JA2 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 My bf has been talking about getting engaged since Nov. I'm not sure if he bought a ring by now, but my question is regarding a ring. My Nan's ring. It's engraved with their names and the date my grandpa proposed. It's very special to me. The problem is, my Nana took the diamonds out so she could combine them with her mom's diamonds to make one ring (my mom has that one). I still really love the ring even though their are no diamonds. It's so sentimental. Of course I've told my bf this many times, but I told him it was up to him, since I did not want to ruin something he already planned. But the more I think about it the more I really want that ring. My question is, is it too late to request my Nana's ring. Like I said I don't know if he bought the ring already. Please, any advice would be greatly appreciated.
paris38 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Is it possible your boyfriend has your Nana's ring and is possibly having diamonds put into it by a jeweler and is going to surprise you with it on V-Day?
oh_what_am_I_doing Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Well I think if you've already told your bf several times, now you just need to sit back and see what happens. Hopefully he will understand how important this is to you and will oblige. Otherwise, you can always still wear her ring, but on the other hand!!
Author JA2 Posted February 7, 2007 Author Posted February 7, 2007 The problem is I have it. I just picked it up from my mom, because I thought maybe I would put my Nana's birthstone in it. But then I kept putting it on my fingure and I just love it, the thought that my Nana and Grandpa have been happily married for over 60yrs and this is the ring that started it all. But now I don't know how my bf can propose w/o me knowing. Any suggestions?
Lauriebell82 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 did u tell him u have the ring? if its really THAT important to u, than tell him that is what u would like him to propose with. let him surprise u with the proposal, i mean its not going to be that much of a shock since he's talking about proposing and an engagement. but tell him its important to u and that u want him to surprise u with the proposal anytime he wants to do it, but u would like to wear ur grandmother's ring as the engagement ring. dropping hints is all good and telling him and stuff, but men can be stupid so tell him how important it is to u. if he is getting ready to ask u to marry him he obviously loves u very much and would do anything to make u happy. if he realizes how important this is to u, i'm sure he'll grant ur request.
oh_what_am_I_doing Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 dropping hints is all good and telling him and stuff, but men can be stupid so tell him how important it is to u. You make a good point, Lauriebell!
Sand&Water Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 RE: (A) Communicate with your boyfriend about the ring, and such. Discuss. (B) Come to an agreement. Important that there are no regrets on either side. Agreement. Compromise. Sand&Water
Author JA2 Posted February 7, 2007 Author Posted February 7, 2007 You are all so helpful and I totally agree that I should make it clear how important it would mean to me, but I'm just afraid that he might have bought the a ring already (I'm only saying), then I'll feel bad. I told him I have the ring, I even showed it to him. He knows I'm sentimental and he knows how much I love my Nana and Grandpa, but even when I showed him, he didn't really say much. Like he had a smile on his face (he wasn't upset or annoyed is what I'm trying to say), but he didn't say anything. So do you think I should still say something to him at this point or just let fait have it's way? I wish I had handled it better in the beginning and just told him that is the ring I'd like, but I just felt bad since it didn't have the diamonds and I thought that would make it more complicated. What should I do????
Lauriebell82 Posted February 9, 2007 Posted February 9, 2007 well if u've made it clear that u want that ring, chances are he probably wont go out and get u one. just tell him that when he proposes to use that ring, whenever he chooses that he wants to ask u to marry him. then just leave it at that. talking about it too much or pesturing him is probably going to annoy him, so just make it clear u want that ring and i'm sure he'll do it for u. (if he already did buy a ring for u, before he knew u wanted that one chances are he might ahve just taken it back.)
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