righton Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Let me tell you all a story...I dated this girl, she was the first girl i had met that truely made me feel great about everything...we dated for 3 months, she went on vacation for 2 weeks to see her mother in FL. One week into the trip she said gave the option to break up now or later because when she was done with her last year of school she was moving back there to be with her mom. I was crushed, turns out it wasnt because of her mom but her ex bf...She left fl the next week and returned here, we were no longer together. She eventually broke it off with him, and started dating other guys, for about 7 months we were apart and every day i would think about her, every girl i dated was constantly compared to her. Eventually we got to talking and poured everything out, we got back to gether. We dated for 10 months this time. This where up and down. I knew she never really liked it here and did want to move, but she said the only reason she stayed was because of me. I took her for granted and didnt do half the things i should of. She finally decided she would move, due to me being stupid and her mom being sick. She left this sunday. I only found out she was telling her girlfriends she was moving to be with her ex after she left. When confronted she said they where lieing, and that she 'might' get back with him seeing as how hes the only familar thing there. BS. Well anyway here i am rock bottom, afraid i wont get over her. Im to forgiving with people and thats my weakness. I go to bed thinking about it over and over about her, i have dreams, and wake up and cant sleep. Im basically a wreak. But why? I shouldnt be right? i deserve better. EIt tears me up that she left because of me taking our relationship for granted and if i could go back id try and fix it. But even during the relationship there where times where id want to end it but never did. Its like i want what i cant have, this isnt the first time ive taken a relationship for granted and been left feeling horrible. But the first time i was over her so much faster, and we dated for so much longer. I dont know what to do any advice ill take. To make it even worse,it seems almost impossible to find a new person to love. I mean i thought i loved this person and it all went to hell right? Whats to prevent that from happening again? Im depressed, i feel like ive hit rock bottom, i know ill be ok, im young, but feelings are feelings regardless of age i suppose, but when will i be ok? I have all this extra time i didnt know had before becasue i filed it with her. my phone is empty of texts, my room empty of pictures, listening to the radio is depressing...ect ect...i just dont know where to begin
Santiago 17 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Dude, I went through a similar breakup, That was five months ago and honestly i still find myself getting down about it from time to time. However, those times become fewer and more far between as time goes on. Just try to maintain yourself and dignity. Get rid off all the pics, her stuff, etc.. (anything that reminds you of her!) You have one thing on your side at least she is out of state! It will take time, so meanwhile just focus on other areas of your life. Don't try and replace her b/c that doesn't work (for me at least). Focus on getting in better shape, get a second job, do something you like. However, it is early so take some time to mourn, just don't let yourself stay in the self pity stage too long. As far as meeting someone new, just put hat on hold until you heal and are ready, unless something really promising comes along by chance!! Good luck, it gets better SANTIAGO 17
oh_what_am_I_doing Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I have some advice for helping you fall asleep. My friend told me to do this after my breakup because it worked for her after her breakup: put the timer on your tv and fall asleep with it on. Listen to it with your eyes closed because if you're really thinking about the words, you won't be thinking about her. Feel better soon!
Am4Real Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I have some advice for helping you fall asleep. My friend told me to do this after my breakup because it worked for her after her breakup: put the timer on your tv and fall asleep with it on. Listen to it with your eyes closed because if you're really thinking about the words, you won't be thinking about her. Feel better soon! You know, that really does work. It's amazing!
Author righton Posted February 8, 2007 Author Posted February 8, 2007 I talked with her today, she says everything i heard from her friends wasnt true, or was blown out of proportion, but when 4 diffrent friends and a step mom and father have the same story its hard to beleive. Also she said she still loves me but doesnt miss me (as i said i took her for granted and she finally had enough....) I also found out that during our relationship she did cheat on me once, and did things she swore she never would do...this hurts even more now, i feel pathetic. I try doing things i like and staying busy but when im doing things i like i think of her because normally she'd be the first person to hear about my day and what i did. I know i deserve better but i fully trusted this person and its so frustrating knowing that it could happen so easy again, also frusting just being upset over this, i know i deserve better...
Santiago 17 Posted February 8, 2007 Posted February 8, 2007 It's gonna hurt for a little while, just keep the idea in your head that you will get over it (b/c you will), and cut off contact b/c that will speed up the process!! Talking to her is only going to make your hopes of reconciliation linger (trust me I know). Stay strong
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