Guest Posted February 8, 2007 Posted February 8, 2007 As everyone knows the MM seems to always use the cellphone to be in contact with his OW. But once they get caught the calls stop , and the texts are out the window. I always wonder is it possible they got eachother another phone. Is it in my house and I dont evern know about it. Has anyone ever heard of been through this? Or have I just gone insane.
Kathleen Posted February 8, 2007 Posted February 8, 2007 It could be right under your nose. The cell phone that is. Someone just bought their mm a new cell phone. All because the w saw an astronimical amount of text msgs. on the bill. If they want to continue the relationship, they will find a way to keep in contact. Where there's a will, there's a way.
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted February 8, 2007 Posted February 8, 2007 Yep, I think it may be quite common. After MM's W had found texts and calls to me she broke his phone and checked his new one regularly. He bought himself a secret one and communicated on that instead.
Kathleen Posted February 8, 2007 Posted February 8, 2007 It happens all the time. Like I said before: Where there's a will, there's a way. Always!
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted February 8, 2007 Posted February 8, 2007 I should add - he then phoned his wife off his secret phone by mistake, so she then found out he had a secret phone. Lol - the problem with lying, is somehow somewhere or someway, you ALWAYS get found out...
Valley Posted February 8, 2007 Posted February 8, 2007 As everyone knows the MM seems to always use the cellphone to be in contact with his OW. But once they get caught the calls stop , and the texts are out the window. I always wonder is it possible they got eachother another phone. Is it in my house and I dont evern know about it. Has anyone ever heard of been through this? Or have I just gone insane. I have never been in this particular situation, however, my best friend is going through this right now. She can't find it either. He said it was a frineds and gave it back to the "friend", but she doesn;t buy that crap for ****. The funny thing is, she was once the girl with the spare cell phone and now she's wondering if he has one for another woman. I wish you the best. Be one step ahead of this fool. Find the phone and think out of the box.
PoshPrincess Posted February 9, 2007 Posted February 9, 2007 A lot of my contact with exMM was via his mobile phone, which is how we eventually got found out. Our R, I am ashamed to say, carried on for a while after. When she found another text from me about 7 months later she made his change his mobile number (he didn't admit this to me, made some silly excuse as to why he had a different one although I have no idea why he felt the need to do that). Thing is, he just gave me the new number anyway. I really wish he hadn't now though as when I have a weak moment re NC I know the number off by heart and it is SO easy to contact him again! I have even asked him to change his number again and not to let me have it (yeah, I know I should just have more willpower!) but he won't, even though he doesn't really want contact either. Three weeks now though and this time I KNOW I won't be tempted to get in touch again. A friend of mine was seeing a guy who was engaged and he bought them matching mobile phones on contract and both the bills were sent to his home address - how stupid!!!!!!! I have to say I am amazed how careless some of these MMs are with their mobile phones, although maybe they are the ones who are less experienced at cheating! I guess the more affairs some of these guys have had the better they get at covering their tracks!
veronese Posted February 9, 2007 Posted February 9, 2007 I think having two mobile phones is standarad practice for a lot of people having affairs, even before they get rumbled by their spouses. Examples: 1. A friend (female) started an EA with the builder working on her house. For two months the phone records went to her husband's company offices to be filed by secretary. Initially she was confident the bills would be filed unnoticed. By third month she decided to play safe and get second phone. 2. Another friend's husband had a second phone that he hid in the wall of their house behind a brick (she found it!) 3. My H's OW got a second phone to talk to him on. 4. Another female friend of mine who is in the middle of an affair with a MM got a second phone, her lover has 3!!! etc. etc. Sometimes they don't even have a second phone and just switch SIM cards on the one phone depending on who they are talking to. SIM cards are so small they're easily hidden v
outofdarkness Posted February 9, 2007 Posted February 9, 2007 He never used his cell phone. Ever. I don't think that my H would ever use a cell phone again for cheating after our D day...but I totally agree with the other posters who say that if they want to cheat, they WILL find a way!!! It really just feeds the secrecy and deception, which in my opinion, makes things MORE exciting for those in A's...Just my opinion...
empty906 Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Why not just clear it when you are finished talking on it? Clear all text messages and clear the number that called or was called. That's what I did. My W would check my phone periodically but it was always clean. Too dangerous to save things.
outofdarkness Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Why not just clear it when you are finished talking on it? Clear all text messages and clear the number that called or was called. That's what I did. My W would check my phone periodically but it was always clean. Too dangerous to save things. This does work before D day, after that, he knows his cell phone is going to be closely monitered, so it means nothing. Mostly, they just get another one and hide it, get a calling card, etc...If they want to cheat, they'll find a way to do it and hide it...It really does add to the "rush of it".
