precious99 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I have a question that seems silly outwardly but it is driving me crazy!! I recently (3 months or so ago) got a great promotion and began a new path in my career. However, along with this great promotion came a change in my regular routine and hours - I went from working straight days to midnights (the graveyard shift 11-7 yuck!!) And it seems that along with the toll that it is taking on my physical body it is also wreaking havoc on my relationship with my BF. We have been together for a little over a year and moved in together not long ago. So, here's my issue - which may seem pretty insignificant to some - when I first started my new job my BF was upset and missed me terribly now however it seems that in the past few weeks that has changed. All we ever seem to do on my days off is argue and fight - in fact I was off 3 days this weekend and we fought the entire time....then tonight as I was getting ready to go into work we were fine - like our old selves. And when we do fight he is the type that gets very quiet and withdraws - even affection. I guess I'm feeling like he doesn't want me around and that he is happier when I'm working. I should tell you that he is laid off right now and has been for quite a while. When I try to talk to him about it he just tells me that I am being silly. Any advice??
Lauriebell82 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 adjusting to a new job is hard..are u more stressed out and irritable? (which is normal) maybe u are uncousciously projecting this onto ur bf and that may be why ur fighting. he also may be depressed and bored that he is laid off, and when ur not around he feels worse. all these things could be contributing to the fighting and arguing. when something changes in a relationship the adjustment is sometimes very hard on both partners. my advice is to try talking to him. dont get mad or attach him but in a very nice understanding gf tone jsut say, "is everything ok?" he may talk to u about it, he may not. communication is very important so talking about the situation and ur feelings about it may help both of u immensely.
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