uma Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Hello All This is my first post on here so hello all. I may as well cut to the chase as things are a little difficult for me right now and am really wondering what I can or should do about it. I am 40, have been married for just over 2 years (late starter- and married to have children with someone who is wonderful, is my best friend, but I don't fancy. We have been together for 6 years and I have never fancied him. Not a drop of desire, ever. He's just been really kind and loving and we share the same things in life - values, interests and have the same level of intellect etc. However, since turning 40 last year, it has really hit me that my sex life is pretty much doomed - in terms of really enjoying it. I don't ever initiate it out of desire, but sometimes suggest we 'have a shag' because otherwise we don't. We had 3 last year. I am starting to feel really sorry for my little body and for the passion I used to enjoy so much. He is the same. We have been to sex counselling, I have had counselling, I have moved out and moved back in, have had an affair - (may as well be honest on here) which tore me apart. We both want children, but know that our sex life will be doomed if we do and that we can't separate if we do. In short, what are my options and what do others think I should do? I didn't realise all this was so important until it came up and slapped me in the face.
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