RyTom21 Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Sex questions for the women out there I'm about to have sex for the first time, and I have some worries. These questions are for all the women out there. 1. If a man were to ejaculate 10 seconds after penetration, but then takes the time to also give you an orgasm with his fingers or tongue, would you still care that he came to early? 2. What would your reaction be if a man said this to you just before intercourse? "I'm really nervous, and I just want to please you. Can you tell me how to do that"? 3. My penis is average sized, but I feel that I have unusually small testicles. As a woman, would this matter to you? 4. This is a follow up question to number 3. At full erection, I am 5 1/2 inches. With no erection, I am just under 2 inches long. As a woman, which matters most to you. The size a man is when he's limp, or when he's hard?. Does limp size even matter?
Star Gazer Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 1. If a man were to ejaculate 10 seconds after penetration, but then takes the time to also give you an orgasm with his fingers or tongue, would you still care that he came to early? YES, I would care. 10 seconds of penetration is not enough, ever. I'm sorry if that upsets you, but it's not something I would be pleased with. Rub one out before the date/deed if necessary to get rid of...um...some tension. 2. What would your reaction be if a man said this to you just before intercourse? "I'm really nervous, and I just want to please you. Can you tell me how to do that"? I'd leave out the "really nervous" part. In order to please and excite a woman in bed, you have to be confident - or at least pretend to be. However, communicating your desire to please her and learn what she likes is always a good thing. 3. My penis is average sized, but I feel that I have unusually small testicles. As a woman, would this matter to you? I don't think I've ever given a second thought to ball size. I think they'd have to be really, really, really small or enormous for me to even notice. 4. This is a follow up question to number 3. At full erection, I am 5 1/2 inches. With no erection, I am just under 2 inches long. As a woman, which matters most to you. The size a man is when he's limp, or when he's hard?. Does limp size even matter? I started responding to this thread before I even read this question. Are you seriously asking which one matters MORE - erect or flaccid? ERECT!! ERECT!!! That's when you can USE it!!! However, I would be worried if I saw a flaccid penis that was less than 2 inches long - I'd assume the erect version would be fairly small. I'm not sure what "average" is, but I'd recommend getting hard before showing off your goods.
IWalkAlone Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I started responding to this thread before I even read this question. Are you seriously asking which one matters MORE - erect or flaccid? ERECT!! ERECT!!! That's when you can USE it!!! However, I would be worried if I saw a flaccid penis that was less than 2 inches long - I'd assume the erect version would be fairly small. I'm not sure what "average" is, but I'd recommend getting hard before showing off your goods. That's what makes the Seainfeld episode about "shrinkage" so funny. Erect, I am longer than 5.5 unches, but after a cold swim or snowboarding in a blizzard, it's less than 2. I wouldn't want anyone I hoped to sleep with from walking in on me either
burning 4 revenge Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Funny, I'm 5 and a half inches flaccid and two inches erect
serial muse Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Funny, I'm 5 and a half inches flaccid and two inches erect good God, b4r, how wide is it?!?!?
WilliR Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 1. If a man were to ejaculate 10 seconds after penetration, but then takes the time to also give you an orgasm with his fingers or tongue, would you still care that he came to early? Yeah, if it were the first time then I'd be kind of worried. You want to make the best impression. I might wonder if this is what to expect forever. You can buy numbing cream and stuff at the drugstore to help with that. Guys have said they pretend they are making love to Marge Simpson or Barbara Bush to try to "prolong" things. Or take the advice above. 2. What would your reaction be if a man said this to you just before intercourse? "I'm really nervous, and I just want to please you. Can you tell me how to do that"? Eh. Try, "Come here and put your arms around me" instead. 3. My penis is average sized, but I feel that I have unusually small testicles. As a woman, would this matter to you? I haven't seen enough balls to be able to tell you for sure what they are supposed to look like. 4. This is a follow up question to number 3. At full erection, I am 5 1/2 inches. With no erection, I am just under 2 inches long. As a woman, which matters most to you. The size a man is when he's limp, or when he's hard?. Does limp size even matter? Once you've seen it hard, the limp size doesn't matter. I think of it as an erection that's sleeping. If he got it hard, I'd know what to expect, so what does it matter what it looks like when its not? Like the person said above though, I agree you should let her see it hard first.
