brokenhart2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I decided to initiate and ask a guy out for a 2nd date (he asked for the 1st one) and he happily agreed. This was all taking place via text messaging. After agreeing on the date, we're chatting a little back and forth and he says "I'm getting to ready to shower do you want to join me?"...I'm sure he was just being playful and I liked it cuz it makes me think he's definitley attracted to me; but we haven't even kissed yet! And we've only met 2 X briefly (our 1st date was a couple beers and a couple hours, with some basic chatting, no affection) By asking him out I know it's clear that I am into him; but what's up with the sudden sexual reference? Does he think I'm just trying to get some?
Lauriebell82 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 hmm well its suprising he's saying that and he hasnt even kissed u yet..of course all men think about is sex so its not THAT surprising! but anyway i think he was just joking. some guys like to joke about sex even with girls they are just freinds with. i have some guy friends who make sexual references to me, but are totally kidding. on the other hand, maybe he said it to get a reaction out of u. like maybe how far u would go with him or what u would do if he did try to initiate sex on ur next date. did u respond back to him about the comment? if u didnt i would just let it go unless he brings it up. if he tries to make any moves, only do something ur comfortable with and he'll get the picture. if he keeps making references that bother u, maybe tell him ur uncomfortable with that (assuming u are that is) but wait to see if it happens frequently and more often than u'd prefer.
Krytellan Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Relax, breathe, and stop worrying. He ws probably simply testing the waters to see whatkind of person you are: flirty, sexual, playful, etc. From your response to his question, whether you know it or not, he likely got that question answered. Please don't think about something like this any more. It served a puspose and is likely over. Enjoy the date worry free!!!
Author brokenhart2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Author Posted February 7, 2007 hmm well its suprising he's saying that and he hasnt even kissed u yet..of course all men think about is sex so its not THAT surprising! but anyway i think he was just joking. some guys like to joke about sex even with girls they are just freinds with. i have some guy friends who make sexual references to me, but are totally kidding. on the other hand, maybe he said it to get a reaction out of u. like maybe how far u would go with him or what u would do if he did try to initiate sex on ur next date. did u respond back to him about the comment? if u didnt i would just let it go unless he brings it up. if he tries to make any moves, only do something ur comfortable with and he'll get the picture. if he keeps making references that bother u, maybe tell him ur uncomfortable with that (assuming u are that is) but wait to see if it happens frequently and more often than u'd prefer. I took it as a joke...and responded back with "LOL. maybe one day if you are lucky". Then it was like, the end of the conversation and he just said he would call me and we said goodnight. Otherwise he didnt' elaborate on it.
Author brokenhart2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Author Posted February 7, 2007 Relax, breathe, and stop worrying. He ws probably simply testing the waters to see whatkind of person you are: flirty, sexual, playful, etc. From your response to his question, whether you know it or not, he likely got that question answered. Please don't think about something like this any more. It served a puspose and is likely over. Enjoy the date worry free!!! No worries here..truth is I liked it... but you know us women we analyze everything right! I'm actually sord of glad he broke the ice with something flirty, now we can flirt more!
tanbark813 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I took it as a joke...and responded back with "LOL. maybe one day if you are lucky". Then it was like, the end of the conversation and he just said he would call me and we said goodnight. Otherwise he didnt' elaborate on it. He was most likely just flirting with you. And he may have taken your response as rejection.
Krytellan Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I took it as a joke...and responded back with "LOL. maybe one day if you are lucky"./quote] And this is simply the reaction he was wanting to test out. Now he knows you can be playful.
JA2 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I wouldn't read into it much. It was just meant for fun flirting.
