Mermaiden Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 A guy I went out with one time and fooled around with ignored me until I lost weight. Oddly he just im'd me. He asked why I had surgery and if I was okay. So I thought he was being nice. I told him I just had a breast reduction done 3 daysago, still in am pain and on major painkillers(oxycontin). He then proceeded to ask me if he could come come over and I could just lay there while I bIew him. Yes he actually had the nerve to ask me to Bl0w him after I told him I am recuperating from major surgery. I run into this creep in public a lot. If I see him again, should I just ignore him or give him a fake smile ? I am still stunned by how very disgusting this guy is.
guin_girl Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 IGNORE... what a jerk... is there a full moon tonight? they seem to be coming out of the woodwork!
Lauriebell82 Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 wow this guy doesnt even deserve to have a conversation with u. ignore him completely he's not even worth a fake smile!
Arianna72 Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Personally I would probably point and laugh everytime I saw him.
Cous Cous With Goose Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 lol thats f'ed up the next time I saw him, I'd wave to him and tell him "I thought about your offer. And I'm willing to give you a blowjob. But first you have to give me a rimjob. And let me tell you, right now I have massive diarrhea." and if he's weird enough to accept just laugh at him lol:cool:
Topper Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Email him back Ask did the penis enlargement work after all? The last time it was so tiny your lips kept sliding off. Then a polite no thanks on the BJ since you only go down on men with balls. Guys like that almost make me feel ashamed to be a man.
Author Mermaiden Posted February 10, 2007 Author Posted February 10, 2007 I think I should keep this creep's inane request to myself. If I told my family, friends or even my ex Boyfriend they would all go ballistic. But Im still in shock that a person could be so selfish and disgusting. I'm used to helping people, so its anathema to me to conceive of making such a demand.
mixwell Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 A guy I went out with one time and fooled around with ignored me until I lost weight. Oddly he just im'd me. He asked why I had surgery and if I was okay. So I thought he was being nice. I told him I just had a breast reduction done 3 daysago, still in am pain and on major painkillers(oxycontin). He then proceeded to ask me if he could come come over and I could just lay there while I bIew him. Yes he actually had the nerve to ask me to Bl0w him after I told him I am recuperating from major surgery. I run into this creep in public a lot. If I see him again, should I just ignore him or give him a fake smile ? I am still stunned by how very disgusting this guy is. When guys don't get any for a while our standards go down hence why he probably did in the 1st place.. now that you lost weight he wants to hit you up again.. Honestly tho if I just wanted some from a girl I would at least say can I come by and hang out for a bit then work into getting some head.. Him asking you straight up to blow him is stupid.. He should at least get some game if he wants to trick girls into giving him head..
CardPlay3r Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 HAHAHAHAH wow this was so funny. Hey mermaiden I think you should agree to it then when you go down on him take a "few" bites, stick your teeth into it so to speak that should cure him for asking stuff like that for a while hahah
Author Mermaiden Posted February 10, 2007 Author Posted February 10, 2007 I blocked the sleaze on AIM. Then when I logged in I got an IM from another screen name of his I didnt know about ..... He asked why I had blocked him and said I was being dramatic and childish.So I didnt respond but also added the other screenname to my blocklist. Is best to just keep ignoring him no matter what ?
glitzy55 Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Why would you even look at this guy again let alone responde to any ims. But to guys though isn't a mouth a mouth..I mean he probably would let anyone blow him.
Author Mermaiden Posted February 11, 2007 Author Posted February 11, 2007 Oh good Lord above what is wrong with me ? I just composed and sent the MF an email .......... Here's what I sent him. A - I am rather stunned. Still am aghast that I told you I had just had major surgery and you asked for or@l s^x from me. The proper response was to wish me well in recovering or ask if you could help me out. Not will I bl0w you while I'm in pain. Being that self absorbed when someone else is hurt is anathema to me, so I can't quite fathom your behavior. Here I am, a girl who recently defended you to the teeth and that's how you repay me. Curious. Instead of hanging out in any normal situation together (like coffee, movies, etc), you somehow thought I was your goto girl for any time casual s^x. I chose to be with you on two isolated occasions because I liked you a lot and was being carefree. I can't imagine what gave you the impression that we had an ongoing FWB deal. Perchance you thought I was a H-o, I don't know. I have high standards and although casual relations can be fun, I am much happier & more comfortable with physical intimacy in a dating context. Sex is richer & better when there's a growing connection FYI. So I don't know what's going on in your world, I don't know why you're suddenly back on mXXXX and jdXXXe when you told me you were done with them. (I only know because your stats turn up at the top of my search lists) Maybe you were depressed or under the influence when you made such a callous request of me, I don't know. I do know that I attempted to draw you out and be a good friend to you. Your interests don't seem run of the mill, so I thought you'd be worthwhile to know. I had high hopes of developing a sunny, light hearted friendship with you. Probably the only time in my life I've pursued a friendship so earnestly. And I'm deeply chagrined that my efforts were in vain. I do wish you well in finding an even keel and contentment in your life. Bye - aXXXX
CardPlay3r Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Oh my Mermaiden, what you did was similar to explaining rocket science to a caveman :lmao: All he's going to get is "she wants me" Well at least maybe you got him to open a dictionary for some of those words and you can say oral sex here, don't have to censure it loll
Pink Amulet Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 :sick: The fact you are even wasting time commenting on his immoral behaviour is enough to make me question your self esteem. Of course you should ignore him, and he certainly deserves a slap in the face more than a fake smile. You need to value you yourself much higher than you currently do. I am worried you continued speaking to him even after you had acknowleged he was speaking to you only as you had lost weight. You seem lovely, don't waste your time with these scummy excuses for human beings.
