right? 1. Why would you want to be with someone who isn't sure that they want to be with you? I would have only one reaction to someone saying this to me: Good-bye. Maybe they come back because they figure it out. Maybe they don't. But I'm not going to spend my time and energy, much less give of my mind and body, with someone who isn't just as devoted. 2. He broke up with you because you don't get along with his housemate and your reaction to Jon's extreme flirting? Have you had long-standing issues with the housemate? And are you sure that there has been no other problems/arguments between you and your bf about Jon in the past? Have you been a jealous partner, overall? If the answer is no to all of these questions, then your bf is making excuses for just wanting to end the relationship. But perhaps give these other questions some thought. As for NC, if the texting is the problem, get a new cell phone number if you really want NC. How long were you two dating? It's only been a few days. Go ahead and cry and wallow for a while. It'll go away but not overnight. Make sure you have people to call instead of calling him. Or come here to LS and write/blog your heart out. Find other things to occupy your time.
Author tui1987 Posted February 11, 2007 Author Posted February 11, 2007 Me and his housemate got on perfectly well...we used to hang out and go shopping together and all sorts. We never had any arguments about his ex at all really. When I first found out they were still friends he said to me that they're well and truly over. I've not been a jealous person at all I don't think...and to be honest like i said in my earlier post, I think I reacted how anybody would react. We only ated for 6 months. But it was 6 INTENSE months. It was real love. When we first met he told me he'd never move to London. Then I found out that he was applying for jobs in London and had and interview with a company. Some of the commitments he made were serious commitments. He wants to be friends. I don't know if I can do friends. But I don't want him out of my life..ever
Grrlish Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 Me and his housemate got on perfectly well...we used to hang out and go shopping together and all sorts. We never had any arguments about his ex at all really. When I first found out they were still friends he said to me that they're well and truly over. I've not been a jealous person at all I don't think...and to be honest like i said in my earlier post, I think I reacted how anybody would react. We only ated for 6 months. But it was 6 INTENSE months. It was real love. When we first met he told me he'd never move to London. Then I found out that he was applying for jobs in London and had and interview with a company. Some of the commitments he made were serious commitments. He wants to be friends. I don't know if I can do friends. But I don't want him out of my life..ever I feel for you, Tui. I really do. I just went through an intense 6 month relationship myself. I'm sorry but it sounds to me as if he has other priorities going on and he's not committed to having a relationship. Me, I'm generally against remaining friends. At least at first and especially when you feel this way about someone. If you're meant to be friends, then the friendship will come around. Generally, when one partner is still in love with the other, there will be drama and pain in the friendship. And if this is how it goes down, then you're at risk for being rejected...again. I'm sorry....it must hurt.
Wendyrite12 Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 I always write a response and then save the draft and wait three days to send it. By three days, I usually don't want to send it anymore.
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