ShermanAct Posted February 9, 2007 Posted February 9, 2007 Hi, first time poster, but I'd like to get some opinions about the sort of issue I painted myself into... I'm about 3 1/2 months out of a pretty serious relationship that ended pretty badly that has had me down and out for a long time. I found out a week ago that she is dating New Guy, who is an acquaintance of mine - which was kept under wraps by her, the guy, and the general circle of mutual friends (though I have to admit, the circle is closer with her and the New Guy throughout the 3 1/2 months. And, just an FYI, it's becoming increasingly clear that I was dumped for him, and me and him have never gotten along. About 3 weeks ago, I met and find myself falling more and more interested with New Girl. Unfortunately for me, it seems the general circle has adopted her too and one of the girls has invited New Girl out on the town with them for one of their birthday celebration. I have been quasi-invited by the birthday girl, and New Girl would like to have me come out. But here's the thing...since the breakup with the Ex, I have not hung out with the old social network of mutual friends, and find myself antsy because: 1) New Girl and I aren't together at all - we've simply shared a kiss or two, and it's waaaaaay early - so, I want to make a good impression on her 2) Ex and New Guy will almost certainly be there, and this will be the first time I see them out together 3) None of my close friends will be there to lean on, so my normal confidence crutches will be missing. New Girl would like me to come, and I want to try to continue the momentum with her (and not chicken out). Should I cancel or make the effort to go? What can I do to be more confident/relaxed about the situation? It would be nice if I had a more natural amount of self confidence...
Shadowdog36 Posted February 9, 2007 Posted February 9, 2007 Tell new girl exactly what you said on here. Let her know about your ex and new guy. Tell her that you 'wouldn't be the man that she'd want you to be' that night due to the newness and nature of your break-up. If she has a heart, she'll understand. Or, ask new girl to do something with you that night. Make it special...not over the top, but a gesture that shows you care, and that neither you or new girl need birthday girl to have a 'night out on the town'.
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