riobikini Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 re: RyTom: " 1. If a man were to ejaculate 10 seconds after penetration, but then takes the time to also give you an orgasm with his fingers or tongue, would you still care that he came to early?" Not at all. RyTom: " 2. What would your reaction be if a man said this to you just before intercourse? "I'm really nervous, and I just want to please you. Can you tell me how to do that"?" I would tell him. In explicit, carefully-chosen-word-for-word detail. RyTom: " 3. My penis is average sized, but I feel that I have unusually small testicles. As a woman, would this matter to you? " It has been my experience, that, the larger a man's penis, the smaller his testicles appear, anyway. (Smile) So, given the "average size" of your penis in relationship to the less-than-average size of your testicles -it just may turn out to be a very impressive sight to any female who first lays eyes on it. Now, it may sound a bit naughty to pull such a "slight-of-hand" on a girl -but don't worry- your 5 1/2 should be plenty enough to earn forgiveness right away, and without question. RyTom: " As a woman, which matters most to you. The size a man is when he's limp, or when he's hard?. Does limp size even matter?" Should I have taken a few moments to think about that before answering? Hard, RyTom, hard. (Smile) -Rio
norajane Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Sex questions for the women out there I'm about to have sex for the first time, and I have some worries. These questions are for all the women out there. 1. If a man were to ejaculate 10 seconds after penetration, but then takes the time to also give you an orgasm with his fingers or tongue, would you still care that he came to early? If you've never had sex before, then this has never happened to you. Why in the world would you be worried about it happening? Relax. You're not going to come 10 seconds after. In any case, my advice is to give her an orgasm with fingers and tongue first, then go for the penetration. If she comes first, she'll already be wet and relaxed, which should make it a lot easier for penetration. Plus, she'll be feeling good and won't be counting the seconds until you come. 2. What would your reaction be if a man said this to you just before intercourse? "I'm really nervous, and I just want to please you. Can you tell me how to do that"?I'd recommend telling her you're nervous and ask her to tell you what she likes. But, you're not going to spin her world with intercourse. Not because it's your first time, but because most women don't come that way, so all she's likely to tell you about that is maybe faster, slower. Good rule is to start with slow thrusts and build up to a faster rhythm. And again, I'd say you should have that kind of conversation long before you get to intercourse. Ask her what she likes in terms of pressure and rhythm from your tongue and fingers. If she knows it's your first time (and you should tell her if she doesn't), she's not going to expect you to know everything. If she's open with her sexuality, she'll tell you where she likes to be touched and how. Granted, you should have already done this part in the past with her... 3. My penis is average sized, but I feel that I have unusually small testicles. As a woman, would this matter to you?How in the world would you have any idea whether your testicles are small, medium, or large? What makes you think they are unusually small? Anyway, no. Women don't care what size the boys are, nor are they even likely to notice. Anyway, hasn't she seen your penis and testicles already? Haven't you two been fooling around with oral and touching? If not, you should have! First time intercourse is a lot better if both of you are familiar with playing with each other's private parts. If you haven't done this, I'd hold off on the intercourse until you're comfortable with touching and looking at each other. 4. This is a follow up question to number 3. At full erection, I am 5 1/2 inches. With no erection, I am just under 2 inches long. As a woman, which matters most to you. The size a man is when he's limp, or when he's hard?. Does limp size even matter?You're a grower, not a shower. I don't think a woman is going to care what your limp size is. Certainly not your girlfriend, who presumably cares about YOU more than your penis size. Relax and enjoy yourself - you're overthinking this and stressing yourself out needlessly. Intercourse isn't the the end all and be all of sex for women. Sure, that part is a lot of fun, but everything else that goes with it is just as much fun. Spend time touching her everywhere, foreplay, fingering, oral, looking into her eyes, laughing, let her explore your body...the intercourse will follow naturally and be one part of a fun experience.