Krytellan Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 He was most likely just flirting with you. And he may have taken your response as rejection. Stop trying to freak her out. Shame on you
tanbark813 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Stop trying to freak her out. Shame on you Hey, I said "may have". I also said that because she said the conversation ended after that. Personally, I think a playful response is something like, "Oooo, can I soap you up?" or whatever. The "if you're lucky" comes across as a little cold. But that's just me.
paris38 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 playful, and lets him know she's open to it in the future, but not going to just rush into a sexual relationship with him. If he wants sex right away, like the next date, and he knows now that this girl wants to get to know him better and establish monogamy first, that is good because if he bolts because he feels discouraged after that phone conversation, good riddance! I'm about establishing a 'we are in a relationship' before sleeping together.
tanbark813 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 playful, and lets him know she's open to it in the future, but not going to just rush into a sexual relationship with him. If he wants sex right away, like the next date, and he knows now that this girl wants to get to know him better and establish monogamy first, that is good because if he bolts because he feels discouraged after that phone conversation, good riddance! I'm about establishing a 'we are in a relationship' before sleeping together. So out of curiosity, if you suggested a guy join you in the shower in a flirty way and he said "if you're lucky" would you find that playful?
Sand&Water Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 RE: He says "I'm getting to ready to shower do you want to join me?" I thought I was the only one who experiences this, as well. Men say this phrase to me a lot of the time. Pathetic. I just don't understand what the fuss is about. Don't take it to heart. He was probably using semi-humor -or something rather lame to dart a few points. Sand&Water
paris38 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I would take it as flirting back and going along with it. It's funnier that way, actually. I don't know, in those situations there's no script in front of you to say the best, most appropriate comeback so I wouldn't hold any response against him or take it personally. So out of curiosity, if you suggested a guy join you in the shower in a flirty way and he said "if you're lucky" would you find that playful?
Star Gazer Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 See, his "wanna join me?" comment is exactly the sort of thing that would turn me off - especially before we'd even kissed. However, once a dating relationship is actually established, that sort of comment is sexy, the perfect kind of non-physical foreplay. Keeps my mind racing, and his too. But so early on, it makes me think he's only out for one thing. Yes, he's testing the waters...trying to see how quickly I'm going to respond sexually. Me no likey.
Author brokenhart2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Author Posted February 7, 2007 So out of curiosity, if you suggested a guy join you in the shower in a flirty way and he said "if you're lucky" would you find that playful? Well ok, I didn't really say "if your lucky"...I just said "lol maybe one day..." I exaggerated the last part in my post. But like Paris said, I was trying to give a response that indicated I'm definitley attracted to him, I just don't want to rush into the sex part. I'm all about flirting though
paris38 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 who was so picky that he would read so much into such a trite conversation and it would put him off. I don't want to be walking on eggshells just because I said one bad joke, or one thing that made him think I'm frigid, or didn't open his car door because it's on his 'checklist,' or forgot to thank him for dinner because we got into conversation and it slipped my mind once so he thinks I'm inconsiderate....I just want to relax and have fun.
Krytellan Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 See, his "wanna join me?" comment is exactly the sort of thing that would turn me off - especially before we'd even kissed. However, once a dating relationship is actually established, that sort of comment is sexy, the perfect kind of non-physical foreplay. Keeps my mind racing, and his too. But so early on, it makes me think he's only out for one thing. Yes, he's testing the waters...trying to see how quickly I'm going to respond sexually. Me no likey. What a prude
tanbark813 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 who was so picky that he would read so much into such a trite conversation and it would put him off. I don't want to be walking on eggshells just because I said one bad joke, or one thing that made him think I'm frigid, or didn't open his car door because it's on his 'checklist,' or forgot to thank him for dinner because we got into conversation and it slipped my mind once so he thinks I'm inconsiderate....I just want to relax and have fun. Calm down, princess, it was just a question.
Author brokenhart2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Author Posted February 7, 2007 What a prude Maybe he is just out for one thing...he just doesn't realize yet that he won't get it from me that soon...and if that bothers him, I don't want to date him anyway. But for now, his comment at least tells me there is absolutely attraction between us. It feels good to have it there to build on. Perhaps he felt I was "rushing" in for the 2nd date by asking him out, leading him to think I would rush into other things. Either way, I'm happy at this point, so we'll see how he handles it this Sat. night!
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