whichwayisup Posted February 9, 2007 Posted February 9, 2007 You don't have to cut off contact with the roommate, you just tell him that the MM conversation is not going to happen. He should understand that, and respect your wishes. I would hope that you two have other things to talk about other than the MM........ I miss MM so much and now after all the things I've heard this week I have hope that he's really going to file and that we are going to have the future we discussed. I don't know if I'll be able to make it through the weekend without contacting him. I don't know how to get back the strength and resolve that has allowed me to stay silent for 9 days. It gave you hope and that's what is making it harder for you to continue with NC. Now, you close the door to those ideas (for now) start healing. Cry, scream, eat chocolate, go out with friends (maybe try not to spend ALOT of time with the roommate, just incase YOU'RE tempted to ask him questions about MM...) and be sure to laugh and have some fun. Have those down times in the day/evening but don't let it GET you down too long.
puddleofmud Posted February 9, 2007 Posted February 9, 2007 You are reading something into his post that isn't there.. he was just saying that a single guy is out there for her.. OK, thanks, and sorry that I mis-understood. As well I am SURE there is someone "out there" for any of us when we are ready
Author Baileykeg Posted February 9, 2007 Author Posted February 9, 2007 Part of what is hard for me is that I have my son this weekend, as is the case most weekends, and it is difficult for me to get out. I try to stay busy and do things with him on the weekend but one can only "distract" themselves so much trying to entertain a 3 year old. MM knows my schedule completely so he knows when I am home and when I'm not. Part of the hard thing for me is that he knows I am not able to get out at night very much. It makes not thinking about him all that much more difficult. Everything here at the house reminds me of him and weekends are especially hard because that's when we were together most. Now, I'm stuck in a house (after my son goes to bed at 7:30) to sit alone with my thoughts. It's torture.
whichwayisup Posted February 9, 2007 Posted February 9, 2007 Make playdates with your son, involve other kids and other mom's so you all can hangout together. Change up your routine. Try to get a sitter for an hour or two in the evening after your son goes to bed so you can get out with a friend. Isolating yourself isn't helping! OH and if you can't get a sitter, then invite friends over to keep you company. I am sorry you're in pain.
GreenEyedLady Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Well thats good...you don't need to be sleeping with someone elses huband anyway. Wow...you must have a lot of time on your hands to make rude and malicious quotes on every thread you post on...
Salicious Crumb Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Why in the heck is it advised that every woman go out and find "another man"? What is wrong with the "opportunity" of spending some time alone and figuring things out for ones self prior to another involvement? Just curious... Staying single is an option too...even at 38, if I ever get divorced, I won't date again....no thanks. But when the time comes...I suggest someone single. Call me crazy.
Salicious Crumb Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Wow...you must have a lot of time on your hands to make rude and malicious quotes on every thread you post on... Your right...my comments are much worse than someone sleeping with another woman's husband....or a cheating spouse that only thinks about their "needs" ahead of their children's. Ya...you must be right.
GreenEyedLady Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Your right...my comments are much worse than someone sleeping with another woman's husband....or a cheating spouse that only thinks about their "needs" ahead of their children's. Ya...you must be right. Well, glad to see you agree with me...maybe you are actually learning something being here...
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