Author Mermaiden Posted February 11, 2007 Author Posted February 11, 2007 So his reply to my email was that he was totally kidding and did not mean it at all. I looked over the IM logs. He seemed dead serious. He now acts very upset with me because I didnt see he was joking. Clever of him to turn it around and act like Im the meanie here. So kids, under the pretense of fairness, does this sound like joking around to you ? excerpt of IM logs: gaslighter: what did you have done? selkiex: breast reduction gaslighter: ooooooooooh gaslighter: ouch selkiex: yeah but no more backpain which is cool.. gaslighter: cool gaslighter: oh well... gaslighter: i was gonna ask if you could use your mouth to get me hard and then take a little inside before i go to sleep selkiex: aww sorry - selkiex: have to recuperate still. selkiex: taking more percocets. afk gaslighter: could you lay there and blow me and let me just come? gaslighter: ??? selkiex: Sorry XXXX - dont feel well still resting up. selkiex: take care gaslighter: ok
Blue Phoenix Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 --"When guys don't get any for a while our standards go down hence why he probably did in the 1st place.. now that you lost weight he wants to hit you up again.. Honestly tho if I just wanted some from a girl I would at least say can I come by and hang out for a bit then work into getting some head.. Him asking you straight up to blow him is stupid. He should at least get some game if he wants to trick girls into giving him head.."-- Ok sorry to say your makeing your self out to sound no better then the original slime bag shes talking about here with a post like that!! Loweing his standards in the 1st place hes a slime sucker wanna be player how high can his standards be>?? Im sure shes a thousend times better then he deserves weight loss or no weight loss. --"He should at least get some game if he wants to trick girls into giving him head"-- I personaly think your a sad man if you have to trick any one into being intimate with you. Mermaiden forget this sad excuse for a man and get your self a real guy who knowes how to treat women with the respect they deserve!!!
Guest Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 It sounds like Mr. Vacuum Enthusiast needs a good slap---with a restraining order from a judge, telling him he's not to attempt contact with you any more. That's what I'd do, in a case like yours... but then, I'm a man who has other things to think about besides sex, so what do I know? ;-)
CardPlay3r Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Well it could be a joke but not that likely, depends on whether he's the joking type, if he jokes about that stuff and the kind of person he is with girls in general.
Arianna72 Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 It doesn't sound like a joke to me. Even if it was it was in very poor taste under the circumstances. Which means he is either very callous, very stupid or both (which is my guess).
Star Gazer Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Your email to him makes it sound like there was some sort of casual fling going on?? Maybe he got the wrong impression somehow... that he could talk dirty like that to you, even if joking? Not defending him or anything, but perhaps we're assuming the worst about this guy.
Island Girl Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 excerpt of IM logs: gaslighter: what did you have done? selkiex: breast reduction gaslighter: ooooooooooh gaslighter: ouch selkiex: yeah but no more backpain which is cool.. gaslighter: cool gaslighter: oh well... So I read this and was like, "okay -- nothing wrong with that". And THEN this... gaslighter: i was gonna ask if you could use your mouth to get me hard and then take a little inside before i go to sleep selkiex: aww sorry - selkiex: have to recuperate still. selkiex: taking more percocets. afk ARE YOU KIDDING ME???? LOOK AT YOUR REPLY!!!! What is going on with you that you wouldn't let him know immediately that was NOT okay?!!! You even tell him "aww sorry" -- like you are sorry you aren't up to the task?!!! WHAT? And then this: gaslighter: could you lay there and blow me and let me just come? gaslighter: ??? selkiex: Sorry XXXX - dont feel well still resting up. selkiex: take care gaslighter: ok What is up with you? Seriously. You really need to work on your perspective. Why wouldn't he think that was okay? Your responses certainly make it seem like it is. By reading what you wrote it seems that if you weren't still resting up, it'd be okay. Read it. You basically say that the fact that you were on pain killers and not feeling well is the only reason you are saying "no". You should have told him immediately that it wasn't okay. You could have typed one word that got that message across when he first mentioned what he wanted to do: INAPPROPRIATE! Just that would have let him know it wasn't okay and he was offending you. You should really search yourself and discover why you acted the way you did and fix that - work on it - so you don't lead on this behavior anymore when you clearly don't like it.
Author Mermaiden Posted February 11, 2007 Author Posted February 11, 2007 You should really search yourself and discover why you acted the way you did and fix that - work on it - so you don't lead on this behavior anymore when you clearly don't like it. Yeah I dont need to search myself. The onus for bad behavior is on him. I was stunned and didn't know how to react. Being overly polite is how I reacted because I felt drugged/hazy and didnt want to confront his BS and hoped he was being darkly humorous. When he asked the second time it dawned on me he was serious but I still didn't want to go vis a vis with him. I've already written him an email that explains myself. His reply was to laugh it all off. And now played the wounded misunderstood guy. I'm sure he will never contact me again now that he knows I won't be doing casual stuff with him ever again. And if I don't reply on here for a while, its cause I just got word my mother had a mini stroke. No more time to think about stupid boys.
CardPlay3r Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Ouch that sucks, good luck with your mom...and don't worry about this creep he's not worth it
Island Girl Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 You're right about being over polite. You just need to value yourself a little bit more and call people on the carpet when they behave disrespectfully toward you. There is nothing wrong with telling a guy who has big time guts he is a big time A$$. So sorry to hear about your mom. I hope everything will be alright.
IWalkAlone Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 If a "player" is defined as a guy who knows just what to say to women to get them to have sex, then I'm not sure this guy qualifies as a player. Unless some women are actually receptive to this kind of advance. Are they? Anyone?
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