Santiago 17 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I just need to vent b/c I have been doing sooooooo well for like two or three weeks. I really thought I was totally better, and all of a sudden I woke up today and really missed my ex. I mean sometimes I wake up a little depressed in general but I CAN ALWAYS SHAKE IT! Not today, I don't know where this is coming from. I am no longer mad at my ex, and I really feel that I made the right decision in ending it, but I just really miss her. All I can think of (causing this feeling) is that we were both huge colts fans and watched all the games together, and the colts just won the Super Bowl. I can't lie, there was a little sadness that came with the joy of seeing my favorite team win it all. Oh, and on top of that we just got snowed in where I live. Anyways, I really am trying to just keep the momentum going b/c, I cannot afford to become depressed again now. Since I have stopped being down, I have made a lot of improvements and have job interviews to prepare for and other important things going on. Sooooo many things have changed since my last relationship, that I feel it is time I am finally better. However, I still don't feel prepared to date other people again I don't know why? I know that my ex is gone for good, but I just don't have the desire to pursue a relationship right now unless something really grabs my attention and all I encounter are just semi-interesting possibilities? Santiago
Author Santiago 17 Posted February 13, 2007 Author Posted February 13, 2007 Just venting a little. I just don't understand why I don't want to even really think about dating or meeting other people still. It has been four and a half months since my break-up, and I am still pretty apathetic towards meeting someone new. I really don't think about my ex a whole lot anymore (at least compared to a couple months ago), and I don't really feel as if I am depressed anymore (even w/ V-day coming up), but when I think about any kind of relationship or even meeting someone I just sort of shut that thought down and don't think about it. Before, when I had not experienced a real serious relationship I liked to think about meeting someone who I really connected with. Now there is nothing there I just don't go there mentally? That is an ability I have never had before. I have never been able to block out thoughts or feelings. Now I can? Maybe it is b/c my mind never had to deal with this before. I don't know? Is it possible for your mind to heal before your heart does, b/c that is how I feel now.
AriaIncognito Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 It's perfectly fine to not feel like you want to date yet. When you're ready to date again, you'll know. No need to rush yourself, and well, finding happiness in single life, is often beneficial too...
thatmatt Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 I understand completely about the not wanting a relationship at all. Reading your post before, take that as a positive. When something like that reminds you of your ex, or being in a relationship, think about sharing moments like that with someone wonderful, and let yourself get butterflies in your stomach. Does it mean you're ready for a relationship? Not necessairliy, but whenever you're feeling apathetic about that next special person in your life, think about those butterflies, and translate that rush into the good things in your life, like your job interviews. I think a relationship at this point still seems daunting, it seems overwhelming. That's okay, you've got a lot of positive things to look forward to, and take comfort in the little things that get you excited.
aaaaaiiiiieeeee Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 It's only been 1.5 months for me. I think I must be dreaming about her at night because I wake up so scared and alone in the mornings. My day starts and I forget her and the pain through out the day. I still miss her terribly at times and it hurts knowing I was so easily replaced after so long together, but you have to move on. I think it's kind of like when you first break up you go through that not being able to eat stage, but eventually you get it back. I imagine that when you're ready you will be ready to open up to someone again. As of right now I can't even begin to think that far into my future, so just take it one day at a time.
Author Santiago 17 Posted February 13, 2007 Author Posted February 13, 2007 I know all about the not eating stage, and the drinking to much stage, and wanting to just sleep all day stage. I am so glad that those days are behind me. I actually feel as if this was meant to happen to me b/c I was too naive before, and thought that as long as there was physical attraction and the girl wasn't a total bi*** I could make it work, and now I know that it takes more than that. Now I see a lot of what I was blind to before. I have always been someone who comes up more than even after something bad happens to me. Good karma I guess, and this break-up really ranks up there, so I really hope that the karma thing applies to my love life as well b/c I am due for a real treat if so Sure it will be worth the wait!! Just need to find a better place to meet a good catch!! Bars usually provide a little too wild of a dating pool, but I am also not looking for a Sunday school teacher Ya know?
RocketMan2 Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 I know all about the not eating stage, and the drinking to much stage, and wanting to just sleep all day stage. I am so glad that those days are behind me. I actually feel as if this was meant to happen to me b/c I was too naive before, and thought that as long as there was physical attraction and the girl wasn't a total bi*** I could make it work, and now I know that it takes more than that. Now I see a lot of what I was blind to before. I have always been someone who comes up more than even after something bad happens to me. Good karma I guess, and this break-up really ranks up there, so I really hope that the karma thing applies to my love life as well b/c I am due for a real treat if so Sure it will be worth the wait!! Just need to find a better place to meet a good catch!! Bars usually provide a little too wild of a dating pool, but I am also not looking for a Sunday school teacher Ya know? Wow! Its really strange to read someone else describe EXACTLY how i feel :s Hang in there Sant, I'm with you! Rocket
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