erika2610 Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Why not just clear it when you are finished talking on it? Clear all text messages and clear the number that called or was called. That's what I did. My W would check my phone periodically but it was always clean. Too dangerous to save things. Because some MM are dumb. I know I was found out when I called my now ex MM and the dummy had left the phone at home.
outofdarkness Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Because some MM are dumb. I know I was found out when I called my now ex MM and the dummy had left the phone at home. yep...I'll go with that. some are just plain idiots!
empty906 Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Because some MM are dumb. I know I was found out when I called my now ex MM and the dummy had left the phone at home. I remember once I was talking with the OW and I had to go take care of something. She said to call her back on her house phone. In the few minutes it took me to do what I had to do her H came home way early and he answered when I called. Caught me totally off guard to hear his voice say hello! Who knows how she explained that one.
Freedom Now Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 My xMM was slick. After the first few relatively silent months after D-day, the phone calls didn't stop, just slowed down. And the same with the texts. And she combs through the phone bill every month, according to him. He just erased the text messages to me, called from his business "800" number, and she can't catch him. Yuck. What a total lack of respect for her. And he told me he wants to be a better man. Yet, he still emails me, texts me, and calls me inspite of wanting to be a better man. Yeah, he's off to a great start, huh?
outofdarkness Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 My xMM was slick. After the first few relatively silent months after D-day, the phone calls didn't stop, just slowed down. And the same with the texts. And she combs through the phone bill every month, according to him. He just erased the text messages to me, called from his business "800" number, and she can't catch him. Yuck. What a total lack of respect for her. And he told me he wants to be a better man. Yet, he still emails me, texts me, and calls me inspite of wanting to be a better man. Yeah, he's off to a great start, huh? THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!! I had been driving myself crazy over all of the 1800 numbers on my H's cell. Of course, he says that they are business calls, and his Co does have 800 ext...so I really had no way of knowing...I have called some and they do seem to be co. calls, but I wonder if ALL of them are...Thanks for the info...
Freedom Now Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 In your quest for the truth, I would gladly help you with info from "my side." Peace.
Babybird Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 My MM only calls me from his home phone when W is either sleepin or gone. She looks through the cell phone bill and asks about new numbers so he very rarely calls me on it and when he does it's very brief. I call him on the cell only when I know he isn't going to be caught. I text him quite a bit and he erases it right after reading it. He rarely texts me. He usually just calls. Cell phones are the easiest way to stay in touch.
MustBeLove Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 My MM and I are always using our cell phones. His gets his bill sent to him at work and she never looks through his phone when he his home. He never saves any of our texts just in case.
PoshPrincess Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 yep...I'll go with that. some are just plain idiots! I agree totally. My exMM was normally very good at deleted messages, etc but this particularly night when we were found out, he had texted me goodnight as he always did but had too much to drink and fell asleep (phone in hand) before he had got my reply. He had one of those phones that keeps bleeping till the message is picked up, she heard it and......well, the rest is history. And he STILL didn't learn his lesson!
outofdarkness Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 I think having two mobile phones is standarad practice for a lot of people having affairs, even before they get rumbled by their spouses. Examples: 1. A friend (female) started an EA with the builder working on her house. For two months the phone records went to her husband's company offices to be filed by secretary. Initially she was confident the bills would be filed unnoticed. By third month she decided to play safe and get second phone. 2. Another friend's husband had a second phone that he hid in the wall of their house behind a brick (she found it!) 3. My H's OW got a second phone to talk to him on. 4. Another female friend of mine who is in the middle of an affair with a MM got a second phone, her lover has 3!!! etc. etc. Sometimes they don't even have a second phone and just switch SIM cards on the one phone depending on who they are talking to. SIM cards are so small they're easily hidden v Could you tell me more about the whole sim card thing? I am still learning about cell phone tech. and would really like more info on this inparticular...I am also wondering if any of you have any ideas where else I might look for additional cell phone, ect...I have looked in places posters here have suggested to no avail...I have also looking in his car w/ a fine tooth comb, nothing, and I have looked in his office...This is the only place that I am not able to really look. Do they ever use calling cards? Does the OW buy phones for the MM?, so the bills go to her? How exactly does a D day change the way OW and MM communicate? Thanks in advance
minucha Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 clearing messages and calls history will only get the w more suspecious, since a clean fone is a big question mark//?? hey, even if you clear them, they would still show in the history log, which can only be erased completely, leaving the fone with zero calls and zero messages, and that my friend is one spot light on you...... how you gonna explain that again and again????? cheers
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