Krytellan Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 4. This is a follow up question to number 3. At full erection, I am 5 1/2 inches. With no erection, I am just under 2 inches long. As a woman, which matters most to you. The size a man is when he's limp, or when he's hard?. Does limp size even matter? I know, I know, I'm a guy, but I can help here. It is an absolute fact the amount a penis enlarges from flacid to hard is inversely correlated to the size when small. That is to mean men who are relatively substantial sized flacid grow much less, and this is fact, then men who are small flacid. Starting point is no indicator of ending point. Probably too much info, but I want to help you out here. I can be anywhere from 1 - 2 inches soft and am just fine erect. I'm sure there are several men here who can attest to being relatively large soft (4 inches +) but end up at an average size hard... thereby "growing" much less. Does that make you feel better? Plus, if she's any good, she'll never see it soft Otherwise, you are getting top-notch advice from the ladies here... nice job gals.
Raleuse Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 1. If a man were to ejaculate 10 seconds after penetration, but then takes the time to also give you an orgasm with his fingers or tongue, would you still care that he came to early? I had this happen to me once but he was pretty good with his fingers so that was ok. I didn't like him any less but I was so confused at the time (as a woman you do wonder if you might be the reason for such short intercourse) I just let him please me. I might have come across as not bothered or something and do wish we could have discussed this in order for me to let him know it wasn't a big deal. 2. What would your reaction be if a man said this to you just before intercourse? "I'm really nervous, and I just want to please you. Can you tell me how to do that"? Well, i will tell him a few good tips but chances are I'll tense up knowing he's stressed so he'll have to use plenty of foreplay to get me to relax. 3. My penis is average sized, but I feel that I have unusually small testicles. As a woman, would this matter to you? Never looked at them. 4. This is a follow up question to number 3. At full erection, I am 5 1/2 inches. With no erection, I am just under 2 inches long. As a woman, which matters most to you. The size a man is when he's limp, or when he's hard?. Does limp size even matter? To tell you the truth, all (not that many) the men I have slept with were hard by the time they "showed" it. Only seen them soft when in longer term relationships (as in running to the bathroom naked - not something you do on the first night normally).
WildKittySub Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 1. If a man were to ejaculate 10 seconds after penetration, but then takes the time to also give you an orgasm with his fingers or tongue, would you still care that he came to early? Try giving her an orgasm before penetration, then you can also finish with your fingers if she wants. Once she's had an orgasm, unless she's much more experienced than you are, she's really not going to want you to go on for an hour and a half. At least most don't. That's a very common misconception men have. 2. What would your reaction be if a man said this to you just before intercourse? "I'm really nervous, and I just want to please you. Can you tell me how to do that"? Does she know this is your first time? If so, I would tell her you are nervous and afraid you won't please her. BUT, the bigger deal you make of it, the more difficult it is going to be for YOU. This is supposed to be fun, try to lay back and enjoy it. Everybody has a first time, we all had to go through it. 3. My penis is average sized, but I feel that I have unusually small testicles. As a woman, would this matter to you? I, for one, think large testicles are icky! Trust me, its not the testicles we are looking at, its the whole package. And by that, I don't mean what it all looks like, but how much you want to please us and are turned on by us. 4. This is a follow up question to number 3. At full erection, I am 5 1/2 inches. With no erection, I am just under 2 inches long. As a woman, which matters most to you. The size a man is when he's limp, or when he's hard?. Does limp size even matter? ERECT And trust me, really large penises are not always appreciated, no matter what porn movies tell you. My husband's is very large and we kind of have always had to "work around" that issue.
Star Gazer Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 It is an absolute fact the amount a penis enlarges from flacid to hard is inversely correlated to the size when small. That is to mean men who are relatively substantial sized flacid grow much less, and this is fact, then men who are small flacid. Starting point is no indicator of ending point. Are you a urologist? Because as much as I love ya, you're absolutely dead wrong. I know from experience. Two of my most significant ex's had virtually the same size ERECT penis, and absolutely different flaccid sizes.
