Guest Posted February 9, 2007 Posted February 9, 2007 This case is easy to understand. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over a year now. We both age in the early 20s. Everything's working fine. We're gooe with each other. Recently, me and my boyfriend were having a causal conversation talking about people hitting on each other, the secret admirer, things that are related to how a person looks for date. Then, he said, "let exclude myself (me) for a minute it. Just for once, if a girl can just flirt with me and for her shows her interests me, I like that. Just have this happen for once. But this has never happened to me." My boyfriend is such a sweetheart and he'd never do anything harmful. He had a few previous relationships. I do not know who initiate those relationships. And this current relationship that we have now, he is the intiator. However, for me hearing him saying he wants to at least have a girl to show interest and flirt with his, and for me being a serious girlfriend (at least I think I am), this sounds worrying. At that moment, I was blank out for a little bit and worried. Then, I thought, I guess I can think it in a little causal way, why I have to worry about this (I mean, worrying about losing him.) But I also think I shouldn't have to worry about this if one relationship is strong and both person are loyal to each other. So this makes me wonder. We're both early 20s kid, apparently, haven't experienced a lot things in life yet. We both have been dating for a lil a year now. So does he just saying it? Kind of like a kid whinning about something? or deep down, he's open for another new relationship? But does this mean that he's not faithful in this relationship? I need some helps here. This is really hard to understand.
norajane Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 If I understand what you've posted, your guy said he'd like it if "just once" someone would flirt with him. It sounds like maybe he hasn't had that experience. I wouldn't worry about it if your relationship is strong. Most guys want to feel admired and attractive to women - it's a big ego boost if a girl flirts. He was probably just being honest and expressing how he feels - that he would like that kind of ego boost. I don't think it means he wishes he were with someone else. You can help his ego by flirting with him, telling him you think he's hot and sexy, and by initiating sex with him more than once in a while. Give him what he's missing! It's easy to do...something as simple as ending a phone call by telling him you can't wait to rip his clothes off when he gets to your place can work wonders!
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