Krytellan Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 Are you a urologist? Because as much as I love ya, you're absolutely dead wrong. I know from experience. Two of my most significant ex's had virtually the same size ERECT penis, and absolutely different flaccid sizes. That is my point. The smaller it starts out, the more it grows. The starting size has no bearing on the final size. Are we on the same page?
unsafe Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 I would think that if you are about to have sex for the first time the girl would have at least played with your penis before so therefor the size won't be a surprise to her. If not then maybe you don't know her well enough. If you just want to get laid..as much as I know men are men, the first time is the first time. Make sure its with someone special. Then be on your marry way. My boyfriend is almost 6 inch when he is hard and i love his penis. I couldn't ask for a better one. He has been the only guy out of 14 to get my off vaginally. I love touching it I love sucking it. Its the perfect size. It doesn't hurt my jaw or mouth while I give him head. So stop worrying so much. You aren't under the average! And I second the advice to at least masterbate and hour before you have sex. or maybe a little longer before but don't wait 5 hours because if you haven't had sex before I bet you would cum in about 1 minute. My boyfriend doesn't have much expeirence with other woman. and when we had sex for the first time he cam in like 2 minutes. But he was so excited that he was able to go again to get me off. And of course if you are willing to use your tongue you'll have no problem. Good luck and be safe!
Lezbean Posted February 7, 2007 Posted February 7, 2007 So what if you spooge within the first 10 seconds. My BF is 49 and he spooges rather quickly, but if I just keep moving and stimulating him he will hard again right away and we do it again. Second time is much more satisfying and he gets two orgasms. Niiiiiiiice!
fatty Posted February 8, 2007 Posted February 8, 2007 Hey man, With you thinking about all of this in your head, you wont even get an erection. The best thing to do is just feel what is good and go with it. To be fair to the girl let her know about your premature ejaculation but man, do what makes YOU feel good. Trust me man. You will get all sorts of answers regarding this issue but it is not going to make a diference until you, yourself accept to feel good rather than worry about this. Just get out there and **** all ready. Come back and tell us about it, that would be the fun part.
RecordProducer Posted February 8, 2007 Posted February 8, 2007 1. If a man were to ejaculate 10 seconds after penetration, but then takes the time to also give you an orgasm with his fingers or tongue, would you still care that he came to early? Since this is your first time and you're young, it doesn't really matter. You'll get your skills in order with time. Good luck and enjoy yourself! Don't beat yourself up with these questions. You don't need a PhD to have sex; even animals do it. Just relax and learn about your body, her body... oh, and don't forget to have fun! 2. What would your reaction be if a man said this to you just before intercourse? "I'm really nervous, and I just want to please you. Can you tell me how to do that"? If she is inexperienced, she doesn't know that yet. But you can ask her with a sexy voice "Baby, what do you like? tell me.. or do you want me to explore your body and find out what it likes?" Don't even think about admitting that you're nervous, not because it's bad for her to know it, but it's bad for her to hear it when she is supposed to get horny. You need to be self-confident, not awkward and ignorant and even admit it. Saying such a thing is a party pooper. And don't say "I just want to please you." Take your time with things. Kiss her all over, touch her all over and a lot, play with her whole body, nibble on her neck, tell her sexy things (whisper), show her that you're enjoying yourself and she excites you... I think the worst turn-off for me is when a guy has afacial expression as if he is doing his bills or cleaning his shoes - no expression at all. During sex I want to see extacy on my partner's face. I want to hear how excited he is. I want tender passion. I assume other women want these things, too, but they will speak for themselves. 3. My penis is average sized, but I feel that I have unusually small testicles. As a woman, would this matter to you?Absolutely not. Forget about it. The nuts don't matter at all. 4. This is a follow up question to number 3. At full erection, I am 5 1/2 inches. With no erection, I am just under 2 inches long. As a woman, which matters most to you. The size a man is when he's limp, or when he's hard?. Does limp size even matter?Is this some kind of a joke? Who cares how big you are when you're not erected?!
Pretty Fly Posted February 9, 2007 Posted February 9, 2007 1. If a man were to ejaculate 10 seconds after penetration, but then takes the time to also give you an orgasm with his fingers or tongue, would you still care that he came to early? I had this happen to me once but he was pretty good with his fingers so that was ok. I didn't like him any less but I was so confused at the time (as a woman you do wonder if you might be the reason for such short intercourse) Errr yes you are the reason because he thinks you're hot and can't hold it in any longer. How can you be confused?
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